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Topic: should I or shouldn't I????
redwulfe's photo
Tue 09/25/07 10:27 PM
It seems that you have the right idea. If you don't want to advance to that level, then tell him so. If he is what you think he is then he will understand that and not push you on the subject.

Just being with you on the phone, through E-mail, or for a brief time that he gets to see you on a weekend visit should be enough. Build on what you have together and make it grow. Beware of rushing things to fast due to your own desires or from pressure from him based on his desires, this can lead to a very sad place. I feel people should be thankful for the little things that are great in their life and let the large things come naturally.

mikecom21hotmaiL's photo
Wed 09/26/07 03:05 AM
I agree with viva los dodgers, god go on the cruise share the cabin,

what is that thing gonna break if you end up not marrying

Give me a break, you like him go have fun, and find out if you really like him

mikecom21hotmaiL's photo
Wed 09/26/07 03:06 AM
R u sure your 44 yrs old

mrgee1959's photo
Wed 09/26/07 10:10 AM
Mary, you look like a nice lady. I wouldnt do it if I were you. This guy may be nice but then again he may not be. Respect you first.

mrgee1959's photo
Wed 09/26/07 10:11 AM
besides being on a boat, there is just so far that you can run away from him lol

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Wed 09/26/07 11:08 AM
Think about it this way.
If you decide to go and share a cabin, and things don't work out. Where will you sleep? He has the cabin.

MsTeddyBear2u's photo
Wed 09/26/07 11:13 AM
Explain to him that you would love to go- but sleeping arrangements need to be seperate. If he is a good one- he will
understand your not ready for that level yet...
Good luck!

glitterybee's photo
Wed 09/26/07 11:23 AM
Why does he want to go on another cruise as a couple instead of spending time getting to know you better first? Is he suspended from reality and hoping for things that may seem unrealistic to you?

peachiegirl28's photo
Wed 09/26/07 11:25 AM
glittery
you are a beautiful woman and he obviously knows this. i would tell him that you would love to go on the cruise but you would appreciate having your own room so that you to can take time to get to know each other better before rushing quickly ahead. if he truly likes you it will be no problem. good luch sweetie.flowerforyou

Merrymary663's photo
Wed 09/26/07 04:49 PM
Thanks for all the good advice people.........I am going to talk to him soon and tell him how I feel and see how it goes from there..........I'll keep ya posted

TongueKISS's photo
Wed 09/26/07 05:00 PM
Well he asked you on the cruise to get you where you can't just up and leave. i think he is going to try something because why not come to your town, I am sure it will be cheaper to do so right?
I think you should think a little further about this before deciding, all men want sex at some point so you have to be okay with the idea of him making the first move.

Merrymary663's photo
Wed 09/26/07 05:09 PM
In his defense I will have to say that the last cruise we were on (we met on the cruise) he was a complete gentelman. I was even in his state room at one point and nothing happened. I do like him a lot and know him pretty well now seeing that we talk often and he is wanting to come to me and visit also. You have all brought up some good points and got me thinking more and more. I also feel like I need to add that he is willing to pay for the whole cruise.

Ɔʎɹɐx's photo
Sat 09/21/13 10:53 AM

I'll keep ya posted



still waiting ..... smokin

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Sat 09/21/13 11:13 AM
Well most guys don't offer up cruises without expecting something in return
Be REAL !
If you are not ready to move forward into romance
Than do what you know is right
And politely decline...
JMHO
whoa

Ɔʎɹɐx's photo
Sat 09/21/13 11:21 AM


If you are not ready to move forward into romance
Than do what you know is right
And politely decline...


too late ... they should be celebrating their grandchildren birthday by now..
bigsmile

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Sat 09/21/13 11:32 AM

It's all about something called "frame control."

Frame: Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) term to describe your perception of reality. Whoever has the strongest frame wins.

If you put it out there that you're not ready for anything physically intimate, stand by that, and show zero sign of give, he'll get the idea that y'all can share a cabin... it just better have two beds. :D



Same thing as law of attraction but different wording. You can pull people into your reality [frame] and the more you believe it, the stronger and more powerful you are. I see it happen all the time :smile:

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Sat 09/21/13 11:33 AM
gud advice...take it dia

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Sat 09/21/13 11:36 AM



If you are not ready to move forward into romance
Than do what you know is right
And politely decline...


too late ... they should be celebrating their grandchildren birthday by now..
bigsmile


hehehe yeah old news but same story
drinker

:laughing:

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