Would you be happy as the stay at home person doing all of the running of the home, house keeping , coking shoping , errands , yard care and all the child cares or. Would you want everything to be shared equaly including bringing home the money?

Oh, absolutely! Equal play, equal pay, equal stacking the hay... ok yeah, lame.

But yes, have always believed that. Even put 1 1/2 exes through college!

The only hard negotiations would be between house cleaning and yard work. I tend to negotiate towards the yard work side.

But as a single, you have to do it all anyways, so why not split even?

let's see I'm doing all of that right now.. Plus paying for an extra mortgage...hmm.... tell you what I'll stay at home and take care of the house.. you bring home the bacon..ok

No problem but when I come home from work you better have my drink in one hand and my supper on the table and ready for some hard *** lovin at bed time , and when you don't do your job and start feeling guilty cause you aren't then don't get all bitchy and accuse me of running around on youh !

Actually you forgot the part where he wears nothing but an apron and a smile!
Lol

No I can never stay home doing that, I would bring in the money but i can share the other things. It's a man's responsibility to look after his woman and the home they both share and by staying home and making yo woman do everything is very unmanly imo

Yea you the man!

Lol you see, good looks and the whole equality thing goes out the window. jk

Ah you are handome and had a perfect answer, you were being honest. And that is what am looking for here

Awww shucks maam, such kind words coming from your fine self.

We need more men like Romeo ..
It has nothing to do with looks, but with mindset. A man that is comfortable with being a man, is willing to provide and protect etc.
I could never be with a man who doesn't have that mindset .. Not because I don't want do my fair share, but because of the mindset --> A man who's not willing to provide and protect is still acting from old pain and hurt and not ready to open up and really be there for a new woman in his life.

I've been with a man like that, it does NOT work, it both disempowers you as a woman and forces her to become masculine. Which is not what a woman feels comfortable with and is also not what a man wants to see in his partner. So it doesn't work .. Kills the relationship.

And again, that does NOT mean that a man should be the only one making money..

You're describing my ex and why it would never work out. He wanted me to be so strong and do it all yet it was obvious that he got turned off in the end, and it did force me to become masculine and did not feel right. It also made me lose respect for him as a man which was a complete turn off to me as a woman. I don't mind to work but he wanted me to work during my last months of pregnancy and right after the birth, I wouldn't do that and he said he wasn't going to support a woman who stayed home (yet my family was the one supporting us both as he was "looking for work"). I did all the shopping, cleaning, cooking all throughout the relationship and then took care of our baby all by myself, yet he called it doing nothing. After many futile attempts at discussing the way I felt I'm sorry I lost my patience and began calling him every name in the book just to get him to leave the house so I could be in peace.

Yes

No

...and not in that particular order either

Horrible! He rejected & knocked you for doing the typical feminine thing. That is f***** awful! Big hug for you!!

The only thing men want to share equally in my experience are the bills, sometimes even then they don't pay their fair share. Cooking, cleaning, shopping, childcare are almost completely done by women, always has been and still is that way to this day.

Hi Pony!!
Make up your mind, is it yes or no? And to wot?

I just realized I never answered the original question...I would do the stay at home thing while there is a baby to breastfeed, and if a man can't respect that then he isn't a man.

Ok, this is why some men (like me) get all confused about this.

You want a man that will protect and take care of you, and you stay at home and do the homemaker part. Fine, that is a gender role assignment, and that works if you accept it.

But then you turn around and complain that men don't share in doing the homemaking part as well.

Sorry, this doesn't make sense to me.

I would be happy for my 9-5 to be focused on the kids, the home, the chores, laundry,,etc while the partner 'worked' . I would also expect to be 'off' at 5.

we both would have a 'workday', albeit one paid and one unpaid. And then we would both be 'off'. While at home together the kids are our kids and our responsibility(equally). Chores can hold off until Im back 'on the clock' the next day.

I would LOVE it.