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Topic: What are expectations of a first date?
ManofGod71 Joined Sat 12/27/14 Posts: 120	Sat 12/27/14 03:02 PM Edited by ManofGod71 on Sat 12/27/14 02:59 PM
What I was told dating was is different than what I have experienced. I am curious to hear from others what dating truly is?

kc0003 Joined Fri 05/11/07 Posts: 26382	Sat 12/27/14 03:06 PM
ummmm...a not so clandestine fact finding mission?

ManofGod71 Joined Sat 12/27/14 Posts: 120	Sat 12/27/14 03:06 PM
Maybe just hoping I am not the only one that finds dating today confusing lol

ScrambledIggz Joined Wed 12/17/08 Posts: 44	Sat 12/27/14 03:24 PM
to find out what interests & VDs you have in common.

ManofGod71 Joined Sat 12/27/14 Posts: 120	Sat 12/27/14 03:27 PM
VDs? Interesting lol

red6mist Joined Sat 08/31/13 Posts: 948	Sat 12/27/14 03:39 PM Edited by red6mist on Sat 12/27/14 04:34 PM
Sex.

mini1x Joined Sat 11/15/14 Posts: 280	Sat 12/27/14 03:40 PM
VD's lol. Actually who knows, young people talk about so many things nowadays. But first off, welcome to the forum, and I see this as a genuine question. From my somewhat brief experience on this site (I haven't dated since my divorce myself) and advice here on the forums (which I advise to take with a lot of amusement and a big grain of salt), the most important thing nowadays is to be very clear as to what YOU expect on a first date. You'll often see this posted in profiles as well. So, basically, a lot of communication before meeting your date will put pretty clear boundaries on expectations. Don't be afraid to ask questions that are important to you. I find folks a lot more open talking about personal stuff, especially where intimacy is concerned. Hope I didn't add to the confusion. And, happy dating!

ManofGod71 Joined Sat 12/27/14 Posts: 120	Sat 12/27/14 03:41 PM Edited by ManofGod71 on Sat 12/27/14 03:43 PM
Not exactly what I had in mind,red6, but thanks for your thoughts!

ManofGod71 Joined Sat 12/27/14 Posts: 120	Sat 12/27/14 03:42 PM
Thanks mini!

realcarebear Joined Sat 12/07/13 Posts: 6876	Sat 12/27/14 03:45 PM
For myself I just look at a first date as a get to know each other. No huge expectations. Find a nice place in public like a coffee shop or restaurant (no movies). Just relax and see what happens...if anything just enjoy having a nice time out. Best wishes!

Beachfarmer Joined Tue 04/17/07 Posts: 24707	Sat 12/27/14 03:56 PM
A bounce off every hotel wall

ManofGod71 Joined Sat 12/27/14 Posts: 120	Sat 12/27/14 03:58 PM
Thanks care bear! :-)

Suzieqq2012 Joined Sun 09/30/12 Posts: 1	Sat 12/27/14 04:43 PM
Actually there are two answers or more! Depends on the person you met or want to meet! First date should be casual and fun or just coffee to see if you click! Some people just want one night stand nothing more! Depend on who u r looking for! Wish u well ! Search wisely !

ManofGod71 Joined Sat 12/27/14 Posts: 120	Sat 12/27/14 04:44 PM
Thanks Suzie

Maxisu Joined Wed 07/16/14 Posts: 1212	Sat 12/27/14 04:51 PM
What I was told dating was is different than what I have experienced. I am curious to hear from others what dating truly is? Sooo...what confusing thing have you experienced ?

ManofGod71 Joined Sat 12/27/14 Posts: 120	Sat 12/27/14 04:54 PM
Been on some dates where I was expected to perform and others felt like a pass or fail situation. Is that all dating has come down to?

ManofGod71 Joined Sat 12/27/14 Posts: 120	Sat 12/27/14 04:59 PM
I am describing real life. I guess what I want to know is what do you call it when you want to go out with a person and just have fun(not sex)?

Maxisu Joined Wed 07/16/14 Posts: 1212	Sat 12/27/14 05:00 PM
ah...I thought you had a confusing first date...(in real life)

Maxisu Joined Wed 07/16/14 Posts: 1212	Sat 12/27/14 05:05 PM
A date (without sex)

ManofGod71 Joined Sat 12/27/14 Posts: 120	Sat 12/27/14 05:05 PM
So its either sex or interrogation? Lol