Ok here is the question.......

I was on the phone tonight with a guy I met on a cruise just a few weeks ago. We met we had fun enjoyed each others company exchanged phone numbers and addresses. We have talked often since we have gotten back. I live in Fl. he lives in Oh.

Now tonight he asked me if I would go on another cruise with him. Now of course I would love to go on another cruise but if I did I am sure he would want to share a cabin........ We all knows what that would lead to.

So what should I do????? I like him a lot but I do not think I am ready for the next level.......

tell him what you just said here......that you are not ready to go to that level right now...

That's great advice gypsy....


or .... you could just take me along to chaperone ... I've always wanted to go to Bali

I agree with Gypsy.

HAHAHA omg I wanna go to Bali too......hmmmm had my chance too with the cheese man but......

Girl if you wanna see him again it'd best be on dry land!!!! Don't go on a ship!!!

set the cruse out a bit and spend more time together on land. Then when and if you are ready to go to the next level, what a great trip it would be for you both......

I hate it when I have to throw them overboard

If you do go don't touch his dinghy.

HAHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA OMG i ALMOST FELL OUT OF MY CHAIR!!!!!!!!!

dont go too fast spend sometime together on your feet b4 he gets you on your back there is nothing worse than sleeping with some one then finding out a relationship wasnt such a good idea to begin with

It's all about something called "frame control."

Frame: Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) term to describe your perception of reality. Whoever has the strongest frame wins.

If you put it out there that you're not ready for anything physically intimate, stand by that, and show zero sign of give, he'll get the idea that y'all can share a cabin... it just better have two beds. :D

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm sexxxxxxxxxxxxxx sexxxxxxxxxxxxxxx hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm sexxxxxxxxxxxxxx!!!!

Why don't you both go and each bring a friend? Then you can stay in separate cabins and enjoy the cruise as a group thing. If things go well I'm sure you can always sneak away for some couple time too!

Or, tell him to skip the cruise and spend the money on a plane ticket to visit you instead!

Im still thinking about cabin sex!!!!!!! youre killing my fantasies bay!!!!!!!!!

Misery, fast "seductions" (if you will) can often lead to fulfilling, long term relationships. Just from my own personal experience, things have moved incredibly quickly and have been satisfying while they lasted. While nothing in this life is forever, having a long, meaningful relationship with someone is possible if you sleep with that person the very same night you meet him/her.

I was 21. She was 28. Things were good the night we met. They were good up until I had to PCS (I was in the Air Force at the time) to another base and she was going to going for her master's degree in another state far away. That was 4 years ago, things ended amicably, and that 5 or 6 weeks we were together was better than the 10 months I was married. Actually, my divorce was being finalzed when I met her.

But going back to MerryMary.

If you're not ready for it, like I said, tell him and stand firm by your decision. If he keeps tryin' to get you to give in and sleep with him, then you know what to do, sweetie.

Get to know him better before advancing to the sharing a room stage. But I agree with the rest of the gurls...tell him what you told us; if he is worth his salt he will understand and respect that decision.

Unfortunately most guys aren't worth their weight in... anything, really. There are exceptions to the rule though.

share the freakin cabin!!!!!

Just go & have fun.
its not like your high school virgins here...
unless he's creapy then why were you talking in the first place.

Ask him how its going to work & if you are paying your way or not.