Ok.. you have done the meet and greet.. you are attracted to her she is attracted to you.. you enjoy each other sense of humor.. you can carry on a conversation with ease with each other... you both get each other.
Good... now you take her out on a date... or him.... nothing fancy just drinks or dinner somewhere.
... the feelings you had earlier on the meet and greet for each other are still there... this date last 3 hours..
. the time flies by.. this is good... but she needs more commitment... she has being separated lot longer than you have... you are relatively new.. not looking for anything to full time...
.. yes you both are aware of each others. requirements so to speak...
but you really like each other and get along quite well..... at the end of this date.. you both kiss each other goodnight.... nothing heavy just a very nice kiss.......
... now you have both talked on the phone.... you turn each other on extremely well... so you both decide to go on a second date..... a mid-afternoon date.... now at the end of this date... I would assume a kiss goodbye would be appropriate again...... what I am wondering is would.... at this point.. would your date be expecting a little more than a kiss.... I'm not talking fallout intimacy..... but would you be thinking.... I hope he or she..... really lays one on me this time..... or does that not even enter into your mind.....

.. it does mine ... I always wonder what's going to happen at the end of the date..

Lemme find my first one.. Then i suggest you for sure

I can't even get a 1st date, never mind a 2nd lmao

2nd dates are usually more easy going since both parties know each other a lil and are comfortable with each others company...if I haven't been intimate as in deep intimacy with her on the first date then it will happen on the 2nd date and I make my intentions known....none of the girls I'be dated ever had a problem with this....

Two words: body language

Sometimes you will miss the clues (god knows I have done that plenty of times!) but sometimes when there's a strong connection you can tell.

Since you've already kissed, let this time see where the kiss goes. A little more passion, and if she responds, then there's obviously a stronger attraction. Go with the flow.

you have all offered up some very sound advice.. ..
.. so maybe.... I can ask for a little more advice.... here's the scenario.
... you both really like each other..
you can see each other as friends.
. but you're highly attracted to each other..lol....
... you both know that... you are each looking for something different than the other is looking...for in a relationship sense of the word
... your phone conversations are always good... but they tend to always... get sidetracked into a more sexually charged conversation...

.... now what I want to know is..
.. do you just, try to keep them as a friend.... of course you are always going to want to sleep with them...
.. but they would make a really good friend...

.... or do you just satisfy your urges.
. and let the chips lay where they may.
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Ok... I need your advice..
Lol.. ok.. what do you do what do I do...
.. you like her she likes you...
. but you know if you're in a relationship with either it would crash and burn horribly...

... you would make good friends however...


. but you both feel strongly physically attracted to each other.....


.... can these two people sleep together and then .. form a relationship... a friendship

... or is ... being intimate.. a line that you should not cross....

... can you sleep with someone and still be friends..

...our is that the destroy of everything ..what is your experience

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Humm my self I would just see how things go. If the attraction is there in all those areas for both why not just see where things go.. Never go into a relationship expecting anything.. Nor go into one with no intentions of it ever going anywhere....

As far as keeping it friends or lovers that is a choice one has to make.. And realize that once you go for more it could end the friendship as well, if it does not work out. But then if you decide friends only and there are feelings involved both ways..Then you will always wonder what if?????

I think that worrying about how the date will end,
can take a lot of enjoyment out of the date, itself.
Relax.

Ohhh... I know.... what I must do it I'm trying to be the bigger person..

I truly am...

. but she's beautiful absolutely beautiful.. perfect smile pretty smile..perfect body type.. great sense of humor.. very clever.....


.... we both know we would make good friends....

... but we both know we want each other physically.... we have talked about this..lol....


. I am pretty sure she wants to give in to her desires for me.....
.. and believe me I do too....
... but I don't want to end up hurting her... these situations always involve hurt feelings......

.. we are meeting again soon....
I'm just really confused on what to do.. how to conduct myself... all of me screams to just hold her.. to make love to her.....but.. I know where this leads.... I know I want her...
. but I also would not want to lose her as a friend... but how can we keep each other as friends.... when every time we speak or see each other

. all were going to be thinking about is.... the sweet softness of each other's nakedness....

... the forbidden fruit so to speak..

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Sounds to me like you may actually want more.
But fear is getting in the way.
I've been there D.
Unfortunately, I'm an idiot. So I have no good advice.

No1, listen to me young man.
I'm impressed by your kind thoughts and consideration for another human being.
I've always thought you were a good guy and this confirms it.

However, take my advice, shake her bones while you have the chance lol.
No I'm joking, seriously, that is really nice of you, but I understand the temptation.

yes normally.. shaking her bones..lol would not be a problem for me..
. but from the very start.. at the meet and greet.. when she walked into the restaurant I was.. gobsmacked.. she literally took my breath away I was lost for words.. the room .. even seem to spin... getting up to take her hand.
. and show her to her seat.. across from me... my legs nearly gave out from underneath me......
. it was relaxed the conversation flowed effortlessly... she kept kicking my knee my leg underneath the table... every time she adjusted her position... on her seat.... it sent waves of electricity through my body....
. not painful but pleasurable waves..
. she would apologize cheekily..
. But continue typing my leg..
.. we got to the part where we discussed what we are looking for in a relationship.. she is now..ready for something a little more full time..
.... I am NOT....
.. but we realized we are physically what we are looking for in a partner..
. and emotionally and mentally as well....

..... on the first date we kept exploring... where this may go...
... we tried.. keeping the date cordial and polite.... hands to ourself..
but when it was time to say goodnight... I leaned in to meet her forward leaning in... not sure where to place my lips....lol... it was like our lips were magnetic.... they just attracted to one another.... it was cold so the kiss was.... at first cold but then... just when I was about to pull away... the heat of the kiss kicked in..mmmm.... we hug and then pulled away from each other.... both feeling very happy and surprised... at what we had just discovered... the passion that we both have.. but we are both going to be scared to .. release.. our passion on to one another.... knowing what that can mean......

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So basically you saying you want to 'smack that turkey ' and she also wants to play 'hide the sausage ' but you afraid to do anything?

If you both want each other so much then what's the problem you're both adults to deal with whatever transpires after

. o Romeo where out thou Romeo..lol

... I have learned in my short dating life... there are lots of people looking for lots of different things..
yes some.. like to be used as a play toy..
some like using. the play toy..

. some are looking for a lifelong commitment.....

.. some like myself.. are looking for one person and one person only...
. to share what little time I have with them and only them....

.. on a casual basis.. rendezvous..

... others like going on dates.. lots of dates it keep them occupied.. it helps cut down on their household grocery budget..lol..

.. but at the end of the day. there is an emotional cost to it..all..

.... just finding the one the person you're looking for.. eats up time and resources...

.. but we are all human beings..
. not something to be toyed with..
. if it can be helped..

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but I must go now.. I am to meet with her shortly... unfortunately it is cold out.. I had planned a nice afternoon..
hoping the weather would be warm..
warm weather always gives better options... on how to keep.. your mind from.. drifting into the bedroom..
cold weather.... you are basically stuck inside somewhere.... once you're finished with that venue... the question of now what do we do arises...hmmm.. what do we do....mmmmm...... I will let her lead I will just follow today...... I will wear a very beautiful scarf... it is masculine enough to say... I'm here as your friend to support you... but .. feminine and sexual in appearance...
. to say.... I. love to take this scarf and tie your hands softly... to the headboard of your bed...... yep I'll just let her take the lead...lol.. thanks everybody..

I think you're definitely hitting fwb territory.

If you think you can handle it, broach the subject during one of those intimate conversations... make it clear you want to stay friends first and foremost.

But, and I don't want to sound too cynical, it seems you're already falling pretty hard for her. So while she may be ok with a fwb situation, you may be setting yourself for a hard crash and burn.

But, and this is the optimist in me writing, it's possible she's falling for you too and those conversations are just her way of nudging you in the right direction.

But it's really hard for any of us to say. This is your call.

Life contains a particle of risk.

I totally get this....

Sometimes strong sexual chemistry needs to be dealt with SO YOU CAN BECOME FRIENDS....