Please enlighten me about "one night stand/s". For men - Isn't like a form of infidelity? and For women - What happened to "saving your virginity" for the right man?

(P.S. I've never been in a one night stand and Im not against anyone who's doing it, ok? Im just freaking curious. )

the culture has pretty much made abstinence some extreme alternate like vegetarianism,,,,,media and the environment rarely support it much

'sex' is a necessity (according to modern culture), a right, a natural and normal expectation of attraction and/or love

For me, I did 'save' it for what I thought was the right man, the man I first married

a long while after that though, mistrust in my own judgement and going with the flow and expectations of 'dating' lead me to be more 'sexual'

in that period, I had one one night stand, which left me feeling ill afterwards and knowing that such behavior is not for me

I have reverted back to the mentality that I wish to only share that part of myself with someone that is the 'right' one,,,,should I ever meet that person in real life

Hey now even i'm curious...
Has anyone here ever done it ?

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Yes, one night stands are not for everyone. I have not tried that, because I think it would leave me with an empty feeling, and some self disgust too.

For some men I guess they might view it that way. I spoke with a guy that travels a bit, and he just wanted companionship for a few days. But he thought of it as "one night stands." So IDK: I guess it's different for everyone?

I'd listen to Woody Harrelson in Friends with Benefits.

Everyone wants to hide him/herself..
Everyone wants to be the immaculate, pure and saint person ever
Everyone wants just appear to the public with a great mask
But
Nobody is honest
..
I meAn
Im talking about The secret dreams and everything around it..
Everyone has his/her own imagination
And
Everyone repress their awarness
But
Why??
Whats the price?

In the end of your day will you be happy?

?

one night stands? I dont get it,Whats the point,guess some ppl dont care about them selfs,or how others think about them,to risky,i personaly have to have feeling for a woman befor i can have sex with her,

so, according to what this says people are being dishonest because they don't believe in one night stands? is there only one right answer? I think not.
each person has expressed what their beliefs and values are.
speaking for myself, a one night stand wouldn't be for me. there are so many risks; being an unwed mother, disease.
risks to emotional health.
it just isn't worth it

I don't know how a man having a one night stand is a form of infidelity, if he isn't in a marriage or relationship? Just because the majority of consensus is against a one night stand, doesn't mean there is anything wrong with them.

Some people don't have to have all the quote, "feelings" for someone to wanna just have a sexually charged experience for just a night. Those that are consciencious about it, also are prepared for sex, and make sure they use a condom to avoid pregnancy and STD's. Not saying that's 100 percent effective.

I have no problem with one night stands, don't often go there as I'm not really willing to take risks with STDs.
But apart from that, nothing wrong with it, two consenting adults sharing a physical thing. Can be sheer lust, but also tenderness and care.
In the past I had difficulty with it, because like many others, I was 'brainwashed' to think that it wasn't right. That sex automatically meant 'commitment'. So you sort of have to be able to make that distinction in your head.

Nowadays ppl say we're being brainwashed to think that there's nothing wrong with it. But sorry, it's the other way round: we are all brainwashed (mostly by religion) to believe there is something wrong with it.
If you leave STDs and religion and cultural conditioning out of the equation, which is what you should do, cos we're talking ethics, norms and values here, is there something wrong with sharing an intimate moment with another human being? Really??

One night stand is what you buy when you can't afford to buy two night stands.

Hmmm.. the glorious one night stand.
. when the planets line up.
and all conditions are favorable.. the universe is working in our favor..
.. you are at the right place at the right time...
. you're feeling playful and frisky.
. you're in heat... so to speak
. for you women it's a little easier.
you can basically . walk in. pick any guy.. and go home... with him..
. this is the part where the universe has to play in our favor....
. we have to be the lucky guy you pick..or... you have to have really good game like me...lol..
but anywho.. I have no problem with it. some of the most pleasurable sex.
I have ever experienced.. were with.. one offs... scenario..
you're at the bookstore.
I'm at the bookstore..
now you have not had sex for a very very long time... and you are aware of this.. highly aware of this.. that part of you.. you know that part..
. that glowing warm amber..
. that hungry ,always needing to be fed !sex drive of yours....
. is screaming at you... to feed..
to devour something... something large ,thick.

and hot..
.. you noticed me walking into the store.. you think..hmmm.. yummy.
. he's tall he's dark he's handsome.
. and very very fit.. then your eyes go to my package.. you think that will do nicely.mmmmm... you walk past me give me that little smile..
you catch my eye.. I smile sweetly back to you.. you think he's got a nice smile too..hmmm.. you circle around me.
trying not to be too obvious.
you quickly check out my bottom..
Ohhhhh..yesssss... bingo..
your little amber is now starting to get warmer.. your sex drive is saying.
.. him pic him... you go over. to the coffee bar.... yes all book stores have a coffee bar... I notice you going over.
I follow you.. not creepy like..
inconspicuously... the universe is playing in my favor today.. the table beside you is empty... I seat myself make eye contact with you.. my sex drive is screaming at me as well...
. it is saying feed me..yes feed me her.. I want to eat her... devour her.
... every. delicious centimeter...
..mmmmmm... I noticed the book you have.. I comment on what great taste you have in literature.. you smile..
. now normally.. that's all you might do... but not today.. today you are hungry... you need to feed....lol..
.. long story short.. you allow me to pick you up.. we spend the rest of the day together.. we get to know each other.. build up trust... keep feeding each other's cravings.. blowing on each others embers.. so to speak
.. to the point.. where we just want to tear each other out of are clothing.
. and satisfy our hunger.. quench our thirst... feast on one another...mmmmm..
.. and when we're finished.
satisfy ourselves.. and one another.
... we go our separate ways.
. feeling very very satisfied..
. and a tiny bit naughty...ohh.. yes don't forget the naughty part...mmm
. one for the journal.. your secret diary....
..
.

A lot of women look better on their profiles than they really are. So when you meet them it's a bit of a letdown. When you're in a situation like this it's best to cut straight to the chase and have sex with them. Otherwise you could waste a lot of money. Also you don't want to lead them on.

Does that mean that when a woman looks as good in RL as on her profile, you'd consider a relationship?

The same thing goes for men btw, I see many men even use pictures that are 10-20 years old Came across one here that was pulling 50, using a picture of him age approx. 18-20??
Doesn't make me feel like cutting to the chase, makes me wanna leg it!
A guy going through an identity / ego crisis is not interesting

what's the matter with the virginity issue ?! did i miss inventing the time machine during the last couple of months away from mingle ?

So, the profiles on a brothel's website are misleading.
Perhaps we should thank red6mist for finding that out for us.

Meanwhile, on this website ...

* Giggles *

Lol i hope i dont get misundetstood again in regards this type topic lol,with that being said,its by all means a good practice to wait or be in a relationship,but some one night stands realy gets to much of a bad rap,some people actualy go into it looking for somthing more,and sometimes thats where it start,so what makes it one night stand is realy when it stops there,and far as saving yourself for the right man/woman,how many times we think we found the right one after waiting so long only to find out we've wasted a good portion of our lives?,some people fall in love then have sex,and some have seex and THEN fall in love,somtimes two peopl just dont want that attatchment,and for the ones that want it,it boils down to tryin to make a good judgement on who you sleep with or date,dispite what some people may think of some of my previous post,i actualy WANT just one partner,and me personaly,waiting is'nt the only way and true way to acheive this,its a good practice yeah!!