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Topic: It Depends On Your Attraction
Beachfarmer Joined Tue 04/17/07 Posts: 24714	Sat 10/04/14 03:42 PM
doesn't it? "I really really like that picture of you in the pink blouse/blue shirt!" (innocent and banal enough statement) If you're attracted to the person, it is incredibly flattering and makes you smile, and feel a "certain way". If you are NOT, it suddenly is "creepy", and makes you feel a whole DIFFERENT way. Sad but true. No?

Beachfarmer Joined Tue 04/17/07 Posts: 24714	Sat 10/04/14 03:50 PM Edited by Beachfarmer on Sat 10/04/14 03:48 PM
It's the same in public situations. If you catch someone looking at you (non-threatening), either you are stimulated or uncomfortable.

mikey5360 Joined Wed 04/23/14 Posts: 26096	Sat 10/04/14 04:05 PM
Sad but true, Beach.....but that is only a mild bland compliment there..... Sad but true.....even a mild bland compliment from the wrong person and it is creepy..... Sad but true.....some around here dont know the meaning of a compliment..... Sad but true.....lewd comments are the mostly the norm for some here.....and they are not compliments.... Sad but true.....

bastet126 Joined Fri 12/07/07 Posts: 15553	Sat 10/04/14 04:08 PM Edited by bastet126 on Sat 10/04/14 04:09 PM
it's all pheromones beach, all pheromones :)-

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76461	Sat 10/04/14 04:11 PM
If we are attracted to the person true we will pursue it farther if we are not we tend to over look that person. But at times when we get to talking to that person their personality will reel us in...

no1phD Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27442	Sat 10/04/14 04:31 PM
I am feeling very creeped out ..and uncomfortable right now!!!..

tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Sat 10/04/14 04:32 PM
Yeppers.

fleta_n_mach Joined Tue 06/24/14 Posts: 3509	Sat 10/04/14 04:33 PM
Yup. Men are also known to like pictures. Hugh Hefner is all on that. Find those things everywhere...under the bed, in the attic, in the garage....

Beachfarmer Joined Tue 04/17/07 Posts: 24714	Sat 10/04/14 04:36 PM
looking at all of you

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Sat 10/04/14 04:41 PM
Sad but true, Beach.....but that is only a mild bland compliment there..... Sad but true.....even a mild bland compliment from the wrong person and it is creepy..... Sad but true.....some around here dont know the meaning of a compliment..... Sad but true.....lewd comments are the mostly the norm for some here.....and they are not compliments.... Sad but true..... ALL SAD BUT TRUE!!

m3k4y Joined Tue 07/08/14 Posts: 13122	Sat 10/04/14 05:44 PM
If the compliment you get is from a creepy crepster it sounds more like an insult.. Some people has a crazy serial killer brain that cant figure out how to put compliment in to a right words.. Sad but true..

Unknow Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 64077	Sat 10/04/14 05:50 PM
Word...

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Sat 10/04/14 05:51 PM
This is why I a woman with a good sense of humor can easily steal my ,WAIT,not easily,no,but steal it!!

no1phD Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27442	Sat 10/04/14 06:10 PM
can you please !elaborate on a sense of humor.. and how it has nothing to do with .. attraction.. and how it might not translate into compliments...?.. just honestly curious on your take.. .

mikey5360 Joined Wed 04/23/14 Posts: 26096	Sat 10/04/14 06:14 PM
can you please !elaborate on a sense of humor.. and how it has nothing to do with .. attraction.. and how it might not translate into compliments...?.. just honestly curious on your take.. . Hey man I think Beach is referring to the initial visual of the avatar or profile pics..

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Sat 10/04/14 06:14 PM
This is why I a woman with a good sense of humor can easily steal my ,WAIT,not easily,no,but steal it!! a sense of humor has nothing to do with the attraction factoring into compliments. For me it does,those were the ones I found myself more attracted to,even at some point ,best of friends,sooo,actually it does to some degree!

m3k4y Joined Tue 07/08/14 Posts: 13122	Sat 10/04/14 06:17 PM
This is why I a woman with a good sense of humor can easily steal my ,WAIT,not easily,no,but steal it!! a sense of humor has nothing to do with the attraction factoring into compliments. For me it does,those were the ones I found myself more attracted to,even at some point ,best of friends,sooo,actually it does to some degree! you mean is a compliment depends on how the receiver will view it??

mrld_ii Joined Thu 05/15/14 Posts: 1410	Sat 10/04/14 06:20 PM
doesn't it? "I really really like that picture of you in the pink blouse/blue shirt!" (innocent and banal enough statement) If you're attracted to the person, it is incredibly flattering and makes you smile, and feel a "certain way". If you are NOT, it suddenly is "creepy", and makes you feel a whole DIFFERENT way. Sad but true. No? It's akin to how (most? many? some?) men prefer to hear "Oh, my!!! You're huge...AND such a great lover" from a woman with nice t*ts and a perky butt that they spent hours buying drinks for, over a 300# double-bagger they picked up at 1:52A at the bar, I suppose. Again, sad but true. No?

no1phD Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27442	Sat 10/04/14 06:21 PM
well I think the op.. is speaking on.. .. connection.. how if you have a connection.. with someone physically or emotionally.... how your compliments are words.... can be taken.. as a sincere form of a..compliment... but if there is no attraction... those same words.. can be taken... are seen to come off as creepy.... at least that is how I'm reading it.... but my question still stands to Klc...

mrld_ii Joined Thu 05/15/14 Posts: 1410	Sat 10/04/14 06:33 PM
this is the title of the thread: 'It depends on your attraction' Yup, yup...it's amusing to me how - in 2014 - it still comes as such a surprise to *many* that we women are allowed to be as attracted to those who are attracted to us. It's in The Rules, and ****.