Thank you guys for yr posts

Having grown up poor, but in a family where my dad worked, while my mom took care of us kids, I realize money isn't everything, and it is just a tool, a tool that when used wrongly can destroy a relationship, and a tool that when used correctly can strengthen a relationship as well.

that being said, here are my OPINIONS on money,

I'd like to make enough so my SO doesn't have to work outside the house unless she wants too.

If she chooses to stay home and not work, that is her choice, but I wouldn't want to be with someone that just sat around all day either, if they choose to do the housework/cooking than great, if not hopefully they are doing SOMETHING other than just shopping and spending money, i'm not going to support a lazy person, or someone's shopping habit.

If they choose to work, and contribute to the financial needs of the house, then great as well, in this situation I think it is important to keep money separate, with the exception of an extra 'community bank account' that is used for the sole purpose of bills(neither party has a debit card to the account).

Also in the above situation housework/cooking/etc should be shared as well, no fair if she is also working all day to expect her to come home and cook dinner every-night.


I don't think it is the amount of money that matters in a relationship, but rather how you handle the money in a relationship that matters, whether or not you have pennies, or millions, it is still a tool that needs to be used correctly

I love her for her Pink cadillac
oozing to her heat
feeling out of sight
spenpin' all my money on a Saturday night

I'm a pink Cadillac kinda guy.

I just want her to have a full life with ambition

If she chooses to stay home and not work, that is her choice, but I wouldn't want to be with someone that just sat around all day either, if they choose to do the housework/cooking than great, if not hopefully they are doing SOMETHING other than just shopping and spending money, i'm not going to support a lazy person, or someone's shopping habit.



Also in the above situation housework/cooking/etc should be shared as well, no fair if she is also working all day to expect her to come home and cook dinner every-night.


I don't think it is the amount of money that matters in a relationship, but rather how you handle the money in a relationship that matters, whether or not you have pennies, or millions, it is still a tool that needs to be used correctly quote
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I suppose the big worry is if you have money and material means and the other person doesn't; one might suspect they are dating you to get their hands on your stuff. There are lots of gold diggers out there; both male and female.

I fall in love with a ladies mind first..I agree with navygirl too! to add on that..Trust but verify!!!!! Hope this helps brother

Well my mind is made up. Money it is!

The jokester is here!

Wow thanks for sharing life experience. I would love to be husband number 1, a winner in life who is able to give the love of his life the life that she deserves. Husband number two if your testimony is correct, in opinion is a real loser. What kind of a man lives off his wife. If he was disabled and helped her out while she was bring home the bacon, that would be admirable, but to just quit to me that would be a loser. Unfortunately I am most likely like husband number 3, when younger I didn't embrace correction nor discipline and now I struggle to get by. Fortunately I have a decent job, with ability to work generous amounts of overtime if the chance of marriage came up. Nice thing about getting older is that you do grow up. The smart kids grew up in their teens and twenties. Bouncing off your life experience kind of illustrates my ambitions.

I don't think that's the case John .Not every one that does not have money is Obsessed. I don't have a lot of money,and I'm not Obsessed with it and I'm not looking for some one to take care of me,but the guy's i talk to,you better have money enough to satify them or your no good.

Isaac,WHY ARE YOU still single? I thought I was the only who thought that it shouldn't matter how much is contributed in the relationship as long as there is money coming in the house hold. and there should be one account for Bills and one for play. CAN I HAVE YOU? lol

Money is like love; it kills slowly and painfully the one who withholds it, and enlivens the other who turns it on his fellow man.
Kahlil Gibran

I'm not single, I've been with my gf going on six years now, i joined this site right after my divorce about 7 years ago and have made some cool friends here, so I hang out here and play in the forums still

while I'm not single I do appreciate the compliment

hope you find what you are searching for

Thanks And Glad you were found by someone

Comes with its share of awkwardness. If you're okay with that...

Sure. You have all the control. Just don't give away too much in the beginning or it will become the norm. Money = Sex. Sex = Money.

^ that's edging up to creepy


as far as money, I do not have that much extra $$$.

I think it should be kept separate in a relationship, especially if he has a lot more than me so there are no questions / accusations...it shouldn't be something that engenders a lot of negatives.

I dont even like to discuss money in a relationship .I made made more than him so naturally I paid the lions share, and he did what he could, and I knew be it the other way around he would of did the same.

yer I agree its whats on the inside of a person

depend on the situation...

if my date is gold digger, than i'll kick his butt to the curb.
if he doesn't have coins cause he choose to be a couch potato, then i'll kick his lazy butts to the street.

if he a hard working man, but circumstances not allowing him to have much, than that is fine for me, i'll keep him

but if it just like one time date to go on for lunch or coffee, it wouldn't bother me....accept if he eat $100 steak and expecting me to pay for it