If you love someone who is controlling whatever that may be how do you overcome abuse

There are MANY control freaks out there, both genders.

I would say, pick your war.
Give them all the small battles.

in texas we have many calibers to choose from for handling abusers

SERIOUSLY, if you are being abused, don't come to a community forum for answers or help. no one deserves to be abused especially you, so find a battered woman's shelter. get professional help. online is not going to cut it, you need real time help. real people with real solutions

after the professionals have gotten you back on your feet, come mingle. godspeed, bulldog

^^^^^^^^ this right here.

even if you love that controlling person, love yourself more and seek help.

it's easy to lose your sense of self in a destructive relationship.

value yourself for the worthwhile person you are.

Control freaks are a pet peeve of mine, and I will have nothing to do with them, whatsoever.
Esebulldog pretty much said it.
Get real help from real people, and get away from the controlling abuser.

...these 2 have said it all!!!

egomaniacs tend to either try to dominate people or depend on them far too much.

this cycle only adds to their insecurity over time, as they drive away those they try to dominate, and are disappointed by those they depend on too much as not every need can be met.

i don't see a way of overcoming this type of abuse, besides getting the egomaniac the help he needs. this can be pretty fkng tough.

I have people trying to control me all the time..


((NO))..phD.. LET GO OF MY ARM. DAMMIT.. you're not going to keep me from saying what I need to say...


.... see always trying to keep me down.... but I'm standing my ground firm... no more shall I be.. silent..
. no more will I stand in the shadows..
.... no more will I..ohh... is that butterscotch ice cream...
.... with real whippedcream...


YES...


..... OK I GOT TO GO..... something something blah blah blah the end..


.... how come your Ice Cream has more butterscotch.. running through it than mine...lol
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Well said....

May I add...to anyone looking to get in a relationship...always have a financial safety net set aside just for you...and in the case of single parents,..your kids. Your OWN money, a personal savings account, hell, money buried in a mason jar, whatever. Point being, have a way out if that "perfect" relationship goes sour. Ive seen too many people get "locked in" with an abusive spouse....they end up depending on that spouse for everything: money, transportation, housing, etc.....
Have your own money, transportation, and housing BEFORE getting into a relationship....and keep it after getting into one.
I know this totally goes against the "we share everything" relationship mentality, but, better safe than sorry.

Realize that being treated this way creeps up insidiously, gradually,and worsens over time as you become numb to the way it is making you feel. Realize that abuse is not just physical, but mental and emotional. Dig down deep inside,and know that you deserve better, and get professional help. Those professionals have seen and heard it all, and know the correct paths to put you on and help you through. YOU DESERVE BETTER!

Blackmail or intimidation usually does the trick. Good luck.