Not so long ago, I attended the wedding of one of my oldest friends. Hands down, it was one of the best weddings that I have ever attended.

The couple (both in their mid/late 50's) looked great, the venue was fantastic, the food was good, the reception was so good, I sang myself hoarse and danced myself sober. It was great - fantastically tasteful and a real blending of two completely different people and mentalities.

Watching my friend walk down the isle made me really evaluate my views on marriage - I have my opinions about not being an older bride but I found that I am not as against it as I first thought.

What are your views on being an older bride/groom?

Theres nothing wrong with older marriages,if 2 people are in love
and thats what they want then why not.I'm 67 and still hoping to meet my soulmate and get married.

I didn't say that was something wrong with older marriages.

The post isn't about being pro or anti marriage, it was about a change of opinion for me. Changing from something that I felt strongly about to being on the fence with.

If I am fortunate enough to meet another soul mate, I'm in the maybe camp instead of the definitely no camp.

Good morning BBW!...Awesome OP from an awesome woman! ....As an older woman, I "naturally" have opinions about not being a bride again....I love what you describe as a beautiful wedding celebration by two people in love...One of the main reasons couples my age don't get married is because the federal government punishes us by reducing the social security benefits we worked a lifetime to earn...Even so, if it was something I felt would enhance the relationship, I would not hesitate....Today, marriage means different things to different people and can even mean something different to the two people contemplating tying the knot....I tend to keep an open mind to marrying again and will let my relationship dictate how "we" choose to express our commitment to each other....

Good morning Leigh you are an equally awesome lady.

Your "Masturbate, masturbate, masturbate" from the other day, had me in stitches


TBH, I hadn't thought about the government 'punishment' side of older marriage which would definitely give me food for thought...

You are absolutely right, marriage does mean different things to different people and views on marriage and the reasons for getting married later can sometimes change with age.

I would want marriage when I find the right one for me, how we would marry, civil or church ceremony and how big a wedding would need to be discussed, but I would prefer to be married.

Here in the UK more couples over 50/60 are marrying, there can be issues with inheritance and tax and some private pensions with the death of a common law partner.

My friend's wedding was a civil ceremony and as mentioned, it was absolutely gorgeous.

I think I would lean to something less formal like a civil rather than a church ceremony.



Hopefully my will should take care of any death benefits which I would want going to my children and not my partner/possible husband

Thoughts, views, feelings change as you get older. I don't think it stops.

This is true but sometimes you can feel so strongly about something that your views never change. Marriage was one of my fundamental don't does.

I have attended a few weddings but I haven't been moved by them before and although I haven't completely had a change of mind about it.

Let's just say that having seen my friend's relationship from the beginning and watching it evolve as it has, has led me to being more open to being persuaded than I was before