lol

I am not sure of everything that is in my brain...are we meant to undertand all of that? perhaps then we could understand why people sign onto dating sites then leave.

I am of the school that does not care - let;s that go - and directs energy toward those that stay

I'm sticking around....for the time being anyway! I'm mingling, I'm meeting new friends, and playing when I can

(FYI..... some may not even know how to deactivate or deletel their account, or don't bother! If I am away for too long, I will just deactivate for the time being)

i am sure of everything in my brain.

as we all CAN be.

i figured u for a none carer of what be in others brains except what agrees with one's own brain...

smiles...

deal.

but figure me for a carer.

of all that is in all other's brains.

as that, decides what humans shall create tomorrow for them self, and so than for all, to have to live with.

of course you in oyur sweet self are always a good effect upon what exists, making it better, never worse that i sea!

smiles

i'll take "things we'll never know the answers to because they
are no longer here so why worry about it" for $500, Alex. :)

I'll throw out a personal theory here : the need by humans for instant gratification . A lot of people think their inbox should be flooded within 5 minutes of activating their account and when reality smacks them , they are disappointed when they find out that perhaps they are not all that and a bag of chips .You see posts in this very forum expressing a tinge of bitterness by new users complaining about no messages after being signed up for a day or two and they cannot fathom why this is. A particularly attractive person might be turned off when the messages come from pervs or unattractive candidates to them .Maybe the entire experience is a bit overwhelming and not what they expected at all. Who knows , really ? We're not them.There isn't one answer etched in stone answer to this but a sum of different reasons .Everyone wants to feel they are unique and stand out then are a bit put off when it just isn't so .

Some people actually succeed in finding romance outside of this website even if they joined this site. Those who do might not bother deactivating their accounts here.

For me, it is just a big chatroom.
The corner pub.

I have seen so many come and go, mostly different reasons for each.

Never a bad thing, just, lives move on.
Each would tell you, if they do return, they want to see the same
old people :-)

That rarely happens.

Whatever the reason, I think people just like a place to air their
feelings about serious stuff and light-hearted stuff.

I can dig it.

Maybe for some reasons, They never come and check their mingle account even just once in a month.

1. Maybe they have found their soulmate on mingle or elsewhere, so they decided to focus on their relationship, but they forgot to deactivate their mingle account.
2. Maybe They are too tired to try to mingle and always got nothing here.
They felt hopeless and also wasted too much time, then tried to looking for their luck in real life. ( not on mingle anymore)
3. Maybe "they" are not real people. ( just fake accounts a.k.a scammers), and not too necessary for them to come and check their account, especially after finished their "mission" on mingle.

But for me, even I met so many bad people here, but I have no reason to not checking my mingle, because I always believe that so many good people are still exist on mingle, at least in my opinion. :D

But one day if maybe I found my soulmate here or elsewhere, I will deactivate my account, but still choose to communicate with some of my friends from mingle through email or yahoo messenger. :p

See, I would hope your response would be more the norm, girl_tazmania. You're stickin' with it, even though you haven't gotten the person you're looking for yet. It seems a silly thing to me to have that hope and then stop looking. Or worse, to give up the hope itself.

agree with everything said above - but I also understand when you are from an isolated area and you have maybe three or four people that match for you and then you get hit with those words - not seen for over a month - it is a bit of a let down. I wish ppl would delete their profile when they are fed up with the search or have found someone -

I wish that Humans wouldn't fuss about what other Humans do on this website.

Isn't that kind of the entire point of a socializing website?

why worry about them,you're here,ain't you?

I can say from valid personal experience that it is significantly more difficult to socialize only with oneself.
"No, it isn't!"
Yes, I'm afraid it is.
"You speak lies, David!"
I know I do not, David!

You see? It just leads to arguing.

do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

But I guess if they feel no one cares enough about them they would just leave without saying goodbye to anyone.

Natural enough I would have thought.

I left a site to join this one because it's free and I love the chat room here where I can post what I want. I love free expression.

I wasn't in touch with anyone meaningful so didn't bother to say good bye to anyone. I just went! So What!

I do feel a bit bugged by the fact you could message someone and they might not bother to reply or they might have left without deleting their profile. I wonderif this is possible here it was possible on another site I was on and it led to certain mystifying experiences! The people here all seem to be genuine and have a certain intelligence that I like. I am a poet and love intelligent discussion and artistic displays of originality. I'm just sorry I can't do more of that myself!
I need a muse I think... Is he out there?

totally agree --- do this all the time

So so true....and it could also lead to painting a very weird picture of a person who speaks to him/herself, and also risks of being taken in as a looney.