I see so many here that complain that they get too many messengers "hundreds and thousands every day" from a dating site. Why do you complain? There is a saying, "you don't know what you've got till it's gone." Maybe you should be grateful. There are some people that don't get any response. Maybe you will be at an age that few will be interested.

Do you realize that your thread is ultimately a complaint about others complaining?

I mean you ask "why do you complain" but then tell them what they should do instead, invalidating any need to answer your question.

Do you see the irony here?


Maybe you should be grateful that they are complaining?
Thereby showing you what kind of person they are?
So it's easier for you to determine if you really want to put in any effort to try and date them?

Do you want to date someone that complains all the time about first world or petty problems?


Not to mention; how are they complaining?
Are they complaining directly to you?
Like "OMG! I'm so sorry I didn't get back to you sooner. I just have to weed through soooooo many messages!"
Do you get mad and stop talking to them because they complained or try to use it as an opportunity to go forward with trying to date them?


Almost 2/3 of the planet doesn't have access to the internet.
I doubt they'd find "not getting any responses" to matter in even the slightest way.


If they're getting so many messages, why would you assume they'd be alone by the time they were of an age that few others would be interested?

thought this was going to be an appreciation thread
name five things you appreciate about the opposite sex

Me too!

this is a social and dating site.

if few are interested, that means they might not be shallow. I prefer to have a few close friends than a thousand acquaintances who really don't give a damn.

in the real world, one doesn't date every person who says hi, hey baby, or even talk to someone who starts off with you're my love/soul mate/whatever.
let's run off to get married/hook up or do each other.
actually if this happened in the real world, many would run the other way.

as this topic is about appreciating people, I appreciate those with whom we interact with in the forums who become our friends.
who take the time to care about the world around them. who become friends albeit long distance.
to all of you, and you know who you are, I'm blessed to have met you here.


5 things I appreciate about fellow minglers:
1. A big heart
2. sharp mind
3. cares about the world
4. positive words
5. makes us smile

5 things I appreciate about the opposite sex...hmm.... I can only think of four... ok 5 if you include the back door..lol..

1. That you're not men
2. That some of you realize you're not men.
3. You facilitate procreation
4. Thanks to you men don't have to breast feed.
5. Besides being physiologically different, some LADIES actually have love and appreciation for men (one at a time).

Seriously, LADIES, Thank you.

1. you understand me when I say " hey my car just made this weird thunka thunka sound going around corner..what does that mean?"

2. things like how to install the tv, dishwasher, or ummm anything electronic makes sense to you even if the directions are written in another language

3. you can read a map without turning it sideways or upside down

4. driving in downtown five lane traffic? you don't even bat an eye at

5. doing the taxes does not send you into a fit of rage and frustration



hey don't judge me

It annoys me because it's obvious they didn't bother to read my profile. I stated I am only here to chat in the forums and not looking for anything. I still get guys emailing me asking what am I looking for

would you really want to get a 100's or 1,000's of daily responses?. How in the world would you manage that, with work, life and everything else going on.

I am sure there are women on this site who get bombarded with messages. And if it were me I would delete most of them too.

Who has the time for that?

Why do I feel this is directed at me, especially since you dissed my thread in the 30 and 40 Somethings forum? :-)

I only mention my messages whenever someone complains that it's rude not to answer every single person who inboxes. I always state that since many women receive a high volume of messages, they neither have the time nor the desire to answer every message. Also, if you answer some people for the sole purpose of rejecting them, they get nasty or may misinterpret the answer as possible interest, further complicating the rejection process. Hence, silence is the answer.

If I complain about my messages it involves scammers. I also need a personal assistant to help me save the nice messages into my Word file. I copy and paste the sweet, complimentary messages. Currently, I have fallen behind and I am approaching 20 pages or 300 messages I would like to save. That's from the past couple of weeks alone and not including all the messages which I deleted.

Awww.. how do you ever find time for little old me..?..

Aren't you busy checking and mating?

yeah.. you can get many mail is ok.but i came to realize that many of new mail are scammers.and are not real serious... that is why the complain.