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Topic: How soon to use the l-word?
heavenlyboy34 Joined Fri 07/04/08 Posts: 17348	Sat 09/20/14 09:58 PM
So, it's this very sweet young lady in my weekend ballet class. (It's not an accredited college or anything-just a dance studio run by a retired professional dancer) We met originally this past summer in a ballroom dance class at the local community college. We've always gotten along very well, and I've been lightly flirting with her ever since I met her. For example, after every class I kiss her hand very gentlemanly-like. I've been becoming more and more fond of her the more I see her. We treat class as our weekly dates now. What say you-at what point is it appropriate to say 'I love you”? Thanks! :)

Argo Joined Mon 11/11/13 Posts: 12416	Sat 09/20/14 11:03 PM
if you feel you really love her, there is no bad time to tell her that you do... the hard part is, not letting your own world fall apart if she doesn't reciprocate in kind...best of luck to you.... go for it...

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Sun 09/21/14 01:05 AM
So, it's this very sweet young lady in my weekend ballet class. (It's not an accredited college or anything-just a dance studio run by a retired professional dancer) We met originally this past summer in a ballroom dance class at the local community college. We've always gotten along very well, and I've been lightly flirting with her ever since I met her. For example, after every class I kiss her hand very gentlemanly-like. I've been becoming more and more fond of her the more I see her. We treat class as our weekly dates now. What say you-at what point is it appropriate to say 'I love you”? Thanks! :) Lol while there might not be any right time,I would say not to soon for sure,this will differ with different people,focus more on showing it,good luck!

HoneyFly Joined Mon 01/27/14 Posts: 1962	Sun 09/21/14 01:34 AM
Don't jump the gun. Take her out to a real date / dinner. Get to know her without em' ballet shoes. If the moment is right & you'll know it if you had pay attention, then say it.

heavenlyboy34 Joined Fri 07/04/08 Posts: 17348	Sun 09/21/14 08:29 AM
Love is in the air Everywhere I look around Love is in the air Every sight and every sound And I don't know if I'm being foolish Don't know if I'm being wise But it's something that I must believe in And it's there when I look in your eyes Love is in the air In the whisper of the trees Love is in the air In the thunder of the sea And I don't know if I'm just dreaming Don't know if I feel sane But it's something that I must believe in And it's there when you call out my name Love is in the air In the rising of the sun Love is in the air When the day is nearly done And I don't know if you're an illusion Don't know if I see it true But you're something that I must believe in And you're there when I reach out for you Love is in the air Every sight and every sound And I don't know if I'm being foolish Don't know if I'm being wise But it's something that I must believe in And it's there when I look in your eyes OP... Apparently the answer to your question is in her eyes .. Best of luck :-) A very thoughtful and beautiful answer, thanks. :)

heavenlyboy34 Joined Fri 07/04/08 Posts: 17348	Sun 09/21/14 09:29 AM
BTW, I forgot to mention the age thing, which may or may not make a difference in your opinions . She's in her mid-late 20's, I'm in my early 30's. :)

heavenlyboy34 Joined Fri 07/04/08 Posts: 17348	Mon 09/22/14 12:47 PM
Don't jump the gun. Take her out to a real date / dinner. Get to know her without em' ballet shoes. If the moment is right & you'll know it if you had pay attention, then say it. When I see her again this weekend, I'll ask her to attend the annual mideast festival with me and see how it goes.

funkyfranky Joined Tue 05/01/12 Posts: 5966	Mon 09/22/14 12:55 PM
Take my advice, do not and I mean do not, tell her your username on here is heavenlyboy

larsonc Joined Fri 06/20/14 Posts: 2377	Mon 09/22/14 01:05 PM
Oops ... when I sas the l-word I thought this was about a TV series. Never mind

heavenlyboy34 Joined Fri 07/04/08 Posts: 17348	Thu 09/25/14 02:13 PM Edited by heavenlyboy34 on Thu 09/25/14 02:16 PM
Take my advice, do not and I mean do not, tell her your username on here is heavenlyboy No worries. I avoid talking about what I do on the interwebz to anyone aside from my publishing endeavors. (what happens on mingle stays on mingle, AFAIC)

mrld_ii Joined Thu 05/15/14 Posts: 1410	Thu 09/25/14 02:27 PM
How soon 'til I'll use the "l" word? OOOOOOooooo, I suspect I'll be happily using the word "lesbian" .0027 nanoseconds after meeting Salma Hayek, in person. Oh, look!!! She's sporting an outdated "Retro" 'do, from the "60s", too!!!

funkyfranky Joined Tue 05/01/12 Posts: 5966	Thu 09/25/14 02:32 PM
How soon 'til I'll use the "l" word? OOOOOOooooo, I suspect I'll be happily using the word "lesbian" .0027 nanoseconds after meeting Salma Hayek, in person. Oh, look!!! She's sporting an outdated "Retro" 'do, from the "60s", too!!! Salma Hayek and Jeanne Tripplehorn, Timecode. Naughty naughty

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Thu 09/25/14 02:50 PM
So, it's this very sweet young lady in my weekend ballet class. (It's not an accredited college or anything-just a dance studio run by a retired professional dancer) We met originally this past summer in a ballroom dance class at the local community college. We've always gotten along very well, and I've been lightly flirting with her ever since I met her. For example, after every class I kiss her hand very gentlemanly-like. I've been becoming more and more fond of her the more I see her. We treat class as our weekly dates now. What say you-at what point is it appropriate to say 'I love you”? Thanks! :) Don't say I love you yet...Say, "There are so many things I love about you."...

Beachfarmer Joined Tue 04/17/07 Posts: 24707	Thu 09/25/14 03:26 PM
or say LuYou! I (sincerely) Lu Leigh!!!....because she's brilliant and kicks my azz!!!

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Thu 09/25/14 03:28 PM
or say LuYou! I (sincerely) Lu Leigh!!!....because she's brilliant and kicks my azz!!! I sincerely love Beach because he gives me purpose.....

Beachfarmer Joined Tue 04/17/07 Posts: 24707	Thu 09/25/14 03:39 PM
or say LuYou! I (sincerely) Lu Leigh!!!....because she's brilliant and kicks my azz!!! I sincerely love Beach because he gives me purpose..... and such a rich plethora of FIELDS of work to be done

mysticalview21 Joined Sat 06/28/14 Posts: 5462	Fri 09/26/14 11:48 AM
I would not rush into it op and better to wait to see how you like each other on a different level ...with out dancing ... you may feel like it is love she may feel like its just something in command you have with each other and is fun to do just that ...

willing2 Joined Sun 06/08/08 Posts: 20221	Fri 09/26/14 12:09 PM
So, it's this very sweet young lady in my weekend ballet class. (It's not an accredited college or anything-just a dance studio run by a retired professional dancer) We met originally this past summer in a ballroom dance class at the local community college. We've always gotten along very well, and I've been lightly flirting with her ever since I met her. For example, after every class I kiss her hand very gentlemanly-like. I've been becoming more and more fond of her the more I see her. We treat class as our weekly dates now. What say you-at what point is it appropriate to say 'I love you”? Thanks! :) Long time, Bro! Hope all is good with you. If it was me, I'd ask her to dinner a few times. Call a couple, three times a week, see if she'd like to run errands with you. Let her know, tell her, show her, a little at a time, you are becoming attached. Good luck and welcome back.