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I'd let him do what he wants with his. As it was his in the first place. I'd probably keep mine, as we were once in a special relationship together, and I want to stay true to my feelings, by keeping the jewellery as a symbol of our memories of times spent together. I seriously don't think I could give such a sentimental thing away. I may sound soft saying that, but I love deep. It doesn't mean you didn't value the object or love deeply. What it does mean is if that sentiment was lost along the way, would you willingly release it to find something or someone who would never ask you to return it! Therein lies the key. I'd mainly just keep it, for the sake of the memories. I think I'd almost feel like we never happened, if I didn't have some sort of keepsake left from our relationship. I just always feel like I need something physical infront of me, to prove to myself, that we were together, because as the years go by, it can feel like it was all a dream. I know that may be hard to understand, though. I'm the same way whenever anyone I know dies. |
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I'd let him do what he wants with his. As it was his in the first place. I'd probably keep mine, as we were once in a special relationship together, and I want to stay true to my feelings, by keeping the jewellery as a symbol of our memories of times spent together. I seriously don't think I could give such a sentimental thing away. I may sound soft saying that, but I love deep. It doesn't mean you didn't value the object or love deeply. What it does mean is if that sentiment was lost along the way, would you willingly release it to find something or someone who would never ask you to return it! Therein lies the key. I'd mainly just keep it, for the sake of the memories. I think I'd almost feel like we never happened, if I didn't have some sort of keepsake left from our relationship. I just always feel like I need something physical infront of me, to prove to myself, that we were together, because as the years go by, it can feel like it was all a dream. I know that may be hard to understand, though. I'm the same way whenever anyone I know dies. I kept my wedding ring - I don;t think anybody really wanted it and it was my trump card in case I ever needed to pawn it...things were pretty bad right after.... |
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I'd let him do what he wants with his. As it was his in the first place. I'd probably keep mine, as we were once in a special relationship together, and I want to stay true to my feelings, by keeping the jewellery as a symbol of our memories of times spent together. I seriously don't think I could give such a sentimental thing away. I may sound soft saying that, but I love deep. It doesn't mean you didn't value the object or love deeply. What it does mean is if that sentiment was lost along the way, would you willingly release it to find something or someone who would never ask you to return it! Therein lies the key. I'd mainly just keep it, for the sake of the memories. I think I'd almost feel like we never happened, if I didn't have some sort of keepsake left from our relationship. I just always feel like I need something physical infront of me, to prove to myself, that we were together, because as the years go by, it can feel like it was all a dream. I know that may be hard to understand, though. I'm the same way whenever anyone I know dies. I understand relating it to someone who dies...ending a relationship can seem like a "death" of sorts, so I understand what you are saying, totally. However, in my mind, I don't need something physical to convince me I had something emotional, spiritual, or of real value at a given point in my life. My mind holds it all, without the physical representation of that relationship...therefore, I need no physical object to remind me of it...and in the end, if it's gone, it won't be any closer with a physical object to represent it. |
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Before or if marriage doesn't happen, I keep everything but the engagement ring...If it's a divorce, I keep all gifts of jewelry from him, he keeps all gifts of jewelry from me....
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Before or if marriage doesn't happen, I keep everything but the engagement ring...If it's a divorce, I keep all gifts of jewelry from him, he keeps all gifts of jewelry from me....  a gift is just that
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yeah gifts are gifts i melted mine, id have melted hers too but she wore them, sometimes wish id melted them anyway would have been a great guy faulks.
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yeah gifts are gifts i melted mine, id have melted hers too but she wore them, sometimes wish id melted them anyway would have been a great guy faulks. Haha...After that comment, I had to go look at your profile...Your way too young and way too cute to do jail time Searcher.... 
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yeah gifts are gifts i melted mine, id have melted hers too but she wore them, sometimes wish id melted them anyway would have been a great guy faulks. so what didja make with it when you melted it? I mean.... is that a service you offer? lol |
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Who cares when you buy out of the gumball machine like I do...
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I love jewelry.....
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I love jewelry..... And high heels! 
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I love jewelry..... And high heels!
Yes yes and yes..... 
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yeah gifts are gifts i melted mine, id have melted hers too but she wore them, sometimes wish id melted them anyway would have been a great guy faulks. Haha...After that comment, I had to go look at your profile...Your way too young and way too cute to do jail time Searcher....
D'oh born in the wrong time frame even soo a good thousand miles haha |
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yeah gifts are gifts i melted mine, id have melted hers too but she wore them, sometimes wish id melted them anyway would have been a great guy faulks. so what didja make with it when you melted it? I mean.... is that a service you offer? lol well you say that i am actually teaching myself or learning, made a couple of items so far.......but i still have a little ball of silver, since its still alittle sentimental i tought id add all the scrap i get till there is no sentiment left, sort of helps putting the blow tourch to it here n there haha |
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yeah gifts are gifts i melted mine, id have melted hers too but she wore them, sometimes wish id melted them anyway would have been a great guy faulks. so what didja make with it when you melted it? I mean.... is that a service you offer? lol well you say that i am actually teaching myself or learning, made a couple of items so far.......but i still have a little ball of silver, since its still alittle sentimental i tought id add all the scrap i get till there is no sentiment left, sort of helps putting the blow tourch to it here n there haha :) make it into something beautiful |
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yeah gifts are gifts i melted mine, id have melted hers too but she wore them, sometimes wish id melted them anyway would have been a great guy faulks. so what didja make with it when you melted it? I mean.... is that a service you offer? lol well you say that i am actually teaching myself or learning, made a couple of items so far.......but i still have a little ball of silver, since its still alittle sentimental i tought id add all the scrap i get till there is no sentiment left, sort of helps putting the blow tourch to it here n there haha :) make it into something beautiful Thats the plan for my daughter one of her birthdays maybe 
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It's up to the woman
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Hi everyone...
I'm tickled with all your answers... even No1's attempted robbery... Dodo's and Missy's comeback... and Journey's outwitting maneuver...  slick move girl ... 
... to be honest I wasn't expecting anyone to say they'd keep the engagement ring because of the long held tradition of those who believe it should be returned if the marriage doesn't take place. I personally feel that an engagement ring is simply an outward declaration of a man's level of intent, and once a woman accepts the wearing of it shows that she now intends to take their relationship to the next step with him. However, if the man changes his mind and breaks off the relationship I don't think he should get to take his original intent gift back. Likewise, if the woman breaks off their relationship because she doesn't want to take the engagement stage all the through to marriage, I don't think she should have to give the symbol of their engaged period back either. It's a very personal and possibly joyous event that takes place between two people and the ring can be a lasting memory for the woman, of the one that got away or just wasn't meant to be with her for whatever reason ultimately altered their path's direction. Please help me see all your reasons why the ring should be returned, if you don't mind... Motown brings up another good question entirely... one that didn't cross my mind when this topic popped into my head at work yesterday... What would everyone do if it was the guys great grandmothers or a family heirloom of some sort? Does the fact that the man didn't spend any money on it make it more valuable to him, and then it becomes mandatory for the woman to return it to his family? This seems more like a way to make sure he gets his jewelry back rather than a true giving of his heart to another. As for his class ring from Harvard, why would a man give this symbol of achievement away in the first place? And then take it back at a later date if he changes his mind? |
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If I end the relationship...I give it back. If he ends it..I keep it.
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heirlooms should'nt be given lightly anyway, so if i have given an heirloom and i end things its my tuff luck but if she end things then its get it back with or without the finger haha
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