it's not just about weight. me personally, have too much baggage, ie children, and sadly most women get put off with that, there maybe more than that, but its not all just about what size you are mate. there is someone out there for everyone, but who says that person is on here? i agree, just chatting on forums is better than sitting at inbox. i may not be the best looker on here, but i am hoping one day someone will see the person inside me and not judge on looks alone :)

It sure seems to be a huge problem from what people are saying. It's not like I'm not trying but it's one of the most difficult things in the world to do, let alone all the suffering involved. It would sure be encouraging if someone came along who cared and offered support but didn't make a big deal out of it either. I'm not a shallow person either, someone's outward appearance is the least important thing for me.

I just read your profile and you seem like an absolutely lovely person. I don't think you are unable to find a woman because of your looks. Let me explain- There are many beautiful people (based on society's standards, not mine) who are unable to find the right person too because people usually look for more than just looks. Like you mentioned on your profile, people are looking for mates with similar level of intelligence as them, with certain personality traits, certain lifestyles, etc... It's important to make sure that you are looking in the right places.

PS- A few extra pounds is not synonymous to unattractiveness. You're cute ;)

what they said.!!! what the internet needs is such warm caring peeps like them.!! cheers

I did ask you a question in this thread on page 2 could you read that and reply to it please.


And it's not just about your weight, I think some woman may be concerned for your health and not the way you look.

I had thought I found someone shortly after joining the first time, ended up being totally wrong and it took me this long to feel up to trying again.

All dating sites are a waste of time in my opinion. The amount of time invested verses the amount of reward is a joke. And that's coming from someone with extraordinarily good looks too.

I concur.

More jokes and get that smile off your face.
Sounds conflicting I know. woman are conflicting!
If you want to attract "crazy" you got to be a little crazy.

I agree with Mikey too.
There is someone crazy out there for everyone..erm,something to that affect.

I can't tell if you guys are trying to tell me to give up or what. I've got a lot going against me from what I'm hearing and being told to cheer up about it is difficult. I see incredibly unhealthy relationships all around me and I can't imagine what it is that seems to hold them together. Do people sincerely want tremendous, red-flag-raising dysfunction in relationships or do they tolerate it for what I can only assume is having arm candy to show off in public and probably a very robust sex life?

Here's what you get with me: Someone who would sooner die than abuse my partner the way I see others doing on a daily basis. Someone who values a partner for all of their attributes and won't denigrate them for having imperfections because I don't have any arrogant illusions about being perfect myself. Someone open to new experiences and wanting to share those with others. If that's not good enough, I don't know what is.

See that Sheep in my profile picture?
Notice he's not smiling? thats right, and eack Bighorn has about 20 females.Woman want a protector by nature.Masculinity,You're too FN nice!
I will give you a look into the female pysci from the extreme.
How many marrage proposals have you had lately? How many marriage proposals does your average serial killer get in the pen?
Believe it or not,quite a few.
When a woman says, "I wants to be treated right",
that statement is not what you think.I think you need to
figure that out first,then you will be on the right track.
Sure it will be subjective. You are listening to what YOU think they're saying but thats not what they're saying.

Not sure how many photos you have available but the more the better. Show your personality...not everyone is superficial. Many women would rather be with someone who has a kind heart and treats them right then the guys who are full of themselves and you are supposed to be nothing but an arm piece. I'm sure there is someone out there for you. And remember, if you are meant to be with someone you will be. Good luck

Okay, I'm getting a lot of mixed messages and a lot of insults and detraction, lots of thinly veiled misogyny and stuff that while is pleasantly optimistic is not as effective as people seem to believe. I don't want to have to change a million and one things about myself because then I'm not really being me. If women would rather say "I do" to a serial killer than someone like me, we are indeed a sorry lot.

You are ok but need to shed a little weight if you won't mind,

You should delete that bit about not having a car and them picking you up to go places. What was you thinking

Your profile looks fine to me. I think it is good to be honest from the beginning and leave the part in about not having a car. You are in school and have goals. That is attractive.

Honesty is what I was going for. I guess it was too much to hope for people not giving me grief about my weight, though.

"dude" do you like who you are.?..
. I mean of course we all have things we would like to change about ourselfs... but in general do you like you..?..

I read your profile and it looks good. You are honest and upfront, that is what matters the most. You will find that special someone...just give it time, don't rush it. She may be on this site or she may be the girl you see walking down the street, but when you find her you will know. Never give up....just be you and you will be fine.

If your happy with the way you look and your health don't worry about it. The right women will see you for you. Not your weight.