.. as more women take to the workforce.... the responsibility of running the day-to-day life of the house.. is being picked up by men..
.. at least you would think it is..
.. but there seems to be more call..
.. for in house or out of house.. home care providers... Cleaning Services cooking services... to help pick up the slack......

.. not only that..... but as more women work... they are not able to pass down.. the basic housekeeping skills on to their daughters..... meal planning preparation.... the basics of keeping a good house.... and keeping their husband happy....lol.. leaving us with another generation of women that can't run a household.. I realize that is an outdated mode of thinking..
... women are beginning to demand.. and want their male partners... to play more of an active role in the house duties.... which I'm all for...
.. but this gives the woman more free time.. to sit in front of computer.. facebooking.. are chatting on the phone.... but she does not take over any of our duties... maintenance of the vehicle upkeep of the landscaping......
I have totally gone off.point..lol...
. my navigation system on my phone keeps clicking on..lol..



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My ex-sister-in-law was a stay at home mother and wife. If she did anything more than pick up a fork or a glass that she was using - the house would have been cleaned.

I never had a daughter to pass down my womanly skills and abilities to, so I forced them upon my son.


Even without possessing a womb, he is able to grocery shop, cook his own meals, wash his own dishes, do his own laundry, clean/dust/vacuum his own home and still he's able to mow his own lawn, change his own car's oil, fix a flat, do minor household repairs AND find time for internet/Facebook play, while holding down a rather prestigious and demanding job.

I have more faith in men's ability to successfully multitask, just like women can and do, than all y'all have in yourselves.


Buck up, Charlie...I'll bet after the third time you've had to wear a pink shirt to work because you once again forgot to separate your darks from your whites,


you'll master those household chores...though you might break a nail or two, in the process.

I was speaking the truth!

As was I!


I was also not speaking to you, but to the OP, as evidenced by the fact that I didn't quote you, like you quoted me when speaking at me.



This time I AM speaking to you, as evidenced by the fact that I DID quote you.

You pluralized your first posting and why I quoted you.

Of course I pluralized "men". OP's OP presented itself as if it is a common plight of all/most/some men as he specifically used the pluralized words "women" and "men" IN it.

And, I quote and bold for your ease-of-reference, since you missed it the first time in your zest and zeal to take special exception to my post in response to OP's OP on this open-to-all discussion board:

He was generalizing his statement, I only wanted to post a fact that even if one stay's at home does not mean they will do what is required to care for their family.

Thank you for correcting your original post and not including all in a gender war that we see many different points of success and faults with.

sounds like a typical married household..lol

and that's my point exactly...
who is responsible for what..

.. in my past relationship.. the lines became blurred... whose responsibility is it to make sure..
meals are being prepared...
the garbage is being taken out....
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. our mothers and fathers headed it laid out for them...
the woman took care of the house..
the man took care of the outside and the mechanical stuff...


.. today in our generation...
and the generations to follow...
those lines are becoming blurred....
.. but women still expect men to do mechanical...
and men still expect women to do household......

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as an example.. I will use my past relationship... we shared the upkeep of the house equally.... although when it came to the landscaping.. and the mechanical.... and yes the killing of the spiders and mice..... if the furnace broke.. are the washing machine needed fixing.... that was primarily my duty... I don't know why it was my duty but it was..lol


.. but I could also vacuum dust mop..
grocery shop and prepare meals...
we both work full time....

.... but sometimes we would both get home... tired and exhausted from our day.... she would immediately go to her computer or get on the phone...

.... leaving me with the task of preparing the meal.....

... now some days I was okay with this..
. but some days I would be like...
wait a minute you're the woman..
.. shouldn't you be in here.. making this meal.... after all you don't come out and change the oil in your car do you..no.....

I can't say I demanded it but I appreciated it...with both of us working,my ex and I did it all like a team..some things he did better...like cooking..he was an amazing cook,....and I was better at fixing things...plumbing,..electrical..power tools...( I was my Dads side kick..can't say little girl ..)..I think its nice to do it all together and we did a job jar with the kids...I thought we did alright ...anymore I think both sexes should learn it all...

OP wasn't generalizing anything; he appointed himself Speaker of the House of Men.

YOU were "generalizing" when you took ONE, PERSONAL example of ONE woman you've personally known OF (NOT lived with) and drew the conclusion that's what 'stay-at-home Mom-dom' is all about.




You're welcome...I'll take thanks on THIS site anywhere I can get it, whether deserved or not, even though I didn't "correct" ANYthing within my initial or subsequent posts; there wasn't anything that required "correcting".



Perhaps you meant to thank me for taking the time to clarify something for you that you were not understanding.


For that, you're also welcome.

Yes.. I agree.. role reversal is good..
... it is nice if you could share dutys..

.... I think today couples expect each other.. to share equally... somewhat..
the days of the man coming home and sitting in front of the TV...
I must imagine are long gone....

.... but is that thinking still there..
.. that this is women's work ..and this is man's work..... I am very much guilty of that type of thinking..
I am a
. in touch with the times sort of guy..lol........ but there were days where I'd be like... why am I doing this....
. this is why I got married.... to have somebody cook and clean.. for me... not full time.. of course... but I somehow thought in my mind.... there are certain things a wife does... like cooking and cleaning...
. women must expect when they get married... that there are certain things a husband should do.... Like work a hammer and a screwdriver.

.. don't we all have some sort of preconceived idea... what are partners should and shouldn't be doing...yes..?


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Both interested parties TO the relationship are equally interested in the success OF the relationship and do whatever *tasks* are necessary TO ensure its success.



"Expectations" of role-playing, based strictly on who has a womb and who doesn't?!?

THE sure-fire, guaranteed way to ruin ALL chances of success in a relationship. Perhaps that's what SOME of you men ARE going for: a self-fulfilling prophecy that ALL relationships will fail, so you can be single, once again.

You didn't make any corrections it was a little farther down I had seen. I am still not into gender wars over taking care of the house and tasks'.

wtf kinda science & philosophy is this...??

Do not worry the reindeer Castrated him yestered!

.. no .. the reindeer did not castrate me... my ex wife did..lmao.... its called the big ..V..

As if she did not have enough house work to do; she needed more!