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Topic: Is it a 'red flag' about him?
wildflower73 Joined Fri 07/19/13 Posts: 58	Mon 08/18/14 05:13 PM Edited by wildflower73 on Mon 08/18/14 05:18 PM
It seems a dumb question. One i could probably answer myself but i have messaged this guy off this site for a while. We live in the same country not that far away but have never met yet or even spoken on the phone. He says 'you're the one, marry me, i love you' I think ive got caught up in what he says. Basically i would say you can't love someone or decide something like that till you've known each other a while no matter how well we get on.

Mdarlene Joined Fri 06/06/14 Posts: 313	Mon 08/18/14 05:32 PM
yes it is a red flag if you don't live that far apart there is no reason not to meet. Then take it from there.

makenwallo Joined Fri 08/01/14 Posts: 264	Mon 08/18/14 05:36 PM
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bashajones Joined Fri 08/08/14 Posts: 7943	Mon 08/18/14 05:36 PM
It seems a dumb question. One i could probably answer myself but i have messaged this guy off this site for a while. We live in the same country not that far away but have never met yet or even spoken on the phone. He says 'you're the one, marry me, i love you' I think ive got caught up in what he says. Basically i would say you can't love someone or decide something like that till you've known each other a while no matter how well we get on. waves red flag

wildflower73 Joined Fri 07/19/13 Posts: 58	Mon 08/18/14 05:39 PM
Thank you

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48948	Mon 08/18/14 06:51 PM
It seems a dumb question. One i could probably answer myself but i have messaged this guy off this site for a while. We live in the same country not that far away but have never met yet or even spoken on the phone. He says 'you're the one, marry me, i love you' I think ive got caught up in what he says. Basically i would say you can't love someone or decide something like that till you've known each other a while no matter how well we get on.

wildflower73 Joined Fri 07/19/13 Posts: 58	Mon 08/18/14 06:53 PM
Thanks, i really appreciate it. :)

wildflower73 Joined Fri 07/19/13 Posts: 58	Mon 08/18/14 06:59 PM
Ha ! Thanks!

Criollo99 Joined Thu 05/09/13 Posts: 1676	Mon 08/18/14 07:53 PM Edited by Criollo99 on Mon 08/18/14 07:57 PM
It seems a dumb question. One i could probably answer myself but i have messaged this guy off this site for a while. We live in the same country not that far away but have never met yet or even spoken on the phone. He says 'you're the one, marry me, i love you' I think ive got caught up in what he says. Basically i would say you can't love someone or decide something like that till you've known each other a while no matter how well we get on. You are not asking us: ur talking to urself here, because u know. And really, in case I did not say it before: welcome, bienvenido(a), bienvenue to mingle2. Join the forums and get to know people! Real people! Just make sure, if u have a cat, to keep it hidden from the Melmacian... True story!

wildflower73 Joined Fri 07/19/13 Posts: 58	Tue 08/19/14 12:26 AM
It seems a dumb question. One i could probably answer myself but i have messaged this guy off this site for a while. We live in the same country not that far away but have never met yet or even spoken on the phone. He says 'you're the one, marry me, i love you' I think ive got caught up in what he says. Basically i would say you can't love someone or decide something like that till you've known each other a while no matter how well we get on. You are not asking us: ur talking to urself here, because u know. And really, in case I did not say it before: welcome, bienvenido(a), bienvenue to mingle2. Join the forums and get to know people! Real people! Just make sure, if u have a cat, to keep it hidden from the Melmacian... True story! Thanks and yes you are right. Have two cats !

Shovs Joined Sun 12/08/13 Posts: 193	Tue 08/19/14 02:13 AM
Its ok to say "I love you" to someone you havent met in person, but to plan to marry them is a mistake. People are similar, but actually different in person than they are in text/email. You need to invest time and energy in getting to know who they are in person....because often, the chemistry is different, and sometimes absent entirely. The refusal to meet is classic scammer/catfish behavior. ^^^ Exactly Other indicators are : - Using Skype but not face to face, only to talk as the number has no prefix to show where they live - When on mobile, asking you to ring them back so you foot the bills more than him/them - poor English, especially when using verbs, and using same phases again especially if not really relevant (non-nationals sound like this too but eventually they learn the language of the country they are staying in) Lastly, don't beat yourself up as they target everyone, they are smooth talkers and know that is what a lot of us women want to hear, but this sounds totally fishy, so delete that scambag and devote your energies to others (like us on the forums x)

Criollo99 Joined Thu 05/09/13 Posts: 1676	Tue 08/19/14 02:54 AM
It seems a dumb question. One i could probably answer myself but i have messaged this guy off this site for a while. We live in the same country not that far away but have never met yet or even spoken on the phone. He says 'you're the one, marry me, i love you' I think ive got caught up in what he says. Basically i would say you can't love someone or decide something like that till you've known each other a while no matter how well we get on. You are not asking us: ur talking to urself here, because u know. And really, in case I did not say it before: welcome, bienvenido(a), bienvenue to mingle2. Join the forums and get to know people! Real people! Just make sure, if u have a cat, to keep it hidden from the Melmacian... True story! Thanks and yes you are right. Have two cats ! David: FOOD!!!!!

michele63 Joined Sun 02/12/12 Posts: 3405	Tue 08/19/14 06:11 AM
This kind of flag i could get into lol

Maxisu Joined Wed 07/16/14 Posts: 1212	Tue 08/19/14 11:31 AM
yes it is a red flag if you don't live that far apart there is no reason not to meet. Then take it from there. YES !! And you have not even talked on the phone ? Did you skype ? Maybe it's a spammer....?

Maxisu Joined Wed 07/16/14 Posts: 1212	Tue 08/19/14 11:31 AM
This kind of flag i could get into lol

michele63 Joined Sun 02/12/12 Posts: 3405	Tue 08/19/14 04:53 PM
there is a couple of canadian men i can think of that would look good wearing their red flag only. lol

2469nascar Joined Fri 11/22/13 Posts: 5231	Tue 08/19/14 05:05 PM
It seems a dumb question. One i could probably answer myself but i have messaged this guy off this site for a while. We live in the same country not that far away but have never met yet or even spoken on the phone. He says 'you're the one, marry me, i love you' I think ive got caught up in what he says. Basically i would say you can't love someone or decide something like that till you've known each other a while no matter how well we get on. me think i love you,maybe you marry me? Iam just kidding,,, you never said how long you two were talk/MSG each other;if its like a month or two.thats understanding some ppl just cant get away every weekend,but if its like six months well thin houston we have a prob, well good luck eather way,,