Point blank : I am an editor for a pinup model magazine/ FB page . Part of my duties include approving photo submissions and answering messages from models for support of magazine guidelines . I see more 5" stiletto heels and thigh highs in a day than most guys see in months , 'tis the nature of the beast . I pose this question for the fairer gender because the guys are just going to tell me what a lucky S.O.B. I am . Yeah , I know, thanks...I tend to be upfront and completely honest with what I do as I feel concealing it would make it vastly worse . I also find a lot of the models tend to be tempermental , narcissistic and rather shallow , not really what you look for in a potential romance .I usually get 2 reactions when I tell a woman what I do : A. the green eyed monster bares its' fangs and roars or B. she feels intimidated , and tries too hard . It's not like that and I am comfortable being me. I'll take a good heart/ nice looks over stunning looks any day . Pretty packages do not always have pretty contents and there are much worse things than being alone out there.

My question is this : How would you feel if you met a guy that has it together , very laid back but does this for a paycheck ? Should I be completely open about this right off the bat or hold it back until a spark has been established? It's definitely R-rated but not X-rated by any means and while a little racy , not sleazy . It has opened a lot of doors for me in terms of advancing in this career and there's no telling where it will take me . Just wanted some input on this rather delicate topic.

Be honest about it, though, you might want to make a contingency plan for your long term career. If its a stepping stone, might want to try stepping in another direction. Not easy for many people to adjust to certain situations in the long run, especially ones that involve a certain degree of controversy...

i wouldn't tell right off the bat unless there was a spark and u hit it off. like you said its not x rated. and a girl not in heels laid back can be nice. you got to make a living. would you date a phone sex operator. now thats x rated but hell if she is bring home the bacon does that matter? not like she is being touched.

I would tell her right off the bat and be honest. Everyone has to make a living I see nothing wrong in what you do. If she's the jealous type she's not for you. Good luck in your career

I would wait, but not too long. Long enough to see if there's spark and interest. Personally, if I knew that's what you did as a profession I'd feel intimidated. You see hot bodies all the time, I'd be comparing.

I would be open and if she doesnt like it than shes not the one for you!!

Exactly.....the REAL women usually ask what you do for a living because we want to know that you truly do have a job. IF she is confident and honest with herself then there is no problem.

REAL woman? I suppose because I don't immediately ask a guy what his job/what he does for a living then I'm not a REAL woman?

Wow. I guess I kind of find it crass to ask a person what they do for a living within one or two messages with that person.

Define 'has it together'. Don't let your job define you. The only S.O.Bs are the ones that brags about it.

be honest from the beginning. you're in a unique situation where you have to build trust a little more than your average relationship.
I don't find anything wrong with what you do.
because you work with attractive women, you might have to go the something extra to remind your lady why she's special.
good luck

I was waiting for a few more replies but I will define " has it together" . I work every day I'm supposed to at two jobs, live at my own place ( both my parents are deceased so it hasn't been an option for years), have more than one nice vehicle , no police record ever , not an alcoholic or a drug user ,and it is well in my capability to show a lady a very nice evening regularly while being a total gentleman doing it. In other words , I do have something going for myself yet I do not think I am God's gift to anything . I'm not filthy rich but I do just fine and I don't need anyone to take care of me but rather to share what I have with a partner.Admittedly , there is a side effect of the job , I do love a gal dressed to the nines but what guy doesn't? I also love a gal in comfy clothes snuggled up next to me watching a movie at home . I'm happy with what I've accomplished and I like the dude in the mirror , he's a pretty good dude with a little common sense .

Pff... always tricky situations. I wouldn't feel comfortable with it myself, but if a guy had managed to peak my interest, I wouldn't walk away from getting to know him further.
So I think it comes down to you being able to get a woman interested in you, and then find that gem that is okay with what you do for a living.

But when to tell... I'm not sure there's any one answer to that? Maybe best just play it by ear? But whatever you do, don't keep it from a woman for too long.

On dating-sites you could experiment with things. I.e. address the issue in your profile text, in a funny, lighthearted way. Then see what the reactions to that are. Does it appeal to specific women, if so, are they the type you're looking for or not) etc. Play with it, use the online dating world to find out what works and what attracts what.
(Not advising you to lie of course, but to make different style profiles and see what works)

Hmmmm...a jobs a job...someone has to do it..I am far from model material but very happy to be me...if your content with who you are things like this shouldn't be an issue...I wonder if women who are intimidated with your profession have issues dating gynecologist's or doctors in general...happy day to you and everyone else...

All sounds well..but you have to made it to the point to shie her that she's the onky woman in your life..

Nothing wrong with asking what a person does for a living. Men usually ask me that in a couple of questions as its just a way of getting to know you. As for the Op, if I trusted him; it would not matter about his occupation.

Be honest. But see if there any connection I think that would be 3rd date status

self interest always has it's angel for deceiving the gullible.

Here's my point, does a person's profession define them? I guess I've had different experiences than you, I don't often get asked my profession right off the bat and unless I do then I don't ask his profession right off the bat. I wasn't wild about the implication in the comment about REAL WOMEN. Everyone approaches learning about each other in a different way. Maybe I'm misinterpreting the meaning of that comment.

I'm absolutely cool with it...I get to work with sexy guys & girls many times in my job too.

What CAN be annoying is how you manage your work. If you are getting interrupted 24/7 THAT will get in the way....and probably even more in your (or my) type of job.

So to me it's more a question of priorities...you have to figure at least 2 hours a day of NOT taking calls or so while you are with your "new love interest". At least that is what I am trying to do because I know I hate it when I'm on a date and the person is on the phone all the time...be it whatever...

I know it's not easy because it's always "emergencies"....but you have to feel for yourself comfortable talking about it right a way or not. It might be easier...idk...

Good luck

Hmm, I am not sure what the comment about real women is. It might mean exactly that; a real person not a scammer but you would have to ask the lady that made the comment. I can't say one way or another if a person's profession does define them but it can certainly affect whether a person will or will not date you. For example; having served in the military; men I met simply would not date a military woman for many reasons that are too long too list. Or they may not want to date a cop, or a firefighter due to the danger of being killed. They may not want to date a long haul truck driver, a oil patch worker, or a traveling salesman as they won't be home that much. You may be fine with dating whomever but for others; it could be a deal breaker so this why people ask someone's profession. Men ask me my profession to make sure I am actually working and not trying to mooch off them or have them take care of me; so I understand why they ask.