Is it ideal to get married and have children or be a single mom? In the old days no one knew who the father was, before that no one knew fathers existed. So, maybe we've got it all wrong.

get married and have children

taking care of a kid is hard enough with both parents , and with the rising cost of everything but hte rate of pay.. costs a lot to raise a kid as well

i think its better to have the mother and father in to help raise the kid , the kid can learn many things from both

now a days i guess i would have to add in father and father , or mother and mother
<shrug> to each there own , i don't judge really

just seams the more love the child has while growing up the better they are when they get there

Husbands are often jealous when the kids are getting a normal amount of love from their mother. I'm not sure if having a father around would make a more loving environment. They are often uninvolved in childcare and homecare, yet there they are usually watching tv or facebooking. They do tend to pay most of the bills though. But these bills could be paid without the father's physical presence. It's kind of a stifling arrangement for the child in a way. Please let's keep an open mind these are just some thoughts, I haven't made up my mind yet.

That almost sounds like an insult. But I suppose so. However, it wasn't about my role models but a general concept of husbands and wives in our society at this time. Of course there are many exceptions.

I had the greatest dad in the world (for me). We spent lot of time together. hiking and skiing in the woods, making a snow castle....and anything you can possibly carve out of snow. making a toy sailboat, making a real rowboat, tagging along as he was driving tractors, excavators, snowplows, combine harvesters. Naming the stars and constellations. watching the lunar eclipse together and hearing what it actually is. getting a bicycle for good grades at school and later a moped for b-day.

I'd never forgiven mom if she'd never let us near him. Hes the dad I want to be. He's the dad that I AM going to be.

..hmmm.. I respect your right to say what you want to say..op...
. and this is a very interesting topic..
. but as a single father.. and once husband....hmmm.. I don't know something about this topic ..does not sit right with me.. I feel slightly insulted..... I'm sure it is not your intent... but still...hmmmm.... it feels like you're painting all men as deadbeats... and no good fathers...
. just my opinion...

is there a reason to give single parenthood a positive or negative characteristic?
ideally both parents should raise the child within the convention of marriage.

however, for any number of reasons, that doesn't happen.
does that make a single mom or dad less worthwhile because they are a single parent?
I sure don't think so. single moms and dads give even more of themselves to keep the family going. not because they wished to be a single parent but because they want the best for their child.

I think having both a mother and father is ideal for children. However, we all know that sometimes pregnancy 'happens' under less than ideal conditions. In my opinion, marrying a man just so your child will have a paternal influence is wrong. Mothers have been raising children by themselves for a long time and I'd guess most of those children are quite normal.

in the old days when ,, and where?

we come from the union of a man and woman for a reason

for CHILDREN their best shot is with the two people from whom they came,, the mother AND father

no, I would never say its wrong to know the father or right to be a single mom


stuff happens that we don't plan,, but I would never think it was cool to INTENTIONALLY bring a child in the world without either parent,,,

this does not sound like fathers I know,,my brothers all have kids and they don't behave in any way 'jealous' about the mothers of those children showing them love

that sounds like an unstable person, man or woman, that gets jealous of their kids receiving love,,,


it shouldn't be stifling for children to have exposure to both 'roles
, even if that means one may give MORE of the nurturing attention than the other,, they both have their own way of loving their kids and kids cant have too much of that,,,