i was married at 17 divorced at24 been in a few long term relationships 1 on 1 or so I thought. Well then this past 10 years I've tried 2 different open relationships and you'd think ( no way can I get cheated on this way ) WRONG. is there anyone who wants the best of both worlds the person thats your true one and only plus a life were with rule and guidelines the two of you can share sexual passion together/w others or am I forever going to be confused

I believe that you can want whatever you want. That being said you don't get whatever you want. For me it's simple math, 2+1≠2. It never does. It can =3, 4 etc but most often equals -1 or in otherwords the subtraction of you from your relationship. It's just too volatile to balance itself out. Women will compete with eachother and men with eachother. My _____ is better, he/she loves mine more than yours. Lie to yourself all you want, it either leads to things being done behind your back (which may have been the attraction that lead to the menage a trios in the first place) or the person realizing they (think) they can have whatever they want which leaves you, -1.

i understand what your saying, however i have known since almost birth that the things a womans body is for is not always up to her. and this lesson seems to be an on going lesson that somehow makes it easy to believe that physically sharing touches in any way is no different then a hand shake. can a single hand shake make you sick , make you feel dirty. I believe that one day a single person will win what is most important, My heart, respect, love, honesty,and who knows what all else the will win. i just don't know if i believe any more that i want others telling what to do with my body when so far even they have not always treated my body right

perhaps practicing self love, at least until you figure it all out..

that's pretty f***d up.
Good luck to you

Isn't the very concept of an "open" relationship, to cheat, with the partner's knowledge and consent?

Can someone please 'splain to me,
how a person who willfully engages in an "open" relationship, can get cheated on?

This whole post confused me....lol

I think if a open relationship is what your looking for then by all means you should go for it, its your life and you deserve to live it any way you desire. Good luck in your search.

personally i'll take 1 on 1

I agree, I think an open relationship means you can both do what you want with other people. That's why it's called a open relationship. With that being said, how can it be considered as cheating??

Doesn't sound like much of a relationship, if respect and trust are left out.

So you really wanted a " open.. but closed" relationship... we're everyone can cheat.. but nobody can..

and you couldn't find that ???