I agree - I don't buy it either. Facebook is where you would chat with friends, or use Gmail to either e-mail or IM. These sites are for finding a partner.

Guys read the profiles, but we ignore much of what we read because women on these sites tend to have unreasonable expectations (which is why they are on these sites to start with) and we would never reach out to anyone if we strictly followed their criteria.

It's like when you search for a job and the employer wants the sun and the moon from every candidate. People without all the qualifications apply for the job anyway because they know that nobody could satisfy all that is requested so they give it a shot and hope to be the lucky one.

Are we supposed to read the words and not just look at the pictures, now you tell me.

well, i see that point, it's what they want, not what we want... if they want to chat, it's not up to anyone else to say they want differently... but either way, your not getting into their pants without chatting first...

I can see you're carrying some baggage regarding the behavior of your wife. You are attempting to impose behavior on others based upon your personal beliefs. I cannot agree with you.

There are options in creating a profile which allow for 'friendships'. I personally make it clear I am looking for a relationship. That is my choice and other are permitted to make their own personal choice as well.

I have already made many friends here even though I seek a relationship and will continue to do that. They are my companions now. This is just as I live my life outside of this website.

This website allows for friendships, relationships, marriage and intimate encounters between Men and Women, Men and Men and Women and Women. You are welcome to find a more suitable website that fits your needs and wants.
Watch the door as you exit, please.
Thank you.

Limit who can send you mail.

http://mingle2.com/inbox/filters

Then you should change your profile so it doesn't say you're here looking for friends, because you know, this place isn't for that.

once I get my new glasses then yes..
. but up to now.... if I squint really hard and hold my phone up really close to my face.... well then my phone just fogs over....
. so looking forward to my glasses..lol

Last time I saw a haircut like that it was on a legoman figure!

I for one read entire profile. Its the only way to know more about the person.

maybe there hoping to rain in a young godest like your self ppffff,try putting up filters, prob solved..JMHO

If you are wondering why women don't respond to your messages.
READ THE PROFILE CAREFULLY BEFORE WRITTING!!!

Start by reading her profile, BEFORE you look at the pictures. As you read think of questions you would ask the person about what they have written. First, try to include something in your first email to prove you read their profile.

Do NOT make your emails generic, always reference specifics about the lady in question so she knows you're not a spammer or serial e-mailer.
Don'��t use the same message over and over again. The truth is, girls are smarter than you�'re giving us credit for. And we can spot a re-usable message a mile away.

If you get your message right, then your chances of receiving a response will be much greater.

I think I'm lost...Is this the Rules thread?

no i think its the white godessss thread, or maybe not,,now iam so confused.

Easily done in the threads these days...All tangled up!

Have a great day!

No one has pointed out that if this site were only for dating then there would not be an option in 'looking for' to state you are looking for friendship. Many of us just enjoy chatting in the forums. I personally have only answered one private message since I have been here and that was because he said something quite witty.

You r so delecious

I read profiles....now I'm scarred forever...

I read entire profiles... The thing is OP instead of getting all upset over it just put the filter on there so they can't contact you.
I have to tell you I am a lot older than you and I have dated 10 years older than me married someone that was 24 years older. Great marriage til his death and I have dated considerably younger. I honestly believe when we get to a certain age. It becomes a moot point. Common interests, beliefs, energy etc... plays more into the equation...

Now for the other rant that a person can't be on this site unless they are dating.. No way.. This site was originally "Just Say Hi" a chat place that has evolved into dating there is a lot of us out here that remembers it well and to be honest I have been here while in a relationship and didn't matter a bit changed my profile problem solved.