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Topic: Trust or Lust?
unknown_romeo Joined Wed 03/26/14 Posts: 7691	Mon 02/23/15 05:00 PM
There's always a question in the start of a relationship whether you trust that person. People are betrayed by a partner they have been with for decades or days. What's the difference. The answer is people are unpredictable and relationships are a gamble. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. i agree 100%

Foursure Joined Fri 01/09/15 Posts: 3231	Mon 02/23/15 05:30 PM
OK here goes.... I think it is obvious that mostly we start relationships due to our lust. Our attraction to the other is a mix of physical and other things but it is driven by desire. A physical desire. But we also trust. We trust that our instincts that have made us desire that person so much will be correct in trusting that person. You go with your gut - mostly. Sometimes you get proven right. Sometimes you get proven wrong. c'est la vie That's Life.

no1phD Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27442	Mon 02/23/15 05:35 PM
lust! trust !..I'm so confused...closes the door behind himself slowly.. . goes over to the corner.. .. pulls his Kleenex box close to his chest.... slides down the wall to the floor.... curls up in the fetal position.. ... so so confused..

tta1128 Joined Sun 12/14/14 Posts: 514	Mon 02/23/15 05:48 PM
lust! trust !..I'm so confused...closes the door behind himself slowly.. . goes over to the corner.. .. pulls his Kleenex box close to his chest.... slides down the wall to the floor.... curls up in the fetal position.. ... so so confused.. You are so needy. I'm afraid for you. bwahaha

smartwithsparks Joined Sat 06/14/14 Posts: 2439	Mon 02/23/15 05:48 PM
lust! trust !..I'm so confused...closes the door behind himself slowly.. . goes over to the corner.. .. pulls his Kleenex box close to his chest.... slides down the wall to the floor.... curls up in the fetal position.. ... so so confused.. {{pats No1s Shoulder ,,Says Its Gonna Be OK}}

no1phD Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27442	Mon 02/23/15 05:51 PM
lust! trust !..I'm so confused...closes the door behind himself slowly.. . goes over to the corner.. .. pulls his Kleenex box close to his chest.... slides down the wall to the floor.... curls up in the fetal position.. ... so so confused.. You are so needy. I'm afraid for you. bwahaha .. yes be afraid.. be very .afraid

no1phD Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27442	Mon 02/23/15 05:52 PM
lust! trust !..I'm so confused...closes the door behind himself slowly.. . goes over to the corner.. .. pulls his Kleenex box close to his chest.... slides down the wall to the floor.... curls up in the fetal position.. ... so so confused.. {{pats No1s Shoulder ,,Says Its Gonna Be OK}} ..you. promise.. you're not just saying it.. to get me to come in off the ledge are you....lol .

unknown_romeo Joined Wed 03/26/14 Posts: 7691	Mon 02/23/15 05:53 PM
lust! trust !..I'm so confused...closes the door behind himself slowly.. . goes over to the corner.. .. pulls his Kleenex box close to his chest.... slides down the wall to the floor.... curls up in the fetal position.. ... so so confused..

ALBYAK Joined Wed 01/27/10 Posts: 283	Mon 02/23/15 08:42 PM
How do you know if you trust or you lust the person when you're starting a relationship? lust,,,guess its what you want trust comes from something you see Do you really understand what she is saying...I sure do not! No I Didnt.. But Tried My Damndest To Answer What I Thought Was The Question I have been to the gym for three hours, the grocery store, and came home and fixed diner....and you are still on this WTF this is the craziest topic I have ever seen...there was no comparison to begin with in what she started with and she has led you nowhere but in circles.... I give up

dreamerana Joined Sat 09/21/13 Posts: 21544	Mon 02/23/15 08:57 PM
How do you know if you trust or you lust the person when you're starting a relationship? Estelle, this is coming from someone who had to learn the hard way. learn t trust yourself, value yourself and have realistic expectations of you and what you want. when you learn to love yourself, only then will you be able to move forward and build a positive relationship. it took me a long time to realize this. hopefully, unlike me, you won't waste half of your life fearing what you most wish for. good luck

smartwithsparks Joined Sat 06/14/14 Posts: 2439	Mon 02/23/15 08:57 PM
lust! trust !..I'm so confused...closes the door behind himself slowly.. . goes over to the corner.. .. pulls his Kleenex box close to his chest.... slides down the wall to the floor.... curls up in the fetal position.. ... so so confused.. {{pats No1s Shoulder ,,Says Its Gonna Be OK}} ..you. promise.. you're not just saying it.. to get me to come in off the ledge are you....lol . I Promise

lx123145 Joined Fri 01/30/15 Posts: 14	Tue 02/24/15 01:16 AM
If there is true love between 2 persons then , lust no more important.. You just want to live lestless moment with your partner..

DadCat Joined Thu 02/12/15 Posts: 501	Tue 02/24/15 01:42 AM
Trust is the basis for any relationship. I suggest anyone wanting to understand this concept search the internet for: "Building the Child" If you are going to start a relationship with someone there is always a risk and excitement, this is why trust and lust are connected. At least for women, men are not really that way.. This statement is sexist as it makes an attempt to assign behavior to one gender or the other without offering any substance or supporting reasoning. It is not valid. It is a belief that should be discarded.

panchovanilla Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 5396	Tue 02/24/15 05:39 AM
You have to go with your gut feeling. Ted Bundy counted on women having poor instincts. So did my ex.

Duttoneer Joined Sun 07/01/12 Posts: 4984	Tue 02/24/15 06:46 AM Edited by Duttoneer on Tue 02/24/15 06:49 AM
How do you know if you trust or you lust the person when you're starting a relationship? There must be an attraction before anyone wants to start a relationship, but the amount of trust may be small in comparison, trust is something that is built up over time. If you have any doubts or lack of trust before starting a relationship then it's probably better not to in my opinion.

tta1128 Joined Sun 12/14/14 Posts: 514	Tue 02/24/15 04:45 PM
lust! trust !..I'm so confused...closes the door behind himself slowly.. . goes over to the corner.. .. pulls his Kleenex box close to his chest.... slides down the wall to the floor.... curls up in the fetal position.. ... so so confused.. You are so needy. I'm afraid for you. bwahaha .. yes be afraid.. be very .afraid Give me a sec, I'm fixin' to be skeered.

LogicAndLust Joined Thu 01/15/15 Posts: 44	Tue 02/24/15 06:17 PM
I prefer to stick with Logic and Lust. Trust requires some level of faith in the person. Why do you want to believe in them? Such expectations set us up for disappointments. Whereas in Lust we can offer what we want to offer, and in Logic we can accept what is being offer to us. Our mind is not confused in this state.