Mostly because women like the attention they get at a wedding. It also gives them an excuse to dress up.

Why men get married? Don't know,but women just get married to leave with half$$$$,plus da house!! I'm just joking!

Good question.

Been married twice and tbh, the first time was mostly due to "doing the right thing". I respected her religion, so I did. I personally would've been just as happy staying together like Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn.

Second time was to offer commitment to her and her family in a formal way. She wanted me to adopt her stepdaughter and be a more formal "family unit". That was in some ways a mistake.

I still believe, as I did when I was younger, that marriage is just a piece of paper. A marriage certificate does not love make, nor does it do anything but formally legitimize children. It doesn't even guarantee commitment, proof the divorce rate, except try to coerce it through the financial implications of divorce.

Bottom line to me, a lifetime commitment does not require a legal document. If that's what it takes to get commitment, then the relationship is in trouble to start with.

Just my two cents.

I reserved the right to ask everyone who's married on the planet since I can't afford it yet. So far it's a handful of people on my budget.

Im married(on paper),, been married twice


I just generalized my answer, my personal reason was a love for my partner AND GOD and a desire to make that vow to BOTH,,,

I agree, I could easily discuss what should qualify as 'marriage', and whether it has to be a big formal ceremony, whether it has to involve the government,,,etc,,


BUT, a relationship does not REQUIRE sex either, yet our customs have adapted the idea that it is necessary and the 'next level'

for many people the 'next level' is marriage,,, even though it is no more a necessity than sex,,,

Yup, there are many types of relationships to be sure. I must've lived under a rock, but it's been only within the past few years that I learned about asexual relationships. People can identify themselves in a romantic relationship without sex being in the picture at all.

This is why I posted in another thread about the importance of being able to separate love from sex. It is difficult.

This time make sure she has more stuff then you do.
Or at least as much.

Well said Msharmony

Guess many that have been married would ask why not?? If you love that person and want to spend the rest of your life with them why not make that commitment?

As far as it being all about money if that is all one is worried about get a prenup. Very simple solution... Some will say that is saying you don't trust the other... But for many it works...

To some it is just a piece of paper but to some that piece of paper is saying you are willing to share your life with them...

For some it works for some it does not... Do what works for you, but don't down those that see it as more then a piece of paper..

I have been married once why cause I loved him... Yes we got a divorce.. but I did not take his business from him we did sell the house and split the money.. I worked too and put my money all into the house ect just like he did. Two kids later it was only fair for me to have half..

I have never understood why some feel that when they get divorced the woman should not get half... Hello why should a woman walk away with nothing? I very well doubt the man was the only one working these days...

Honestly if I go out with someone and they tell me right off the bat they would never marry again or never do certain things for the one they were with all due to bad past experience.. Then I'm not willing to get to know that person.... Since they have already cut off feelings due to the past..

I'm not out to get married ect.. but I do want someone that has put the past where it belongs and willing to give 100% to the one they are with.. Regardless how it turns out....

Nothing in life has a guarantee.. but unless one is willing to give all to find out you will never know where it may lead...

I have a mate that had his own business BEFORE he met his wife and she walked away with half of what he had after only 9 months and no kids! You tell me how that is a fair deal?

These days (and those past) people get married for many reasons...They do it because they want to start a family, they do it because they are in love, they do it for religious reasons, for security, for the hell of it!!...Divorce is not on the rise because peeps get married for the wrong reasons, it's on the rise because it's socially acceptable, the stigma of divorce is long gone...I wonder, are you asking this question because, at the tender age of 30, you don't see the point of marriage?....Or is it just curiosity?....

It is not, that is why I said sign a prenup for what you already have.. With my ex his business was started after we were married.. And I still did not want any part of it...

People need to wake up what you have prior to getting married I know I would now... I don't have much but what I do have I want to go to my kids...

It is one thing to be in love and another to be foolish and not cover your assets for the future..

Ohh and by the way you don't have to marry them for it to go to divorce court.. Every state is different and many have no idea by just living with another they can in fact take you for half your stuff if they so desire... Those that think this can not happen better wise up and do some research..

Now Miss Leigh.....you forgot to add that some people marry for the tax breaks.

Even if it doesn't mean anything in your area, it is nevertheless a recognized legal institution throughout the world and in the laws of other countries. So if you travelled overseas for example, say to Czech Republic for a random location, and one of you got hit by a car, the other would not have the same rights to visitation or power of attorney whilst you're in hospital unless you were married on your passports, or a blood relative.

Legally it's a whole different world for married spouses and universally recognised. Even in your own country I think you'll find, by default blood relatives have more legal authority in power of attorney than defacto spouses, and yet married spouses have more authority than blood relatives by default.

Above and beyond anything else it's a legal institution and grants specific and unique legal rights between spouses by default, rights that you would need a court order to gain otherwise even if you've been defacto for 20yrs.

So if you're sure you're going to be together for the long haul, it's actually a smart idea in a strictly academic sense.

It's a tangent but might also be worth mentioning my post is also the primary argument why it is an infringement of common rights to disallow marriage to any willing, adult participants regardless of sexuality or any other reason. Because it is a legal institution with unique accordance of specific rights such as power of attorney, and is universally recognized in other countries where legal contracts simulating marriage between defacto partners are not likely to be recognized anywhere but the local county or state they were drawn up in.

ie. what marriage actually is in a legal sense is the very argument supporting gay marriage, and also the primary reason for anybody to get married.

You think they do anything but stone defactos in Iran or several little corners in Turkey? And half the rest of the world too.

Maybe it doesn't make any difference to couch potatoes. But in the real world, it's a very important distinction everyone must have an equal right to.

why people get married is no different than why people buy new cars...

or do anything they do.

life is but all passing through the same experiences, for all to become wise.

if life were about 100 feelings each must feel and experience, to become wise, then all will have to pass through those same 100 feelings to finish the obstacle course of earth.

peace

As weird as you still breathing.. haha

Dang it, you sussed it out!
The wedding dress

I might as well go shopping for the perfect wedding dress and lingerie for the wedding night .. the man will come later ...

This could work for me without the God bit.. I don't make a sacred bond with God in marriage, but with another human being, who would then be my husband. I would make that bond before the Goddess & God, not with them.
And yes, if I was to marry again, it would be a sacred bond, if it doesn't feel that way, I wouldn't do it. To me marriage is the ultimate, most intimate and dedicated commitment one can make. I would like both marriage and handfasting.