Hello,

My name is Del. I think people in general, do not accept others as they are, but tolerate them, and attempt to change them to fit their own personal idea of who and what they perceive them to be.

I believe we would be more prone to accepting others as they are, if we respected, listened, complimented, acknowledged, and appreciated them for who they are and what they have to offer.However, I believe we need to start with ourselves first.

Please post your thoughts.

Cheers,

Del :)

I am me, and only me. Take me as I am or watch me as I go. I'll be the one to love you the most, but trust me...I won't be the one to stick around forever for you to realize it. I dance in the rain, and cry during chick flicks. I am a girl, I am myself, there is no changing it. Accept me, or don't. I won't change for you, or anyone else. I'm a lover, not a fighter...but I will always fight for what I love and believe in. I wish, I hope, I dream. I am a girl, living this thing we call life.

in the sense that we must accept people will be flawed, I agree, to love is to love with flaws and all(those flaws one is AWARE of anyhow)


but to love is not to remain stagnant and stuck in time,, there should be an expectation of growth in ourselves, as well as our partners,, if our relationship is ever to grow


I certainly strive to bring out the best in a partner, as I hope they will do with me,,,

I don't want them to just blindly 'accept' those things they know I have inside me and am not using,, or those things that are causing me more harm than good in my life

how we approach that type of inspirational/motivational position can be tricky though, it can range from overbearing and belittling to loving and concerned,,,

I am what I am baby

love me
hate me
or get outta my way darling
cause I gotts stuff to do

Beautifully put ladies. You are all very wise and poetic. Thanx for sharing :)

Well said, I think it also needs to be said it can't be done alone or in isolation. Change doesn't occur in a vacuum, acceptance doesn't come entirely by oneself.

Well said, I think it also needs to be said it can't be done alone or in isolation. Change doesn't occur in a vacuum, acceptance doesn't come entirely by oneself.

To a point, but sometimes they might have that one flaw, that makes us want to turn the other way. They could be all you ever wanted and more, but some are too pushy, too pervy, etc. I don't mind small flaws. Flaws that hardly matter. :shrug:. Not forgetting some have really dangerous flaws.

this is really another of those semantics arguments

but here goes

tolerate:2.believe or come to recognize (an opinion, explanation, etc.) as valid or correct


so, I dont believe we have to 'accept' everything everyone does,
and I think that is different than 'accepting' the person doing it

though the two are often intertwined to guilt people into an obligation to accept whatever another person wants to do or say,,,

NO... I have found the really happy and content people, don't bother trying to change someone we just accept them for where they are at and if proven to be toxic, we distance ourselves from them.



Absolutely...We need to work on ourselves before we ever thing to change someone else..

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