not really, but everyone has to learn.

I agree, 9-10 years is the most I'd go, it's just that men my age seem to be waiting for a younger woman, and talk to me, but that's it.

I, like you, have a cut off point, if you will, as to how "young" I will go where a date/partner is concerned.. and agree that as we age, our perspectives change as well.. a process only achieved by experience (ie, the passing of time) however, I believe you've misunderstood MY intent when using the term "age is only a number".. as surely other have as well!

I'm able to easily relate to others of differing ages, perhaps because I've been there and done that..? but most importantly I feel it's because I reMEMBER what it's like to be 'that' age and can easily relate, at that level, with empathy and understanding, along with a small mix of comradery.. by recalling HOW I felt, it offers common ground and readily puts people at ease, allowing the 'barriers of age' to melt away! but that doesn't mean I'd date a 20 year old! lol

if I may.. when I'm with my grandson I play at a level he can understand, while encouraging his growth.. and oftentimes my own kids say they can't tell who's the bigger kid! also, friends & ex boyfriends of both my kids often drop in, for no other reason than just to say hi and chat (even though my girls don't live here any more, they say they enjoy my company and conversation).. for the most part however.. my idea of that saying is.. you're only as old as you allow yourself to feel.. some days I feel 80 (body aches from pushing myself too hard the day before) and other days I could go on, and on with seemingly an abundance of energy.. what it all boils down to is.. if we believe we're YOUNG.. we'll FEEL young.. that old adage "mind over matter" is, what many people fail to understand, that the mind is SUCH a powerful tool.. that our simple thoughts and decisions can alter our way of living, thinking and feeling, thus indicating "age is only a number"!

if we close ourselves to possibilities.. we're stagnating our brain to only think in one way.. social conditioning perhaps? but by opening ourselves up.. we live richer, more meaningful lives by not only experiencing the moment.. but sharing them with others long after the moments have passed!

I really think it all depends on the responce the two put in ,responce to aguments,financial and the guy must be good in bed.

I get told that I am quite mature for my age.
I have actually been in a relationship with a women 12 years older than me and we enjoyed our time together. she had to move so we made the mutual decision to end it but stay friends.
I have to admit, I am interested in older/mature women as it is something different and has the sort of thrill about is as it seems kind of wrong but isnt if that makes sense lol

I see what you are saying. I just found people use "age is just a number" as a justification to date someone 20 or 30 years younger. I am 54 and act 54. I don't belive I am young and no I certainly don't feel young but I am an active 54 year old and really that is what counts. To me its about aging gracefully; not acting like you are younger which usually equates to being immature. I find most people in my generation are almost in denial of their age which is sad. Why not be a proud 50 year old? My much younger co-workers, friends, and military friends think our generation is making fools of ourselves as the only one we are kidding is ourselves. They are of the same mindset that I am that we need to act our age but we also need to stay active.

it can
it depends on what you expect from the guy and what he expects from you

agreed.. many use that adage as a justification for their actions in dating younger (or older) partners..

however I never use that justification in any other context, than living a full, 'honest', rich life!

this would be an interesting topic for another thread though

this is a popular question, revisited in many ways over and over

AGE is not what determines how well something works out
COMPATIBILITY is a much better indicator

,,, emotional maturity should probably match, and generally we have an emotional development that is similarly associated with age for most people (that is a 1 year old has capacity to walk, a 5 year old a capacity to speak and use logic, a 10 yr old a capacity to self *****, a 16 year old the capacity to understand and take on responsibility,,,etc,,etc,,)

in the educational field these are known as developmental stages,, and they generally apply socially beyond primary education. BUT that is only generally

there are 50 year olds who are still stuck at the developmental stage of most 20 year olds and therefore compatible with that peer group,, and there are 20 year olds who are developed beyond their years similar to that of most 40 yr olds who would likewise be compatible


after we are all old enough for the 'law' to say we can make our own choice,, COMPATIBILITY more than age indicates potential for success

well said msharmony

i love it.............!

Yep; I have met lots of those 50 years that are stuck at the 20 year old mentality and it doesn't work for me but those are the type that say age is just a number. I haven't met any 20 or 30 year olds that are as mature as 40 or 50 year old; they must be rare as diamonds.

INdeed in my 20s I dated one such male in his twenties,, already the man of his household of no father and younger siblings,, he paid bills, looked after family and took care of business,,,,

,,he had an issue with possessiveness, but that's not age exclusive,, in my experience

my present peers (in their 40s and 50s) remind me quite a bit of him,,

Hmm I don't think so

i love u dear all woman

Yes they can match, just that it depend on ther type of person they are.

Why not..It all falls down to mutual understanding and respect. I was in a relationship with a woman 10yrs older than me for 5yrs and it was great until she had to leave to her country because of family issues..I missed her up till this very moment.

Why not..It all falls down to mutual understanding and respect. I was in a relationship with a woman 10yrs older than me for 5yrs and it was great until she had to leave to her country because of family issues..I missed her up till this very moment.

absolutely!!