This is a serious symptom which I have seen on many dating sites: people play along for a few days, a week, or a month, but then they give up on the whole process and never sign in again.
How do people expect to get anywhere after so short a time, without checking in at least once a month? You've got to have some stick-to-it-ivness to pursue a relationship, and it's not a good sign if you can't display the powerful dedication and commitment it takes to log on to a website once a month. Not only does it reduce their own chances, but it reduces the chances ot everybody who likes them, but will never get in touch with them because they can't be bothered to sign in again.

What makes people give up so quickly?

There not john cena fans. Lmao. But idk its frustrating.

learn to let stuff go...there are inumberable reasons that have nada to do with you..maybe a few that do

who knows who cares

meant to be? then it will happen

as far the question "what makes people give up so quickly?" Lert go of it...dont look for answers. Look instead for those who think like u do and do not give up so easily...

cuss they wanna.

why is what another does in life, different than one self, bad?

I gave up, because I found my husband. It was not on here, but nonetheless I found him. Now I just log on every now and again, not to think of it as a dating site, but a place to just come and chat. I use to be very active on here back when the site was called Just Say Hi, and it changed into Mingle 2. I never really got any messages except stupid ones where it is obvious they did not read my profile. I log in today and I log in to this message, "Nice very good". That's it. That was the whole message. It was contently stupidity like such, that just made me bored of the site. So I slowly just stopped coming on and eventually I found the man of my dreams in the real world. But in the past I have made some really good friends. At the same time I have trusted people on here just to be devastated in the end by them.

Online dating is hard. When talking to somebody you do not really know who you are talking to. They can show you all the pictures in the world, but in the end that is all it is, just a picture. Anybody can type words on a computer and make it sound good, but are those words really who they are? I need to hear a voice, I need to hear the tone, see the face, the expressions. I want to be able to look into your eyes, and get a sense of who you are.

last seen a month ago..

..hmm.. I'm going with! my sanity..
. my marbles.. come to think of it, I'm missing a pair of socks somewhere..
Lol

I thought yo mama still warshed those socks you hugabee...lol

Well....some are on here since years ! Never thought about it under that perspective...some potential stick-to-itivness...

If that's the case for more people on dating sites, then perhaps I should change the question to, "Why join a dating site in the first place?" Why not spend the time and energy searching in the real world?
Several profiles I've seen on various sites say that she's tired of looking in the real world, or that the results there were just as disappointing. I don't see why an online site would be considered any worse - it's generally cheaper than going out to meet people in real life, going on lots of first/blind dates and spending the money (as opposed to spending the money after you know something about the person).
Several others say that she just doesn't have the time to look for love in the real world. Is that a reason why lots of people don't stick to the dating sites for longer? They think they're wasting too much time, or not getting enough return-on-investment?

why can't we let others do as they please and remain confident in out own choices? word :)

good advice to one self.

word.

yes it is.. I am not saying I am any better at being able to let the little stuff go...at least I am on the curve ... I guess I struggle a little with where the boundaries affect me...as in.......I can respect you doin' as u please until it impacts me...fair? or not?

I realize that I can only control myself. But then, I confess that is actually much more difficult than one might think because of the myths :) (we tell ourselves)

and since you respect till what i do effects you, i will respect till what you don effects me.

fair?

equal babes.

if one deem it self live by myths, that is one self.

not i.

for i love nor live not by myths.

nor fables.

nor religions.

nor by pc.

but in equal doings unto all.

which is the same as to say...

that which one gives out FIRST, by it's own words, it shall should be strong enough to receive unto it self.

or it be a hypocrite, who demands respect, but first gives none.

Some of us are here for different reasons....some have found their match and stays for the forums, and some are here just to mingle and meet new friends....not to date or find a match, and some of us are here to keep in contact with friends. And some of us are here to play.... games!!!

I think this discussion is turning into something larger than what I originally asked. I'm not looking for reasons on why people live their lives as they do, to justify themselves on a grand scale. I'm just asking after reasons why people leave dating sites and never seem to want to come back.

And Amelinng, wouldn't most of the reasons you give be better served by sticking to the site? (Mingle, meet new friends, playing games?)

If that's the case for more people on dating sites, then perhaps I should change the question to, "Why join a dating site in the first place?" Why not spend the time and energy searching in the real world?
Several profiles I've seen on various sites say that she's tired of looking in the real world, or that the results there were just as disappointing. I don't see why an online site would be considered any worse - it's generally cheaper than going out to meet people in real life, going on lots of first/blind dates and spending the money (as opposed to spending the money after you know something about the person).
Several others say that she just doesn't have the time to look for love in the real world. Is that a reason why lots of people don't stick to the dating sites for longer? They think they're wasting too much time, or not getting enough return-on-investment?

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I originally joined the site, to meet people online and chat, share some stories, have some laughs, and even though I had all that I was hurt rather badly by somebody on here. Everybody joins things for different reason's. Maybe they felt like it was the right thing to do at the time, maybe they to just wanted to meet some online friends, maybe they just forget they were even here. Who knows, all one can do is move on to the next person, and hope they are the one.

I do not know everybody's reason for joining, and not participating in the site. What I do now is whatever they decide I hope they are happy and follow their heart, because in the end it is your personal happiness that matters.

fair enuff..I think. those who ask for respect must be able to give it or the request is empty. what do we respect? each others' humanity. I have seen great respect. and I return in kind and then, at times have failed to return in kind ...as a flaw...a mistake...or misunderstanding. been on both sides of that.

what is given out in words cannot be more than what one would expect of oneself...the golden rule

but I believe we all fall prey to myths. of our own power, importance, righteous. whatever..can't imagine anyone holy enough to be an exception.....lol

larger than one expected is much better than smaller than one expected.

LOL

i got none of that in my brain.

as i made sure of it.

hope u do to.

love your topics btw.

and that is sincere.

for they are good to help end the stupor of men's myths, fables, and religions.

ditto's!