On paper, he/she should be perfect for you.

You connect intellectually, you have commonalities coming out of your ears, you're in a similar field/profession - you can relate to him and him to you. You can talk and he understands.... but you a��re bored.

Bored of intellectualising on current events. Bored of having intelligent conversation where you try to sound witty and interesting when all want to talk about is the merits of Family Guy vs American Dad.

You have wine, when what you really want is a pint. He's Mr metro sexual and you want him to be less polished and dare to have a bit of dirt under his nails.

He's attentive and always asks how you're day has been...but you're bored. When really you shouldn't be...

Then find someone your not bored with. Problem solved.

shag his brains out.
every time he speaks..
problem solved..lmao..

^^^ Even better advice thank what i gave you. Forget what I said and do this!

And also add in some naked Twister. Spice is always nice.

I think this a description of mediocre for you. Not that i know you, but you should be thinking, there's just something about him?

You know when your shopping and you find something that seems really appealing. Until you try it on and it just isn't right? :(

And before anyone gets any big ideas about my analogy, it's from riding my motorbike through the mall and listening carefully for clues...

If either get bored then it's BS about being intellectually made in heaven

Why didn't I think of that

I never said that we are/were "intellectually made in heaven". I said intellectually compatible - of similar intellect.

Have someone talk to you about the virtues of surround sound one day and speaker distances and the best type of cables to use to get the best sound quality

If you're still unsure if it's possible, watch a couple of episodes of the Big Bang Theory or Youtube a few clips of Q.I

You've hit the nail...Very safe, very predictable. No surprises... Very beige

Cheatah, that's my game!

tell him you want to play hide and seek... tell him to count to 50.
you go to your bedroom take all your clothes off..
then go hide somewhere..
when he finds you..
you say""" surprise."""
now that you found me.. what would you like to do. with me... boredom problem..

SOLVED...

All these sex related games are all good ideas IF we were at the bedroom stage...but we are not which was the reason behind the thread in the first place.

On paper, he/she should be perfect for you.
Then you're in quite the predicament.

On some level you have to figure out if what's causing your "boredom" is nature or a cause of nurture.

I mean you could be "bored" with the "paper perfect" guy for several reasons.

Such as

- You don't really want a relationship. So no matter what you are going to find flaws to sabotage any relationship.

- He isn't sexually attractive to you, but he represents a valued social trophy.

- You are sexually attracted to him, but you've been trained to believe happiness and love, when "found," are perpetual things.
Like kids that need constant mental stimulus so get addicted to video games and the internet and can't sit still for more than 3 seconds without feeling pain and withdrawal.
So you think there must be something "wrong" since you aren't in a perpetual state of stimulation.

- His DNA may simply be too close a match to yours which means flipper kids and you can pick that up through a pheromone trail, so everything else is mr. perfect, but your mating brain is pushing you away.


Good luck with that.
You've got a lot of work ahead of you to sort it all out.

It's this



Although not by DNA. He's a pureblood in his ethnicity and I'm a pureblood in mine.

I think it's the fact that we are so similar and the predictability that's causing the boredom. I also think this is why I haven't moved things along. Why go forward if it's not going to work.

I am a planner and I need someone that is laid back and takes things in his stride and who can come up with ways that enable me to deviate from my planning

Life is boring cause you make it boring. Be the initiator & take charge your pursuit of happiness. If he/she doesn't feel the same, then leave. ;)

I know.. I sometimes need help ensure that I've explored all angles.

If "you" are bored, "you" must be a boring person...

Why is it always someone else's fault when people get bored or unhappy... Be responsible for yourself already...

What Honey said :)

P.S : Peter Griffin rocks in Family Guy!