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Topic: To trust?
soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45413	Wed 01/21/15 10:18 AM
Hmmm, how do you learn to trust after you have been lied to, cheated on and played? Do you give it time or do you just jump straight back in to the dating pool? What is your way....? Awww sorry to hear ladywind :-(

m3k4y Joined Tue 07/08/14 Posts: 13122	Wed 01/21/15 10:41 AM
I think it's not true that love can only be between a mother and her child. I think men can love if they choose to, but that would take some effort on their part. I think moms should be paid and not glorified for doing their job. man hater.. :)

Justfun_1 Joined Tue 07/23/13 Posts: 698	Wed 01/21/15 11:01 AM
I think it's not true that love can only be between a mother and her child. I think men can love if they choose to, but that would take some effort on their part. I think moms should be paid and not glorified for doing their job.

m3k4y Joined Tue 07/08/14 Posts: 13122	Wed 01/21/15 11:02 AM
Hmmm, how do you learn to trust after you have been lied to, cheated on and played? Do you give it time or do you just jump straight back in to the dating pool? What is your way....? hi..I always trust my inner voice and I can learn to get past the affair...only my own intuition tells me the truth because they arr just human and another human can always let us down. .yyou won't never really know if anyone is telling you the truth unless you feel it in your gut..

Estelle79 Joined Thu 09/11/14 Posts: 1452	Wed 01/21/15 11:07 AM
I think it's not true that love can only be between a mother and her child. I think men can love if they choose to, but that would take some effort on their part. I think moms should be paid and not glorified for doing their job. man hater.. :) Saying they need to make an effort means I hate men to you?

Justfun_1 Joined Tue 07/23/13 Posts: 698	Wed 01/21/15 11:10 AM
I think it's not true that love can only be between a mother and her child. I think men can love if they choose to, but that would take some effort on their part. I think moms should be paid and not glorified for doing their job. man hater.. :) Saying they need to make an effort means I hate men to you? Don't you think they both need to make an effort,especially if they have both been hurt by the opposite sex ?

Estelle79 Joined Thu 09/11/14 Posts: 1452	Wed 01/21/15 11:14 AM
I think it's not true that love can only be between a mother and her child. I think men can love if they choose to, but that would take some effort on their part. I think moms should be paid and not glorified for doing their job. man hater.. :) Saying they need to make an effort means I hate men to you? Don't you think they both need to make an effort,especially if they have both been hurt by the opposite sex ? Of course they both need to make an effort, I was responding to someone who was saying that only mothers can love their children and anything else is not love, which I disagree with. Men can choose to love not just women. And a mother's role should be paid not glorified. It's just an idea, but it seems to be relevant to what they said.

m3k4y Joined Tue 07/08/14 Posts: 13122	Wed 01/21/15 11:30 AM
I think it's not true that love can only be between a mother and her child. I think men can love if they choose to, but that would take some effort on their part. I think moms should be paid and not glorified for doing their job. man hater.. :) Saying they need to make an effort means I hate men to you? I'm basing on your post since I saw you in the forum. .men is always your issue..

Estelle79 Joined Thu 09/11/14 Posts: 1452	Wed 01/21/15 11:59 AM
I don't hate men but I do feel strongly that women in general should be treated better than they have been by men in the history of the world and still to this day, you have the right to disagree and allow men to treat you however you want and I won't be offended. Why do you feel the need to call another woman names on here? Is there something wrong that I said and you were offended by it? If so, then I apologize in advance because I don't remember if we ever exchanged any words here before.

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48950	Wed 01/21/15 12:41 PM
I am starting to come to the conclusion that men don't love. They pretend to want love when they want sex. I think women will never get what we want, but men often get what they want, but they still complain that we don't give it out easily enough for them. ... and the grapes really are sour.

Cutiepieforyou Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 43085	Wed 01/21/15 12:47 PM
Hmmm, how do you learn to trust after you have been lied to, cheated on and played? Do you give it time or do you just jump straight back in to the dating pool? What is your way....? I have done both.

Foursure Joined Fri 01/09/15 Posts: 3231	Wed 01/21/15 01:21 PM
Some of us DO love. And we get hurt too. One of the problems with my ex was that she wouldn't ask for what she wanted or needed from me, and then was angry that she didn't get it. Go figure. some of us DO love. Women do ask - but get tired of asking- we don't want to be your mother - but I get what you are saying and I think that is a generational thing.. not brought up to be demanding.. on the topic.. do what is best for you, sometimes you need to get back into dating - and you will know what you want better this time

m3k4y Joined Tue 07/08/14 Posts: 13122	Wed 01/21/15 01:30 PM Edited by m3k4y on Wed 01/21/15 01:31 PM
I don't hate men but I do feel strongly that women in general should be treated better than they have been by men in the history of the world and still to this day, you have the right to disagree and allow men to treat you however you want and I won't be offended. Why do you feel the need to call another woman names on here? Is there something wrong that I said and you were offended by it? If so, then I apologize in advance because I don't remember if we ever exchanged any words here before. excuse me but I wasn't offended. .men treat women the way you want to be treated, or whatever treatment you are talking about if they think that a certain woman is deserving ...we us woman have our own duty as well..why not focusing on the things you can do rather than what they can do..just saying...

Estelle79 Joined Thu 09/11/14 Posts: 1452	Wed 01/21/15 01:35 PM
I don't hate men but I do feel strongly that women in general should be treated better than they have been by men in the history of the world and still to this day, you have the right to disagree and allow men to treat you however you want and I won't be offended. Why do you feel the need to call another woman names on here? Is there something wrong that I said and you were offended by it? If so, then I apologize in advance because I don't remember if we ever exchanged any words here before. excuse me but I wasn't offended. .men treat women the way you want to be treated, or whatever treatment you are talking about if they think that a certain woman is deserving ...we us woman have our own duty as well..why not focusing on the things you can do rather than what they can do..just saying... I disagree with "men treat women the way you want to be treated, or whatever treatment you are talking about if they think that a certain woman is deserving", and if you can't respect that then too bad.

m3k4y Joined Tue 07/08/14 Posts: 13122	Wed 01/21/15 01:53 PM
I don't hate men but I do feel strongly that women in general should be treated better than they have been by men in the history of the world and still to this day, you have the right to disagree and allow men to treat you however you want and I won't be offended. Why do you feel the need to call another woman names on here? Is there something wrong that I said and you were offended by it? If so, then I apologize in advance because I don't remember if we ever exchanged any words here before. excuse me but I wasn't offended. .men treat women the way you want to be treated, or whatever treatment you are talking about if they think that a certain woman is deserving ...we us woman have our own duty as well..why not focusing on the things you can do rather than what they can do..just saying... I disagree with "men treat women the way you want to be treated, or whatever treatment you are talking about if they think that a certain woman is deserving", and if you can't respect that then too bad. you read me wrong sweety..I'm not bitter. .sending you a big hug..

Estelle79 Joined Thu 09/11/14 Posts: 1452	Wed 01/21/15 02:09 PM
Wow could you please just get back to your boyfriend or something. I'm not your sweety ok? I think you may be missing him...

theseacoast Joined Wed 07/09/14 Posts: 7419	Wed 01/21/15 02:09 PM
Hmmm, how do you learn to trust after you have been lied to, cheated on and played? Do you give it time or do you just jump straight back in to the dating pool? What is your way....? To trust? What is it - trust? I felt I can trust to a man only once in my life and he really proved he was worth it. But never after I really trusted to any other - whenever I started to gain the trust that maybe this time it can be different - he proved the opposite. So the only men I trust are my male friends - they are gorgeous. And in any other relationship man - woman I trust only to myself, that I am honest and loyal. Dating - it depends on my emotions - only if I feel healed from previous relationship, than I can start dating someone else, no matter how long healing takes - 1 day or 4 years. Otherwise I would feel dirty, as I would be cheating the one who�s with me with the previous one, even if it would be only in my thoughts. And I want to stay clean without hurting anybody.

messi_is_a_tim_1888 Joined Fri 11/28/14 Posts: 3309	Wed 01/21/15 02:13 PM
I think it's not true that love can only be between a mother and her child. I think men can love if they choose to, but that would take some effort on their part. I think moms should be paid and not glorified for doing their job. man hater.. :) Saying they need to make an effort means I hate men to you? Reading some of your posts though, makes me think that you do hate men, even if you don't admit it, but to the outsider you do!

Estelle79 Joined Thu 09/11/14 Posts: 1452	Wed 01/21/15 02:27 PM
I think it's not true that love can only be between a mother and her child. I think men can love if they choose to, but that would take some effort on their part. I think moms should be paid and not glorified for doing their job. man hater.. :) Saying they need to make an effort means I hate men to you? Reading some of your posts though, makes me think that you do hate men, even if you don't admit it, but to the outsider you do! Well I don't hate men or I would admit it without hesitating. Men have a history of hating women, not to mention women hating other women. Women even hate themselves. Look at all the make up they wear etc..the hate of women never ends.

mikey5360 Joined Wed 04/23/14 Posts: 26096	Wed 01/21/15 02:30 PM
I think it's not true that love can only be between a mother and her child. I think men can love if they choose to, but that would take some effort on their part. I think moms should be paid and not glorified for doing their job. man hater.. :) Saying they need to make an effort means I hate men to you? I'm basing on your post since I saw you in the forum. .men is always your issue.. Wow could you please just get back to your boyfriend or something. I'm not your sweety ok? I think you may be missing him... ]Reading some of your posts though, makes me think that you do hate men, even if you don't admit it, but to the outsider you do! Hmmmm...this is what is being referred to and I have noticed this as well....but we are all getting off topic here... so shall we get back to the op...??