Does this kind of man appeal to ladies here?

A man who makes you something valuable instead of just buying you gifts?

or

Is it boring to be with a guy like this? Does material security matter or does the time and effort in making things mean more?

I certainly do not know how women see this.. but to me.. he's a tightwade.

the title states 'practical men' perhaps it's me, but the phrase makes me think about a man who thinks ahead and weighs options. who knows how to take care of things, practical solutions. so yes, that's appealing.

material security implies something different than the kinds of gifts received. a successful painter, doctor or lawyer could have material security.

a heartfelt gift is something to treasure whether it was made or store bought. it's really that a person thought about me and cared enough to share of themselves.

many years ago, we had a gift exchange at retirement home where I worked. if we wanted to participate, we put in our name and 3 suggestions of what we would like. the limit was ten dollars. the elderly head cook got my name and knew I collect unicorns. she had her husband carve me one as a paperweight. to this day it's something I treasure.

I sometimes do crochet work. I made someone a baby blanket for their baby shower. they still have it because it was a labor of love.

this Valentine's day I received a beautiful locket and a hand made metal sculpture. I treasure both equally. both have special meaning. the sculpture was designed with me in mind, it is at my desk to be enjoyed by me and all who see it.
people say it shows the thought and effort put into making it and is definitely a reflection he knows my style.
the locket is of two hearts and a symbol of finding love when it was least expected.

Well some of this also depends on your love language, and everyone is different. Good topic. But still, time and effort is universally important.

Five languages of love:
. Quality Time (Intimate talking, spending time)
. Physical Touch (Not just sex; do you enjoy hugging and kissing?)
. Gifts (Self explanatory)
. Affirmations (as in compliments and the like)
. Acts of Service (Serve and/or cater to eachother)

Which of the above five ‘languages of love�� makes you feel ��the most loved�� or cared
about ??? These languages�� go a long way in a relationship. When people don't get them, they feel ��empty and unappreciated. Their ��love-tank�� needs to be ��filled back up again��. Just as a car must run on gas, when the gas tank is empty, the car will stop running. It is natural for people to show love or give love in what ever ��their�� love language is, and not natural for them to give love in a language which is not their language. You can find out what a person's love language is by seeing how they give love. Here's how it works: If your love language is physical touch, and I show you love in buying you gifts, you will not appreciate it or feel ��full��, until ��your�� love language is fulfilled first; as in, I must give you the physical touch first, before I give you the gifts. And vice versa!!! A person must be willing to go ��out of their comfort zone and do what is ��un-natural�� for them, in this respect in order to make your mate feel really loved and cared for and ��filled. This stuff really works!!! When the ��love-tank�� is ��empty��, it must be filled again. And over and over again and again and again continuously throughout the relationship. Everybody has a primary and secondary love language. The primary is the one which makes you feel ��most loved��. Most men's primaries are physical touch hahahaha. My primary is Quality Time and my secondary is Gifts. And one of my favorite gifts is flowers.

I baked my ex a birthday cake once.
. she just looked at it ,smiled at me and said... silly !!..we can't serve that to are....dinner guest...














. of course I was standing in the cake naked at the time

Dreamrena:

I love your post... it's so beautiful and meaningful and such good points ... so true ...

Is the reason why I would love for someone to buy me a prayer box ... someone whom I meet, which grows into a long term and meaningful relationship

I want him to pick it out himself, from his heart

Sure, I could go out and buy one myself... that is bigger ... to fit all my prayers ... but having someone who loves me pick it out would be special to me, and mean a lot more and be sentimental etc.

He will know that I love to write my prayers

And I also love surprises So it would also be great and mean so much if he would surprise me with it lol

My prayer box is too small ...

...wow.. you could have just said I like getting flowers..
Lol..

fixed my post about love languages ... now you can really read it and understand it lol

lol no1phD

no1phD - women usually have 10,000 words a day... compared to men you cutie lol

.. and that's usually before lunchtime..lol..jk.

I don't know if you intended to but the 'hahahaha' at the end felt demeaning to this man.

I would add massage to your physical touch examples.

Anyone can buy something, but to make it would be so personal, cos' it would involve thoughts, as to whether I would appreciate it, use it and what are my likes and dislikes!

If someone could really afford something, but still made the effort to make a gift, than he is good with his hands .... he is definitely more than appealing! And someone who is good with his hands, would not be boring!