you know upfront that the date isn't the one you want?

Some say you should anyway, unless of course he/she really makes you feel 'eewwww', because A) you get out there where you might meet someone who is right. And B) to keep working or "maintaining" your dating skills.

Okay, fair enough argument. But still ..
For me it's mostly them being shorter. I know upfront that that is not going to work out for me. But do you still date shorter men? Is it fair to them?
Or do you guys maybe date a taller woman with similar feelings, just doing it to get out there, but not being into them.

How do you deal with this? you just go out and have a good time, or do you only go out with ppl that could become more than just a date?

I had this dilemma. I thought I was being shallow. Then I thought, it is good to socialize and give people the benefit of the doubt. Nope, never worked out with the short men wanting a relationship from me. I couldn't give it, honestly. It's not what I want or am attracted to. So therefore, I put myself in situations that I had to extract myself from.

It is a choice and a dilemma. I found it messy giving the benefit of the doubt when I knew before hand what I already preferred.

Yes, like you, I already know it's not going to work. He can be a regular Adonis for all I care, if he's shorter, it doesn't do anything for me.

Thing is, do you still date them? Just to get out there, have a good time? And see it as an opportunity to meet other ppl?

The tallest woman i've dated has been 5 ft. 9inches which is tall compared to an average woman, but its still shorter then my height which is 6ft 1inch....
I've met taller women then me but a woman above 6ft. 1inch isn't exactly a turn on for me... but they are very refreshing in bed

That is great question! I hope more people post on this thread! I would continue the date but let them know we are not clicking.


I have walked out on a date twice in my life--both a long time ago--but in both cases the woman posted pictures of somebody else and than showed up looking completely different. I think if their is any blatant dishonestly than all bets are off.

Ideally, I only date people with whom "I think" I can develop a lasting relationship...Sometimes I feel this way before the first date because I'm in a situation (like a job) that allows me to get to know them and sometimes I accept a date not knowing where it will lead because I am attracted to them in some way...Once I determine it's not going to work, I bow out because staying would not be fair to him or to me...What's really bad is when I have serious doubts but I let him talk me back in anyway...Totally weak on my part !!! and it is something I'm working hard to correct because when I acquiesce it only makes a bad situation worse..

I agree with klc about social skills...I don't think it's necessary to date in order to maintain mine...

If it is the first meet I would stay talk to them and make the best of it. But there would not be a second meet/date.

If I'm not into them I will not keep dating them. To me that is unfair to the other person cause they may be thinking there is more to the situation...

If i want to go out I would rather go alone then be with someone I don't enjoy being with....

question ..am I allowed to sleep with them...lol

No. Why would I date someone I wasn't really into?
I don't eat something, when I know it's going to
go right through me.

Lol... yes never "eat" anything that's going to go right through you...lol

couldn't post the laughing my azz off, cuz referral was actual werd.

pffft. geek speak...

The referring url to post the laughing my azz off emoticon I wanted to use had the letters a s s in it. So it was blocked out by M2. Bummer.

You can still enjoy being with them ... just that the person is erm .. friend-zoned I guess.

As far as height...It may be different for women, I don't know.
For me it's not even a consideration.
Unless she's 7 feet tall, pats me on the head,
and says "good boy".
Then it's a no go.

... it really is a ****** up problem, excuse my French... where I'm from, ppl are generally taller than where I live now ...
90% of the ppl here are shorter than me. So I'm sc***** Stupid thing is, I'm not even really all that tall


Spose I best start buying lottery tickets again, hope to win and then get the bleep out of here
All my ex's fault, I ended up here in backwater country cos of him

No ...op I have said no to some for many different reasons ... and some I thought I might like so we would meet ... but some did not work out for me and I new it was clear from the first time we met in person ... some are friends with me ... but I don't date just to date or go out when I can do anything I want by myself if I really want to ...
I grew up with a bit of independence of going into anyplace I wanted for myself or another... and gave me independence and less fear of people ... where I was not afraid ... to go out by myself ...

It's just really not nice... Some women might not mind, I do .. Kissing isn't the same if you gotta look down, him holding you is not the same, he can't really put his arm around you without pulling his arm out of the socket, if you wear high heels, it's like "How's the weather down there?" etc etc...
Even if you feel very feminine and sexy .. a shorter guy makes you feel less sexy

I think it's some primal instinct thing, like he can't protect you when he's shorter.. I know I don't feel protected with a shorter guy ..