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I don't think distance was the issue. We live about 1000 miles apart, and have visited each other's cities years ago. It was actually when I was telling him that I had looked into flights to go and visit him, that he started doing his Houdini act, so it seems to me that he's with someone, and couldn't have me around. I "met" him on another dating site, and when I checked on there one time after I hadn't heard from him for 3 weeks, noticed that he had been online within the last hour, so doesn't that seem like he's on the prowl for someone else? I promptly went off it. I wondered why he was on a Canadian dating site when he lives in the US. Maybe all he was looking for was someone to flirt with online without any intent to meet, but boy, he sure seemed sincere. I appreciate everyone's insight and speculation. I'm feeling a little rejected by the whole experience, and could use some support. No more long distance dating for me! you shouldn't feel bad over it, it's not your fault... just chalk it up to his loss and move on to the next... 
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I don't think distance was the issue. We live about 1000 miles apart, and have visited each other's cities years ago. It was actually when I was telling him that I had looked into flights to go and visit him, that he started doing his Houdini act, so it seems to me that he's with someone, and couldn't have me around. I "met" him on another dating site, and when I checked on there one time after I hadn't heard from him for 3 weeks, noticed that he had been online within the last hour, so doesn't that seem like he's on the prowl for someone else? I promptly went off it. I wondered why he was on a Canadian dating site when he lives in the US. Maybe all he was looking for was someone to flirt with online without any intent to meet, but boy, he sure seemed sincere. I appreciate everyone's insight and speculation. I'm feeling a little rejected by the whole experience, and could use some support. No more long distance dating for me! you shouldn't feel bad over it, it's not your fault... just chalk it up to his loss and move on to the next...
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There is an old saying "moderation in all things". Some skype may be fun but it doesn't fill the belly. Phone chat is nice, but face to face is true companionship. An affair is not necessarily a "love affair". True love needs some of everything. Long distance must be mixed with zero distance to work.
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i've had the same thing happen to me. so it's not just the guys.
for what ever reason they get cold feet.whether it's something they aren't telling you or just plain fear of real life? who knows |
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Why do some / many women want to seperate and take all the relationship property brought together including the children ? , If the man ****s Up or dosent make Superman status ? MAYBE The Women makes the man dissapear ?
 
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i've met a few gals on here in person.thay turned out to be great friends. but this one gal i hung out wsith for a week.i really like her and she seemed in to me.we were making all kinds of pans.but by the fourth day she started to ***** about every thing. not really anything about me. she just seem piss off about her life family etc. could'nt deal with it. so slowly grab my stuff and told her i was not feeling well and would see her next week.i never went back.some of us guys just cant deal with CRAZY AZZ WOMAN. JMHO..
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Edited by
joethebricky
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Mon 03/09/15 03:51 PM
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One thing for certain is that in this world the good people far outweigh the bad.
Everyone of us with take the wrong path occasionally, but there's always a way back to the right path, if you want it. |
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One thing for certain is that in this world the good people far outweigh the bad. Everyone of us with take the wrong path occasionally, but there's always a way back to the right path, if you want it. Can anyone show me the direction to the right path?... 
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One thing for certain is that in this world the good people far outweigh the bad. Everyone of us with take the wrong path occasionally, but there's always a way back to the right path, if you want it. Pollyanna lives !! 
I can only hope that you are right and I am wrong - sure been wrong often enough 
I am kinda thinking the exact opposite lately.. that the good are real hard to find
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One thing for certain is that in this world the good people far outweigh the bad. Everyone of us with take the wrong path occasionally, but there's always a way back to the right path, if you want it. Can anyone show me the direction to the right path?...
only you, paths can be many things, just depends on how you see the path your on...
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One thing for certain is that in this world the good people far outweigh the bad. Everyone of us with take the wrong path occasionally, but there's always a way back to the right path, if you want it. Can anyone show me the direction to the right path?...
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One thing for certain is that in this world the good people far outweigh the bad. Everyone of us with take the wrong path occasionally, but there's always a way back to the right path, if you want it. Can anyone show me the direction to the right path?...
aww now basha it is the one with the daisy petals all over it and the bluebirds flying above - yes that one can you see it ??
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Never trust anyone until they have proven to you that they can be trusted. I wish you better luck next time
i think that's wrong, you have to extend some trust to receive it... it's always a give and take with trust... I think we just cant take what happens on public forums so seriously,,,,they may be the real deal and they may be a creep,, hard to tell if its only online and one hasn't observed someones interactions with others for any period of time,,, i agree, until you meet, you just don't really know... expectations can be a bummer I also think it's wrong to never trust until someone has proven themselves trustworthy...I trust everyone until they give me a reason not to...By giving immediate trust, I mean I'm giving them the benefit of the doubt, not the key to my safety deposit box (pun IS intended  )...
I totally agree with Harmony...With Moe I feel the same about expectations, but I do think if you spend enough time and you take advantage of all the communication tools offered, you can fall in love with someone you have yet to meet...It's a slippery slope because it can turn out to be love based on false truths, but it's still love...Please don't yell at me!! 
so you think it's ok to fall in love with a computer screen? i mean, thats all your really doing if you were fall for someone you've never met...
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Never trust anyone until they have proven to you that they can be trusted. I wish you better luck next time
i think that's wrong, you have to extend some trust to receive it... it's always a give and take with trust... I think we just cant take what happens on public forums so seriously,,,,they may be the real deal and they may be a creep,, hard to tell if its only online and one hasn't observed someones interactions with others for any period of time,,, i agree, until you meet, you just don't really know... expectations can be a bummer I also think it's wrong to never trust until someone has proven themselves trustworthy...I trust everyone until they give me a reason not to...By giving immediate trust, I mean I'm giving them the benefit of the doubt, not the key to my safety deposit box (pun IS intended )...
I totally agree with Harmony...With Moe I feel the same about expectations, but I do think if you spend enough time and you take advantage of all the communication tools offered, you can fall in love with someone you have yet to meet...It's a slippery slope because it can turn out to be love based on false truths, but it's still love...Please don't yell at me!!
so you think it's ok to fall in love with a computer screen? i mean, thats all your really doing if you were fall for someone you've never met...
i'm glad your happy!
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I don't think distance was the issue. We live about 1000 miles apart, and have visited each other's cities years ago. It was actually when I was telling him that I had looked into flights to go and visit him, that he started doing his Houdini act, so it seems to me that he's with someone, and couldn't have me around. I "met" him on another dating site, and when I checked on there one time after I hadn't heard from him for 3 weeks, noticed that he had been online within the last hour, so doesn't that seem like he's on the prowl for someone else? I promptly went off it. I wondered why he was on a Canadian dating site when he lives in the US. Maybe all he was looking for was someone to flirt with online without any intent to meet, but boy, he sure seemed sincere. I appreciate everyone's insight and speculation. I'm feeling a little rejected by the whole experience, and could use some support. No more long distance dating for me! Don't feel rejected, feel good knowing you are open to and ready for a relationship...Some guys disappear cause they are still married, some do it because they don't want to hurt your feelings...Some leave because they are scared of commitment...Some are not emotionally available, as in recently divorced or addicted to booze or drugs...There are lots of reason and not all of them have something to do with you...AND, men are not the only ones who do this, women pull the disappearing act too... 
Hang in there, you're beautiful and you're ready to find love...It will happen ...
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I don't know why they disappear..
. but when they do.. .. I'm pretty sure the end up in 2 kids basement... at least that's what I've heard..lol |
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I don't know why they disappear.. . but when they do.. .. I'm pretty sure the end up in 2 kids basement... at least that's what I've heard..lol it puts the lotion on it... 
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Edited by
WonderWoman48
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Mon 03/09/15 05:51 PM
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I don't think distance was the issue. We live about 1000 miles apart, and have visited each other's cities years ago. It was actually when I was telling him that I had looked into flights to go and visit him, that he started doing his Houdini act, so it seems to me that he's with someone, and couldn't have me around. I "met" him on another dating site, and when I checked on there one time after I hadn't heard from him for 3 weeks, noticed that he had been online within the last hour, so doesn't that seem like he's on the prowl for someone else? I promptly went off it. I wondered why he was on a Canadian dating site when he lives in the US. Maybe all he was looking for was someone to flirt with online without any intent to meet, but boy, he sure seemed sincere. I appreciate everyone's insight and speculation. I'm feeling a little rejected by the whole experience, and could use some support. No more long distance dating for me! Don't feel rejected, feel good knowing you are open to and ready for a relationship...Some guys disappear cause they are still married, some do it because they don't want to hurt your feelings...Some leave because they are scared of commitment...Some are not emotionally available, as in recently divorced or addicted to booze or drugs...There are lots of reason and not all of them have something to do with you...AND, men are not the only ones who do this, women pull the disappearing act too...
Hang in there, you're beautiful and you're ready to find love...It will happen ...
Some men are just A-holes. And there is nothing you can do about it. Period. End of story. |
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and then they wonder why we just .. disappear.... makes a running start for the window..lol..
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