here's what i'm wondering...

everyone seems to think you shouldn't get married until you're about 40 or so because i keep hearing "oh you're still young..."and you look at these people that do wait and their marriage or relationship goes on the rocks pretty fast but i look back at people like my grandparents,great aunts and uncles...etc and they got married when they were about 17 or 18 and the marriage's lasted their whole lives!.seriously,are relationships just a joke to people now or something?

i'm not venting or anything like that,it's just something i wonder about alot

Jtevans...the women of our parents and grandparents age, (and yes I am a wee bit older than you) , were taught to put up with anything and everything in their marriages. That they are to do the best as they can for where they are in life. I too for the longest time was brainwashed into thinking no matter how bad a marriage is, you stay in it for the children. Well I am here to tell you THAT is not a healthy choice for those children. I thought I was doing good in my 20 yr. marriage...played the part of the good little wife and mother...until my 9 yr. old son at the time asked me..."Mommy why do you always look so unhappy?" I didn't want my children growing up thinking THAT is what marriage looked like. I knew the husband at the time wasn't going to change and if a change was to be made, it had to come from me. I have been divorced 8 yrs. now, have had a few relationships during that time and have grown alot stronger in the meantime! Still searching for my one and only to grow old/stay young with.

chris ur adorable walk out ur front door dude

I think that those marriages that lasted that long, going all the way back, people probably thought differently then. I mean look at the divorce rates then and now. Huge difference.

And yes I know I'm adorable. lol

Try being 35 and single.

i couldn't even imagine.

It blows, sweetie.

your both right. now go out and have some FUN - i mean it!! time's a wastin'! do something out of character. the day is still young!

right on

I've been married and divorced, exhausted all options but we still had to end things, being married is great, even better if you're happy. We were far from happy.

Eh. Just yesterday I was dumped. Not actively seeking anyone at the moment. If it happens, cool, if not, that's alright. I'll live. I don't need a man to feel complete, though having regular sex is an added bonus.

Haha, it's the truth!

Times and age have nothing to do with it. We still eat, drink, sleep, and work as they did in the old days. Don't put excuses in the way. Just hold out for what you feel is worth waiting for. Or continue to make mistakes until you are willing to learn. Either way, love the experience and embrace each opportunity. Accept things for what they are worth and don't hold life or others to your expectations. When you live in expectations you either settle for the greatest moments in your life, or you are severely disappointed. That's no way to live a happy life.

uhm... ok.

Hey, good luck, buddy... I think some of us on the other side have the same issues... people tell me it's psychological... you find interest in familiarity. You're used to girls treating you like crap, you know what to expect, so that's what you subconsciously pursue. The sweet, normal, great girl is a mystery... the great unknown... and more than likely, you don't even realize you're afraid of her.

Yay for me... pearls of wisdom. I should take my own advice... instead, I choose to be single to avoid anymore drama and heartache.

Good Luck.

YOur young yet..have fun and dont take dating that "seriously" yet....play the field boy!! OOps. did i really say that? Sorry...lol...

at 20, i think u should just have fun....surround yourself with positive people and finding the right person will happen when u least expect...finding someone special should take time..you don't want to marry the 1st person who knocks your socks off in bed!lol..most of the time, those are the wrong kind...lol..

im not looking for marriage

I am.

that doesn't have to apply to marriage, just in relationships in general..

ohhh... so who wants to marry me?....jk