How can somebody that cares a great deal that they are really sick, but not allow them out there to be with them? They keep saying that they do not know how long they are going to be around but still does not allow me out there. Why? Do they not know how heart breaking it is hear that?

maybe they are tryin to save you the pain of seeing them go.

Well, for me, when Im sick i dont want anyone around, but that may not be their reason, maybe an underlying reasan?

The pain of not being able to meet them at all hurts far worst I tell you.

been there done that whisper i think thumpers right

look,, i have issues that im dealing with, and when it comes to them i dont want people knowin im sick, or hurt bad, or whatever. i dont want people worrying about me. its my job to take care of myself. but i see your point

Possibly to spare you the pain of watching them die..watching someone who is very ill and not long for this world is very hard to do especially if you care for them.

awwwwwww whisp

Just be there and keep talking to them...
Maybe that person will change their mind and want you around.
Sorry you are hurting...

Having had a serious illness, I can tell you, though it won't make you feel any better, that it's incredibly complicated. He probably doesn't want you to see him sick or weak or anything like that, he wants to try to spare your feelings as much as possible, maybe he'd be afraid you'd be there only out of pity, maybe he's afraid that you'll see him ill and decide you can't handle it and he'll lose you, there's a million things. I lost a lot of people in my life to my illness, and it hurt like hell. It became incredibly difficult to trust. My only advise is to keep at it, maybe he'll see that you really are sincere.

Good luck!

Suz

If they do not want me there with them, then why tell me how sick they are?

I am a mother, I am a natural worrier. If somebody I care about is sick you bet I want to be able to be right there.

Can't answer that Whisper, sorry...all I can say is just offer love and support from afar

Melissa...

Maybe in time they will understand. You can be as supportive as you always have. I know it's hard to see people that I care about sick/in pain...maybe they are trying to spare you the pain of seeing them that way. I really don't know

Maybe he wants you to remember him the way you do now...

Whisper -- sorry you're in pain with this. I agree with what everyone has said. Just be there to support and comfort. You just being there to talk will help this person. Just pray for the person.

Maybe to spare you the pain,just continue to be there and offer your love and support