As in the case of most people my age, I guess I have no real expectations whatsoever. Only dreams. When you are single at my age, you come to recognize that the odds of finding unconditional love are slim to none at best. So, I figure, I may as well just be open-hearted and honest about it, and simply say what's on my mind.

It would seem that there are no words that can describe a picture so accurately as a meeting up close and in person. But getting past the barriers in order to enable that to happen, seems ...impossible. So much emphasis is placed on the picture itself. And if the picture isn't perfect, the opportunity goes right out the window. Maybe, ....I'm just not .....attractive enough ......anymore.

I see so many people who are hurting and alone. I, myself, ...am one of them. With each day that passes, time is running out. We become older, ....and less attractive. Sometimes, I cannot help but to feel as if I am a lost cause. Turning to a dating site in desperation and wanting to have ....just that one .....last ......chance.

Intentions are "everything". So many scammers. So many real people reaching out, and yet, ...pulling back ....out of the fear that they will be exploited. And then .....when the real McCoy comes around, ......it is failed to be recognized as such.

Meantime, in the wake, I see so many people out there who are just like me. Even "more" fortunate in having a comfortable "lifestyle". Taking the risk of being rejected, or worse yet, neglected, and falling by the wayside, as if they hold no tangeable value. Simply in wanting to be ...acknowledged, or validated, ....as a viable human being seeking love and affection. Someone to care about.

It is hard to do this. To me, ...it basically comes down to an admission that ....I'm not good enough. A self bred admission, ....based on my inability to find the right group of people in my locale to "mingle" with. Personally, .....the two places I find to be the worst in meeting someone are ......bars and churches.

I'd so much prefer to meet someone while doing something I enjoy, thus, confirming that we have at least "one" thing in common. But as someone who works a lot and has no real outlet for consistant recreation, I am left to my own devices and the secret, silent lonliness which haunts me in each day that passes.

Like most other people who are genuine, I have so much love to give. And, I have already proven so many times over that I can be the best friend that anyone has ever had. But when wanting to be more than a friend, ...the bus comes to a screeching halt, ....before it ever reaches the final destination. Time is ticking away, and I am beginning ...to resign ....to my fate. Being single forever.

Maybe, ...this is ....the final destination.

(For those of you who actually took the time to read this, ...I'm sorry. I have no place els to go to ...spill my guts. I was hoping that, in light of my failure to meet my own objective, this is what you are here for, correct? The "forums"? Usually, I am a very positive person. And, just to qualify my words, I am happy in all other realms of my existance. Please, .....do not let it ruin your day. Just venting.)

Creed?

Or maybe...

Pretty Maids?


Or perhaps shakabuku.

good song by creed : )

keep your head up

if you are expecting it to be doomed from the start then sadly i agree with you, that is what you will get

you are only as young as you feel
so right now i am about 189 years young : )~

but really, keep your head up , she or he (i don't judge) could be right around the corner from ya

just keep your head up and hope for the best

if it's ment to be it will

is it fusstraighting yes , the hunt is never fun
but really you have to pass and get hit by a lit of thorns before you get to the rose

best wishes on your hunt

scammers are every where not just on the net , but once you have been around them for a while , 99 % of them are really easy to spot

just be yourself and show the good you have to offer <shrug> thats all any of us can do really ... we all have bad , just need some one to see more of the good then the bad in a person

Top 10 COMMON SCAMS

Scammer asks you to deposit check for them. They send you a counterfeit check, then need the money sent back to them. A week later your bank finds it counterfeit, you owe them the money, and you are in legal trouble.
Scammer is in the military and needs your money for special phone service to call you, or for a leave to come see you, and your call to their fake commander for permission.
Scammer is coming to see you. At last minute something terrrible happens and needs your money to get them out of the emergency.
Scammer will visit you but needs money for plane, train, or gas. After you send money, they never come.
Scammer is stuck in a country and needs your money/help to get them out.
Scammer wants to send you gift or products, needs your address and you to pay fees to fake shipping company for it. No gift will come.
Scammer sends link to website to view nude photos or webcam of them where they ask for your credit card and personal info or give you viruses.
Scammer says you won a lottery and need to pay fees to collect winnings, and asks for personal info.
Scammer says they want to use your photo on billboards, needs your personal and bank info for payments to you.
Scammer can't upload photo to site and needs your email address to send you one. If they can email it to you, they can email it to staff to add for them.

PREVENTING SCAM

DON'T ever send (or receive) money to anyone for ANY reason
DON'T give out your email address as it may be gathered for spam mail lists.
DON'T share your personal or family info.
DON'T follow links to other websites. Why do they want you to leave?.. mail is free here.
DON'T email photos of yourself or family that may be used to scam others.
DON'T be misled by perfect photos. Real people don't look like models.
DON'T say we didn't warn you

It may sound weird coming from another longhaired dude but just what if...
you try a totally different approach? Basically say- fck the inner beauty! Fck people who say they want someone who's true inside.

If pretty picture is all what they want then by all means let them have it. Go to the hair saloon and have a total makeover. let him carve a real sleek silver fox out of you. The buy some clothes. Use the professional stylist/shopping assistant if the mall has one, who helps you choose right stuff that goes well together.

And then go to the bar that has a dancefloor. I'll leave teh rest up to you.

I'm not saying this is what you should do, I'm not saying inner beauty doesn't count. But you are right about time is running out. So if one way isn't working try a different approach.

And I am saying that if me being me and looking like me isn't good enough to get me a date before christmas, I'll do a makeover as well.
Gonna cut off my long hair, use different hair and clothing style and try again. Cuz my time is flowing as well.

Some are, some aren't

THIS ^^^

Indeed. I could not agree more.