relationship with someone you might call love ... do you believe it is healthy to see that person every waking minute ...? or its good... both have things to do with in a day... with that puts seeing one another till the end of the day ... or would you wish to be with them constantly around the house or work together come home together...?

JMO...Distance makes the heart grow fonder

Hopefully my partner would have had interests, activities and friends...a life...before me, and I would not expect them to give any of that up to join me at the hip. Having separate activities and interests keeps the relationship interesting and fresh. It would absolutely drive by batty to be around someone, anyone, 24/7 and I think it eventually will destroy any relationship.

As much as I'd like to be around the person I love and am having a relationship with, I'd also have to have time to myself. I'm not the clingy type, nor would I want that in the person I was having a relationship with.

Familiarity breeds contempt.

agree ...I think it eventually will destroy any relationship.
then you see these really old couples that seem to do every thing together ... i am thinking they understand the meaning of time like not much left for them ... I don't know I am not a clingy person and like others have said not what i am looking for ... wonder if my feelings would change if I was way older ...

great que.

to me i am laid back enough i think i could handle me lady 24 /7
but not sure she could handle my crazy self for that long <shrug>
all though i think she is just as crazy as i am so who knows really

i know after a while even the person you love can get on your nerves if spent to much time around each other
but with that being said i have seen some people be able to pull it off , they work and play together

but to me i would have to have been in a relationship like that to give my true perspective of it

so far all i have been in is a part time seeing ... cause of work and other things have all ways taken me away from the one that i was in love with at the time

Ohhh.. I would not want to see, my partner twentyforseven..
.. no thank you .. if they could even live in a separate house that would be better yet.. just get together 2 or 3 times a week... that would be perfect.. first if you are around me 24 /7.. there would come a point.. where I would find you straddling me in the middle the night.. with a pillow in your hand...lol.. secondly you need different interests.. time apart.. so when you come together.. you have diverse topics to speak on... and when we get very very old... well I'll be deaf and you more likely will have
Alzheimers... so I won't be able to hear you.. and you won't be able to remember what I just said to you..
. Thus.. keeping the conversation fresh all the time....lmao

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sometimes it works out great--it all boils down to beliefs everything does, now a days you really don't

need your other for survival like in my grandparents day so its hard to get to the point that you know your

other will be there for you no matter what---now a days often when there is a little trouble in paradise

they split up then go to the next other and never getting to the point where you know that, through hard

times they will stick it out with you. my parents did just that they had some trouble in paradise be thats

normal they developed that special bond….real love…thats why i say love has to be earn…then it has

real value…except our parents and children there's is free...

A little bit of both. it works out great when both have separate interests and you can encourage each other to excel in that.
at the same time it's nice if you both have the day off and can enjoy the time together getting mundane or even difficult jobs around the house.
An example from my past is my boyfriend was a musician and I was finishing college and working for the school district.
he encouraged me in the pursuit of my degree and I encouraged him in his music, including sometimes giving audience feedback during band rehearsal.
when we were both free we did enjoy the time together working on projects. whether we were pruning fruit trees at my place or tending horses and gardens at his.
we still had fun together and worked well as a team.
so it's whatever you make work for you.

<shrug> my gandpa and grandma got married at a very young age , i dont recall them doing next to anything apart
they stayed together till the end in there 90's

but like Sparkyae5 pointed out , most people when they run in to trouble part rather then stay together

i now there where times they wanted to kill each other but all ways found a way to fix it or work around it <shrug>

guess i was just born in the wrong time span

Hi everyone ^^^^ all valid imp contributions so far

What stage in the relationship are you talking about?

Cos at the beginning in the loved up stage I want to live in his pockets if poss, and I love getting regular messages, calls, hanging out etc but Not at the expense of my family and friends so I am not the clingy type

If the relationship progresses then more time apart comes into it as you cannot sustain that type of lengthened time tog unless neither of you work or something like that

As for the golden oldies, they have spent so much time tog that they are comfortable in silence, patient in affliction, loyal in attack and generally love the bones of each other to the point that they can laugh at silliness of youth,
'More power to them' as we say in Ireland

Beware the cling-ons though as you will need an oxygen tank and the patience of Job to survive them - they just need to mature and love themselves first

Love and blessings to you in your love life (God knows I need it) :P

Personally, I like to be alone but not by myself.

Hey how are you?

24/7 would be a bit much. I need my beauty sleep.

I love the concept of "Co-independence"... in which in both parties understand that to be truly happy and fulfilled each individual must be true to and manifest his/her nature while supporting the other to do the same, in a climate of respect, appreciation, and love.

Are you talking out your azz again?....

Sorry...not fluent in Wisconsonese.

You need to learn it then.

I want to be with him constantly!!,,,but not the way you describe... Sometimes physically, sometimes mentally, as in thoughts of him, us, our life together, and sometime in combination of both..I don't think it's healthy to be "joined at the hip" with anyone and although I don't think it breeds contempt in those who are in love, it can lead to a one dimensional relationship that has the ability to suffocate "personalities" and diminish the pleasure of being together...