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Topic: Preparing for the dreaded first date.
Cutiepieforyou Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 43085	Tue 01/27/15 05:42 PM
I just jump in and see what happens, but this tactic has failed me a few times now and it's not a nice feeling. It's kind of a curse being extraordinarily handsome because one look in the mirror is all it takes to reassure you, so you don't feel the need to prepare properly. Here's an example of some of the mistakes I've made: I often turn up not knowing where we're going to go, and this makes me look indecisive. Another thing... uncomfortable silences. It's important to keep them talking. When they start playing on their phone it's not a good sign haha! Like most men, you make the mistake of attributing your feelings about looks, to your partner's feelings about looks. We do NOT care. You could be the ugliest guy around, a regular Charles Bronson, or Quasimodo, but if you are caring, intelligent, humorous we will jump your bones. There are pretty boys aplenty. They may draw a woman's attention, but it stops there. He has to perform from then on.

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48948	Tue 01/27/15 05:45 PM
I think Charlie B is handsome. Now I'm confused. Uh, are you wanting to switch which side you swing from?

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45399	Tue 01/27/15 05:48 PM
I think Charlie B is handsome. Now I'm confused. Rut roh. We may have actually happened upon the real problem.

avamari2 Joined Sat 01/17/15 Posts: 86	Tue 01/27/15 05:54 PM
I just jump in and see what happens, but this tactic has failed me a few times now and it's not a nice feeling. It's kind of a curse being extraordinarily handsome because one look in the mirror is all it takes to reassure you, so you don't feel the need to prepare properly. Here's an example of some of the mistakes I've made: I often turn up not knowing where we're going to go, and this makes me look indecisive. Another thing... uncomfortable silences. It's important to keep them talking. When they start playing on their phone it's not a good sign haha! Best.post.ever. This isn't real, right? You are seriously not this horrible... Aaaaand reason 562855 why I judge 'hot' guys. And the sex usually isn't all that great, anyways. They're too busy preening. Get over yourself and come back down to Earth. Even if you are that attractive, it means you won a genetic lottery. Nothing more. Eventually, you'll get pruny and have to rely on a little pill to get things working, and you will STILL have a terrible personality. Good luck with that.

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48948	Tue 01/27/15 05:55 PM
I think Charlie B is handsome. Now I'm confused. Rut roh. We may have actually happened upon the real problem. Fortunately for misty, Judy has a brother.

red6mist Joined Sat 08/31/13 Posts: 948	Tue 01/27/15 06:16 PM
A response to avamari. If I said I'm being sincere in this post, would I still have a chance with you?

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48948	Tue 01/27/15 06:21 PM
A response to avamari. If I said I'm being sincere in this post, would I still have a chance with you?

jacktrades Joined Tue 09/11/12 Posts: 4395	Thu 01/29/15 12:12 AM
My man Red back again. I keep telling you Red that you are on top of the food chain compared to rest of us mere mortals. The uncomfortable silence is because they are sweating bullets.. Try to make them feel more at ease and I would leave the part out about you thinking Charles Bronson was handsome.

mysticalview21 Joined Sat 06/28/14 Posts: 5462	Thu 01/29/15 10:16 AM Edited by mysticalview21 on Thu 01/29/15 10:17 AM
get her on the dance floor and give it large, should break the ice OP I have found that going out with someone... who really looks awesome but seem I find they have no personality... turns me right off ... then thought ok he was not for me ... and could go on with his pretty self lol

DavidCommaGeek Joined Thu 01/08/15 Posts: 537	Thu 01/29/15 10:49 AM Edited by DavidCommaGeek on Thu 01/29/15 10:49 AM
In response to the original post: I think the first mistake you're making is dreading the first date. You should be excited to go on a first date with someone (unless maybe it's a blind date set up by your "friend", then some anxiety is acceptable). Then you'll want to do as much as you can to prepare for it, to make it happen faster.

livingsingle15 Joined Sat 01/03/15 Posts: 194	Thu 01/29/15 11:01 AM
Get cleaned up, get excited to meet and have fun and be yourself. If you're a jerk and can't keep a conversation going, then give up, shake hands and go home. Myself, I like to ask questions until I find something we have in common, where did you grow up, when to school, job, college, something to kick start the conversation. I like to meet at places where you can actually carry-on a conversation, no movies or crowded bars.

red6mist Joined Sat 08/31/13 Posts: 948	Thu 01/29/15 02:54 PM
Good advice livingsingle15. I made the mistake of going to a noisy bar and I couldn't hear a word she said. I just nodded away and smiled occasionally, pretending to understand. All I could really think about was burying my face in her knockers and going: whooaaa!

joethebricky Joined Sat 08/04/12 Posts: 12740	Thu 01/29/15 03:08 PM
Good advice livingsingle15. I made the mistake of going to a noisy bar and I couldn't hear a word she said. I just nodded away and smiled occasionally, pretending to understand. All I could really think about was burying my face in her knockers and going: whooaaa!

davidben1 Joined Wed 12/05/07 Posts: 6120	Thu 01/29/15 06:25 PM
if one feel the first date dreadful, one should not be dating.