I had an opportunity to talk to some people who would most likely want to meet in person. In most cases I didn't want even to encourage any conversation that might be leading in that direction because I felt it wouldn't lead anywhere. Not even to friendship.
Many of them incorrectly assumed it was about avoiding an intimacy. Quite the opposite. We have a different point of view on how relationship should begin and grow.
They would begin in bed after three dates or even sooner and see where it takes us from there, unlike me who would rather not begin a relationship or base it on a great sex, regardless how tempting it might be.
Perhaps they do not need to feel close to a woman to have a great sex, but I do not want to jump into someone's bed just because mine is empty now.
They didn't understand why we wouldn't get closer after, not before getting to know each other intimately, despite the fact we would most likely feel that chemistry. So, I was called old fashioned.
After a while I stopped explaining. I guess if the starting points are so different, even explaining the next one who asks about my reasons for not looking forward to meet in person would be just a waste of time. So, I just reply that I am old fashioned.
I guess waiting for souls to touch before the bodies passionately follow is rather unusual on a current dating scene. Even among those 50+
So, if I do not want to play by new unwritten, but socially accepted rules of dating which define sex on a third date or even earlier as a normal expectation, does it make me old fashioned?
It seems so. LOL

Being yourself is never out of fashion.

it doesn't matter the age. respect is respect no matter what. and there's nothing wrong with having values. being considered old fashioned is not a bad thing. there are people who will respect you for being true to your beliefs.

No it means nothing less than you have learned from life and have established higher values than most younger ones who have not had the experience or revelation about what meaningful relationships are all about. But the way society is going, morality declining, standards weakening and divorce rates skyrocketing, it appears we are outside the "norm". Insight would make you realize that this is further than the truth. Wouldn't give up my view for anyone! Being true to self is of the very utmost importance to me! So despite anything, I'll be true to my convictions whether or not I find a partner who appreciates them or not!!!

I suppose for some, maybe even many, dating equals easy sex?
Funny thing is that I've never heard anybody talk about this "three date rules" over here. I think it's an American thing? ..
I think it's different for everybody when you have sex. I wouldn't want to wait too long with it (then again what's too long?) cos if sex doesn't work out ..
Esp these days when men have headaches .. I don't want a partner with a chronic headache, lol
But old-fashioned, nah .. nothing wrong with sticking to your own boundaries, is there? If someone can't respect that ..

The other way round happens as well: friend of mine had that happen. She wanted sex, he didn't.

Nope, not old fashioned at all.

For women sex is different than "test driving" for some men.

It's your decision, whatever it may be. Hold to your values and never settle for anything less than you deserve.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with having integrity and good ethics.
Hold on to who you are, and hold on to those traits.

Thank you for your replies!
Very few men called me old fashioned in a real life, unlike those in an online world. Perhaps people act differently online because of feeling of anonymity?

The net is chalked full of trolls.
<~~~~~~~~~~As you can see, all kinds.

fleta

Well i like your morals and values...its something a lot of people dont have these days and I really respect them.....i'm old fashioned to some extent

I agree 100% with David on this.

call me old fashioned... but I don't mind waiting, until at least the 4th date..... I guess I'm just old fashioned that way.... ..jk..

why put a number on it? im old fashioned in some of my thinking but every situation is different like say i was talking with you past 6 months and went to edmonton on a date......would i wait till number 4????? probably not. hehehehe.......just saying

Soooo......waiting past the first three dates makes you old fashioned while having sex before that third date makes ya easy? Man I love stereotypes.

Taking time to build a sound relationship is not old fashion by any means. The passion that is involved in having sex early compared to waiting is completely different. I would think most people would want to know there possible partner has a driven inner feeling for them. A feeling that there partner exceeds all boundaries of wanting another person.

Casual sex and sex involved in an intimate relationship are two different feelings one experiences. It is not only sex, but how a person caresses your body that tells an interest in the person inner being.

Not saying I am right, but my perception on the subject.

Like someone else said, LDR's that begin online do come with a new set of standards...I don't like to say 'new rules' because I think every relationship is different and if it's sincere it "begins and grows' in it's own unique and natural way....Also, I don't think you (or anyone) should feel obligated to explain or justify your reasons for not wanting to have sex in the early stages of a relationship...A simple "no" should suffice....

Its not a man or woman thing,( its a Moral) thing that's going on! Doesn't matter if it happens in whatever country in the World!! That's one reason i have "Endangered Species" on my introductions! So its not happening on your first date(and its expected) by your Date so what??? 1st time or 50 dates later and you still "Don't put Out" So what? Being True to Yourself and Not living up to others expectations makes you unique, some Will Not understand. You are not a Number,And they are selfcentered , selfish, without respecting your Selfvalue!! Selfrespect is very seldom condoned in todays society !! Be "Old Fashion" and pride yourself in an accomplishment others don't want Now! Look on this site (Bragging Rites) those aren't my type neither!! (graywolf) This is being a Man or Woman Thing!

Very true!

I'm a lil old fashioned but i'be had sex on the first date� a lot of times, the most its taken is the 2nd date....