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I am all ready there my friend, I am a neat freak my house is spotless and I can tell you where everything is. The first thing my dates say when they come over is are you sure another woman don't live here your place is so clean?
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.. no .. the reindeer did not castrate me... my ex wife did..lmao.... its called the big ..V.. As if she did not have enough house work to do; she needed more!
but she was horrible at housework... couldn't cook a meal to save... well she could keep us alive I guess... . she was the type that would put the stove on and walked out of the kitchen... with her phone to her ear... ...lol |
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as an example.. I will use my past relationship... we shared the upkeep of the house equally.... although when it came to the landscaping.. and the mechanical.... and yes the killing of the spiders and mice..... if the furnace broke.. are the washing machine needed fixing.... that was primarily my duty... I don't know why it was my duty but it was..lol .. but I could also vacuum dust mop.. grocery shop and prepare meals... we both work full time.... .... but sometimes we would both get home... tired and exhausted from our day.... she would immediately go to her computer or get on the phone... .... leaving me with the task of preparing the meal..... ... now some days I was okay with this.. . but some days I would be like... wait a minute you're the woman.. .. shouldn't you be in here.. making this meal.... after all you don't come out and change the oil in your car do you..no..... |
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Personally, I hope the kids today are able to look back fondly at teammates who worked together to achieve a common goal and a common good without being limited to role-playing based strictly on their fate at birth as to whether they got a womb or a prostate gland.
But, then again, I hope for world peace, too. 
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Edited by
mysticalview21
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Sun 12/07/14 09:32 AM
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.. as more women take to the workforce.... the responsibility of running the day-to-day life of the house.. is being picked up by men.. .. at least you would think it is.. .. but there seems to be more call.. .. for in house or out of house.. home care providers... Cleaning Services cooking services... to help pick up the slack...... .. not only that..... but as more women work... they are not able to pass down.. the basic housekeeping skills on to their daughters..... meal planning preparation.... the basics of keeping a good house.... and keeping their husband happy....lol.. leaving us with another generation of women that can't run a household.. I realize that is an outdated mode of thinking.. ... women are beginning to demand.. and want their male partners... to play more of an active role in the house duties.... which I'm all for... .. but this gives the woman more free time.. to sit in front of computer.. facebooking.. are chatting on the phone.... but she does not take over any of our duties... maintenance of the vehicle upkeep of the landscaping...... I have totally gone off.point..lol... . my navigation system on my phone keeps clicking on..lol.. . . I believe i passed down a few skill to my daughter ... in running a house hold ... and certainly hate to say this she could have never kept up what I did at one time in my life ... but we are different so she does what she can do and its very good for her house hold ... very proud ... and all depends on the person some have to much energy they don't know what to do with ...others do not and not becouse they are ill of lazy its the way they are their bodies ...brain ... all a matter of making a list that those do in the house hold... that way there should be no confusion about chores ... now being on my own ...personally want back that place I have in my heart for someone that I want to feel like doing for... which has been lost for a long time now ... |
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Yes.. I agree.. role reversal is good.. ... it is nice if you could share dutys.. .... I think today couples expect each other.. to share equally... somewhat.. the days of the man coming home and sitting in front of the TV... I must imagine are long gone.... .... but is that thinking still there.. .. that this is women's work ..and this is man's work..... I am very much guilty of that type of thinking.. I am a . in touch with the times sort of guy..lol........ but there were days where I'd be like... why am I doing this.... . this is why I got married.... to have somebody cook and clean.. for me... not full time.. of course... but I somehow thought in my mind.... there are certain things a wife does... like cooking and cleaning... . women must expect when they get married... that there are certain things a husband should do.... Like work a hammer and a screwdriver. .. don't we all have some sort of preconceived idea... what are partners should and shouldn't be doing...yes..? . Yes, can be tricky, esp as most ppl have been in an LTR and often have a bitter taste in their mouth about how things went. When you first get involved things kind of just happen, with a 2nd LTR it's just different. I do have preconceived ideas... I wouldn't want to be the one to do car maintaining, the hammer and screwdriver stuff etc. I wouldn't mind helping out if need be. I have always done that ... an extra pair of hands when something needed to be repaired, or painting, I love painting, albeit doors, window frames or walls. If both work, I think both should prepare meals just so food is done as soon as possible. Either do it together or alternate. I prefer to do most of the basic 'day to day' cleaning myself. But if both work full-time, I think it's only fair if both put in equal effort to keep the basic things going. As for daughters .. I'm trying to guide my daughter now that she's 21  These days teenage girls aren't that open to 'teaching'. Just funny, she sometimes asks her husband to help out, but then she start telling him exactly how to do it, cos she doesn't like the way he does it. That sort of thing, lol. Must irritate him tremendously, so I'm now trying to guide my girl in these things.
... what exactly do you mean with landscaping?? |
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no1phD; has become shy now and had/needs to put on a new face it seems
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Yes.. I agree.. role reversal is good.. ... it is nice if you could share dutys.. .... I think today couples expect each other.. to share equally... somewhat.. the days of the man coming home and sitting in front of the TV... I must imagine are long gone.... .... but is that thinking still there.. .. that this is women's work ..and this is man's work..... I am very much guilty of that type of thinking.. I am a . in touch with the times sort of guy..lol........ but there were days where I'd be like... why am I doing this.... . this is why I got married.... to have somebody cook and clean.. for me... not full time.. of course... but I somehow thought in my mind.... there are certain things a wife does... like cooking and cleaning... . women must expect when they get married... that there are certain things a husband should do.... Like work a hammer and a screwdriver. .. don't we all have some sort of preconceived idea... what are partners should and shouldn't be doing...yes..? . |
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Sorry about that, it has been a very long time since I posted on here..as you can see... I am also guilty of that way of thinking as well...Women, cook, clean, maintain the household....Men, Yard work, maintain cars, fix water heater, etc;... Perhaps it's society's unwritten rule?...Perhaps it's from old school way of thinking?..I don't know...It's like everything else, if one puts too much thought, energy into it, it becomes somewhat of a issue...I'm not saying I'm right, just how I feel... Perhaps it would be easier to just let things be and just do...just go with it?....I know this sounds somewhat naieve, but it is how I feel.. |
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Sorry about that, it has been a very long time since I posted on here..as you can see... I am also guilty of that way of thinking as well...Women, cook, clean, maintain the household....Men, Yard work, maintain cars, fix water heater, etc;... Perhaps it's society's unwritten rule?...Perhaps it's from old school way of thinking?..I don't know...It's like everything else, if one puts too much thought, energy into it, it becomes somewhat of a issue...I'm not saying I'm right, just how I feel... Perhaps it would be easier to just let things be and just do...just go with it?....I know this sounds somewhat naieve, but it is how I feel.. Don't think that's going to work out, esp not with ppl who've already been in at least 1 LTR... And even if it's your first LTR, it usually goes wrong in the end because you never talked about it at all, instead only expected the other to do this that or the other. I think those basic expectations are based on what our parents used to do? For instance, there wasn't a thing my dad couldn't do regarding renovating, building, also gardening, growing greens etc. etc. So I automatically expected my partner to be able to do such things as well. My dad was my role-model, right. I realized this very early on, so I dealt with it, but I gotta be honest, I would find it weird to be with a men who couldn't fix things. He doesn't have to be Bob the Builder, but at least the basic stuff. Anyways, I think communication about this is vital. If I'm expected to iron 8 shirts a week, I would very much like to know upfront, cause I'm not sure I'm up for that, lol. |
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