It would depend on how much I trusted that person.
I once was driven to an unknown place by a former
girlfriend. When I asked her where we're going,
she asked me: "Do you trust me?". Since I couldn't
find any reason not to, I said 'Yes'.

We ended up parking in a cornfield somewhere and,
as they say, 'the rest is history'. Bada bing!

If I had a fear of making a commitment to a particular person, I
wouldn't make the commitment. I don't have a fear of commitment. None
whatsoever.

I'll tell you how I overcame it. Right after I met Robert, I felt myself
falling in love with him, and it scared the heck outta me. Commitment
was not what I wanted, I'd been married or attached to someone my entire
life, I just wanted to have some fun. I talked to God about it, and
asked it was right, and such a feeling of peace came over me, it was an
immediate answer.

I'm secure enough in myself now, that I know if it did end, even though
it would hurt really bad, it wouldn't kill me. And I could be happy for
the good times, and everything I've learned about myself from him. He's
the best man I've ever known, I didn't know there were men like him.
Love ya Sweetie.

awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww sweet bev.

After reading this thread I was left thinking, it seems like One day at
a time is important. I think it is along with trusting yourself and
realizing that there are no gaurantees in life.
We have to take risk...they don't have to be gigantic risk but little
risk each day to keep growing.

Some people spoke of faith and prayer in this thread and I would just
like to add that I believe that fear is the opposite of Love. It hasn't
been the relationship or the person but Love has always made me a better
person. I love the quote in the movie As Good As It Gets when he says
"You make me want to be a better man." But I think it was loving her
that made him want to be a better man.

awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww sweet that was put perfectly thanks for that food
for thought and it really is true.....now that I think on it.

how are ya lovely

I am here then gone again. I am doing good...it is going to be
a busy day and I have to wake up at like 4:00 a.m. to get ready to take
my daughter to a dance competition in RI. I don't like driving long
distance or in strange places but that will be the fear I face tomorrow.
Today I will just keep breathing. I'm always happy to see you!

well best wishes with your travel and I hope you enjoy the
dancing.......

sounds cool

Trust takes 2 major things

1. TIME; soldiers learn to trust eachother thru enduring hardships
together. I think the same works for any type of
relationship/friendship. You GO SLOW & take your time.

2. Total Honesty; if there are any hidden factors, when they come out,
trust is questioned/gone. How many friends, have suddenly acted in a
unknown maner & you decided you didn't know them as well as you thought.
Relationships even worse.

So time, total honesty are the cornor stones for trust for me.
I hear so many cyber relationships end because "she/he SUDDENLY
changed". Suddenly changed when they hadn't known eachother for a yr. &
only physically met twice. They didn't know eachother well enough to
have to make that statement.
Remark that follows then; "How can I trust again."
I don't think TRUST was ever really built, NOT ENOUGH TIME & HARDSHIP to
build real trust.

Real trust & real relationships TAKE TIME.

TRUST TAKES TIME & EFFORT. Anything good takes work.

I find it so interesting we separate committments...

I committed instantly to my babies when they were born, it is lifelong,
no hesitation...

I commit to my friends, as a friend, for life..

I commit to my work, to do my best, no matter what the job may be..

It appears we overthink things at times...how hard is it really to
commit yourself to discovering what a relationship has for you, and you
have for the other person?

I don't see how it differs so much...you do the work, they do the work,
and if the other party doesn't, then, it is harmful to you, so you move
on.

We are only responsible for ourselves, and our behaviours,
always....must be exhausting lugging tonnes of baggage from relationship
to relationship...

commitment ? crap ggggggrrrrrrrr gimme a coffee !!!!!

wrong board pappa

i said commitment 1st

~ I don't think i could be in another, ill never get over the
fear!

I thought that I'd never be able to either after my ex cheated on me and
left me out to dry...Even when I met my current boyfriend, I didn't
expect anything to come of it...I just kinda fell into it, tho...I'm not
sure how it happened, but it did...God just said it was time for me to
move on with my life, and that's what I'm doing...so really, you just
have to give it some time, and just wait patiently to find the one guy
that is right for you...I think I've finally found mine...

andalearriba, this is pretty much where I am at or the conclusion I have
come to...to just go with the flow and let it happen naturally. We all
have fear but we can't let it be our master or we can't let someone
else's fear be our master. Of course, we all are responsible for
ourselves whether we want that responsibility or not and sometimes there
are lessons to be learned.

jessie642..right on...
I totally agree...

always make spelling a priority...

There finally comes a time when you must leave the ghost of the past in
the past and go with your heart body and soul of the moment. If you are
always seeing the flaws of another you will never be able to make that
commitment and learn to trust them. One must look deep within and
realize we are not perfect and should not doubt the other till they give
you a reason too. The past in no way should reflect on the one your with
at the time. Until they break that trust you should not assume they will
no matter what. How can you love someone if you can't trust them?
Sometimes you must learn to either sink or swim depends how bad you
really want something you have to let go of the fear for fear is like a
weight and will take you down with it. Fight for what you want learn to
deal with your own fears. If it don't work then you know that you gave
your all and somethings are just not meant to be. They were not the one
you were ment to be with. And don't give up. You will find them and the
trust and comminment will all fall into place as if it was a puzzle.

keeping things in perspective, practice being satisfied with yourself
and what you can expect to receive from the other...prayer, hope,
trust..not to rush, first learn to love...takes time