if you want to talk it over with her do so, if not don't


sounds like she's bored, or planning to move in

i also think its boredom or her playing games.. some women like playing games.

Sorry you are getting all those feelings and heartache raked up again. It is difficult enough trying to forget.

But Romeo....you already said it here "left me afraid to believe anything she says or ever trust her with all of me".... the trust is no longer there. Unless, you can find it in yourself to trust her again, it will never be the same.

Protect your own heart...

yup I have seen men and women both do this game playing phenomenon. close as I figure it's related to the "I really do not know what to say to express myself syndrome."

Your on a dating site.....your obviously moving on.....we have all seen that.....
Your a very busy guy, sort your stress factors out and life will get a bit easier.....
If you really want to end it its quite simple....change your email address.....

Thank you


Mikey i cant change a business email just like that, its too much of a hassle here doing that as its a paid email with a lot of business contacts using it



Thanks though i value the input

Fair enough mate.....leaves you one option.....tell her directly.....that's it.....over.....see you.....BYE.

Its pretty much been over for sometime now.....although her telling me all those things again wont change anything i guess

Just move on. If she sends e-mail, then just delete it. There is no need to allow her to open old wounds.

yes that would be the best thing to do. Thanks

no trust = no love

filter those emails to the trash, like I do.

Wise words and I think you could be right.

(((( Joe ))))

Morning Pretty Lady.
Its a tough predicament the young Gentleman is in right.

Very tough... ...

She's manipulating and immature. That doesn't make her a bad person, but a selfish one.
We've all been in your shoes. Time helps and meeting someone else for a casual relationship helps occupy your mind and body, but you have to respect yourself more that when you say, "no," mean it and stand by it. Close any doors and move on. Play devils advocate with yourself by playing out the scenarios in your head if you break your word.
"I let her back in, THEN WHAT?
She screws me over again. THEN WHAT?
I hurt again.
I say no, again. Rinse, repeat."
Sorry for your pain. Hope you get some closure soon. xx

After reading your question...I started thinking about a time I had a terrific relationship that got tossed in a garbage can...at the time calling it quits seemed like the right thing to do...he dated other people and so did I ..almost every time I found myself single my mind and heart would inevitably go back to thoughts of the one relationship that I had some of the best memories...I would find a way to contact him in hopes of getting back together because I already knew what to expect from him...new relationships usually start out the same...the excitement, the dreams, and the belief that this is the one...then as time goes on the faults surface and it's more of a struggle to stay together...the desire to go back to what you had that brought the most happiness can be overwhelming...sadly people change and there is no going back...you can never get back what was but sometimes you can start fresh and because you already know each others faults you can develop a stronger bond the second time...no relationship can guarantee total happiness...the same thing that happened in a past relationship can happen in a new one...it really boils down to if you can put what damaged the past behind you and move forward...if you can't forgive and forget...don't waste your time...good luck in what ever you decide...

People. Why do People do that. It's not a women issue. I finally gave up on a similar situation. I loved him dearly, but he would periodically go silent. wouldn't talk to me for weeks and then dump me, for reasons I couldn't understand. The confusion of our on-again, off-again relationship was torture. Nearly over him from our last break up, he pulled me back in during the fall of last year, just before I moved overseas. By new years, he was ignoring me again.

I gave up. It is not appropriate for me to feel like I have to be confused and just 'handle' the way he treats me. It's finally over, and after being depressed most of the day yesterday, I'm actually feeling pretty free today. I feel ok... optimistic, even.

Let go of the bad relationship. You'll find someone better. Hopefully you won't waste as long as I did with the wrong one (almost 13 years between two bad relationships).