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Kinda funny...sounds like my last "relationship"...only mine was a summer thing...we had an amazing chemistry ...the friendship at first..he and I have our own lives and plans for the future...he wasn't in the position for a full time relationship...I on the other hand was hoping to find one...we finally gave into the sexual energies between us...fricking great...hmmmm...we tried to balance it out...his way of life, my way of life...our little fling...and the friendship that started it all...it got too hard balancing it all..sacrifices had to be made in all areas of our little thing...lasted a while,.. But as time went on we both discovered that it wasn't going to work unless one of us accepted his way...or my way... No such thing as have your cake and eat it too....eventually we called it quits...are we still friends...yeah...not like we were though...I miss the friendship...was it worth it...the intimacy... Sorta...it filled a void...and was some damn good times...do it again...hmmmmm ...Wish you luck in that adventure...
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Edited by
fleta_n_mach
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Sat 11/22/14 03:10 PM
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Ok.. you have done the meet and greet.. you are attracted to her she is attracted to you.. you enjoy each other sense of humor.. you can carry on a conversation with ease with each other... you both get each other. Good... now you take her out on a date... or him.... nothing fancy just drinks or dinner somewhere. ... the feelings you had earlier on the meet and greet for each other are still there... this date last 3 hours.. . the time flies by.. this is good... but she needs more commitment... she has being separated lot longer than you have... you are relatively new.. not looking for anything to full time... .. yes you both are aware of each others. requirements so to speak... but you really like each other and get along quite well..... at the end of this date.. you both kiss each other goodnight.... nothing heavy just a very nice kiss....... ... now you have both talked on the phone.... you turn each other on extremely well... so you both decide to go on a second date..... a mid-afternoon date.... now at the end of this date... I would assume a kiss goodbye would be appropriate again...... what I am wondering is would.... at this point.. would your date be expecting a little more than a kiss.... I'm not talking fallout intimacy..... but would you be thinking.... I hope he or she..... really lays one on me this time..... or does that not even enter into your mind..... .. it does mine ... I always wonder what's going to happen at the end of the date.. she's a dumbazz for dating a guy who isn't ready. ha! |
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Ok.. you have done the meet and greet.. you are attracted to her she is attracted to you.. you enjoy each other sense of humor.. you can carry on a conversation with ease with each other... you both get each other. Good... now you take her out on a date... or him.... nothing fancy just drinks or dinner somewhere. ... the feelings you had earlier on the meet and greet for each other are still there... this date last 3 hours.. . the time flies by.. this is good... but she needs more commitment... she has being separated lot longer than you have... you are relatively new.. not looking for anything to full time... .. yes you both are aware of each others. requirements so to speak... but you really like each other and get along quite well..... at the end of this date.. you both kiss each other goodnight.... nothing heavy just a very nice kiss....... ... now you have both talked on the phone.... you turn each other on extremely well... so you both decide to go on a second date..... a mid-afternoon date.... now at the end of this date... I would assume a kiss goodbye would be appropriate again...... what I am wondering is would.... at this point.. would your date be expecting a little more than a kiss.... I'm not talking fallout intimacy..... but would you be thinking.... I hope he or she..... really lays one on me this time..... or does that not even enter into your mind..... .. it does mine ... I always wonder what's going to happen at the end of the date.. |
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Edited by
dreamerana
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Sat 11/22/14 09:43 PM
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maybe I'm a little more naive or a lot dumber about relationships. I could be wrong but it seems to me that if two partners have opposite intentions in entering a relationship, it may bring a world of hurt even though there is chemistry.
wish you the best. only you can decide. |
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Edited by
no1phD
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Sat 11/22/14 10:00 PM
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Ok.. made it through the second date..
... without giving into temptation.. ..... We respectfully kept... the conversation.. Light and informal.. . learnt that we even have more in common.... which is making this even harder.. she expressed her views... in regards to wanting me.... To want more of a..commitment.. she wishes she would have met.me.. when she was at the stage I am at in dating... ... We. talked about.. family.. the upcoming Christmas season.. are upbringings... her eyes are.. amazing pools of Hazel....mmm..... it was a mid afternoon.. get together..... we both got a late start on..are day... which shortened our date... but the time we spent together was precious.... .. walked her to her car.... .. she asked when we may see each other again..... I said soon very soon hopefully..... we embraced then kissed.. and this was not a kiss of goodbye..... but an invitation.... for something more...hmmm.. ... I do not know how to say goodbye. to somebody I do not wish to say goodbye to ... but I know I cannot and will not let myself.... get back into a full time serious relationship right now.... I want to spend time with myself... rediscovering myself.. ... I want to share.. I just do not want to fold my life into somebody else's.. ..hmm.. . . . |
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Ok.. made it through the second date.. ... without giving into temptation.. ..... We respectfully kept... the conversation.. Light and informal.. . learnt that we even have more in common.... which is making this even harder.. she expressed her views... in regards to wanting me.... To want more of a..commitment.. she wishes she would have met.me.. when she was at the stage I am at in dating... ... We. talked about.. family.. the upcoming Christmas season.. are upbringings... her eyes are.. amazing pools of Hazel....mmm..... it was a mid afternoon.. get together..... we both got a late start on..are day... which shortened our date... but the time we spent together was precious.... .. walked her to her car.... .. she asked when we may see each other again..... I said soon very soon hopefully..... we embraced then kissed.. and this was not a kiss of goodbye..... but an invitation.... for something more...hmmm.. ... I do not know how to say goodbye. to somebody I do not wish to say goodbye to ... but I know I cannot and will not let myself.... get back into a full time serious relationship right now.... I want to spend time with myself... rediscovering myself.. ... I want to share.. I just do not want to fold my life into somebody else's.. ..hmm.. . . . Are you sure you didn't eat the forbidden fruit 
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my plan for a 2nd date is....i pick her up, and then,
its off we go to "wonder-wonderland"...wheeeeheeehee...
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I agree with Ana and Fleta ..
If she really wants a serious relationship and you really don't, then, if you care at all about this woman, do the right thing and break it off asap. To keep her from getting hurt .. Women work differently, you can tell her you aren't ready, if you keep dating her, she will keep thinking you will change your mind for her. Women in such situations tend to suppress their own wishes, waiting for you to change your mind, and they're convinced you will. Deep down they believe there's progress, as you keep dating them, get intimate, see each other more etc. To a woman, this IS progress... You'll think "she got the message, we're just having fun". She will think "See, he has changed his mind, we are going somewhere!" Heading for heartache and hurt, most likely her .. If you're agendas really don't match .. end it! |
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no1, you could take a more kind hearted approach and not use women as objects until you're ready? ya know?
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Ok.. made it through the second date.. ... without giving into temptation.. ..... We respectfully kept... the conversation.. Light and informal.. . learnt that we even have more in common.... which is making this even harder.. she expressed her views... in regards to wanting me.... To want more of a..commitment.. she wishes she would have met.me.. when she was at the stage I am at in dating... ... We. talked about.. family.. the upcoming Christmas season.. are upbringings... her eyes are.. amazing pools of Hazel....mmm..... it was a mid afternoon.. get together..... we both got a late start on..are day... which shortened our date... but the time we spent together was precious.... .. walked her to her car.... .. she asked when we may see each other again..... I said soon very soon hopefully..... we embraced then kissed.. and this was not a kiss of goodbye..... but an invitation.... for something more...hmmm.. ... I do not know how to say goodbye. to somebody I do not wish to say goodbye to ... but I know I cannot and will not let myself.... get back into a full time serious relationship right now.... I want to spend time with myself... rediscovering myself.. ... I want to share.. I just do not want to fold my life into somebody else's.. ..hmm.. . . . How many mushrooms did you eat?... |
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Ok.. made it through the second date.. ... without giving into temptation.. ..... We respectfully kept... the conversation.. Light and informal.. . learnt that we even have more in common.... which is making this even harder.. she expressed her views... in regards to wanting me.... To want more of a..commitment.. she wishes she would have met.me.. when she was at the stage I am at in dating... ... We. talked about.. family.. the upcoming Christmas season.. are upbringings... her eyes are.. amazing pools of Hazel....mmm..... it was a mid afternoon.. get together..... we both got a late start on..are day... which shortened our date... but the time we spent together was precious.... .. walked her to her car.... .. she asked when we may see each other again..... I said soon very soon hopefully..... we embraced then kissed.. and this was not a kiss of goodbye..... but an invitation.... for something more...hmmm.. ... I do not know how to say goodbye. to somebody I do not wish to say goodbye to ... but I know I cannot and will not let myself.... get back into a full time serious relationship right now.... I want to spend time with myself... rediscovering myself.. ... I want to share.. I just do not want to fold my life into somebody else's.. ..hmm.. . . . How many mushrooms did you eat?...
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Ok.. made it through the second date.. ... without giving into temptation.. ..... We respectfully kept... the conversation.. Light and informal.. . learnt that we even have more in common.... which is making this even harder.. she expressed her views... in regards to wanting me.... To want more of a..commitment.. she wishes she would have met.me.. when she was at the stage I am at in dating... ... We. talked about.. family.. the upcoming Christmas season.. are upbringings... her eyes are.. amazing pools of Hazel....mmm..... it was a mid afternoon.. get together..... we both got a late start on..are day... which shortened our date... but the time we spent together was precious.... .. walked her to her car.... .. she asked when we may see each other again..... I said soon very soon hopefully..... we embraced then kissed.. and this was not a kiss of goodbye..... but an invitation.... for something more...hmmm.. ... I do not know how to say goodbye. to somebody I do not wish to say goodbye to ... but I know I cannot and will not let myself.... get back into a full time serious relationship right now.... I want to spend time with myself... rediscovering myself.. ... I want to share.. I just do not want to fold my life into somebody else's.. ..hmm.. . . . How many mushrooms did you eat?... 
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Leigh you wanna go for first date so that we can plan second
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...you are each looking for something different than the other is looking...for in a relationship sense of the word... Since you've now mentioned this at least twice so it appears to be a rather important factor in all of this why are you two still seeing one another? Is one of you (or both of you) so desperate to get laid / form some sort of 'relationship' - ANYthing that will pass as A Relationship - AND this other person is The Last Member of the Opposite Sex on the Planet? 
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Leigh you wanna go for first date so that we can plan second
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Leigh you wanna go for first date so that we can plan second
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"Swagger"
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"Swagger" You betcha...
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... but I know I cannot and will not let myself.... get back into a full time serious relationship right now.... I want to spend time with myself... rediscovering myself..
... I want to share.. I just do not want to fold my life into somebody else's.. You just answered your own question... So may I ask... why are you going on so many meet and greets...when you want to rediscover yourself. Perhaps you should do this first...Rediscover...be honest and true to yourself...it's important...then when you are ready...go... meet and greet. It will save you the anguish of keeping your pants on...
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