Do you ignore your instincts (especially the suspicious ones) in dating? How important is listening to your gut to giving someone your blind trust?

I don't ignore my instincts. I actually pay very close attention to them. I don't use blind trust, although I used to. Generally I start out with a blank slate and listen to what people have to say, ask a few questions, joke around and listen to what their sense of humour says about them. Political questions reveal things about their personality. How openly they are willing to communicate says a whole bunch. I don't just trust them because I think I like them, I keep listening for who they are and what they have to offer. If I like it I accept them, and if I don't I look elsewhere. It took a while, but I found a beautiful man that I'm falling deeply and sweetly in love with. Out of hundreds of profiles and offers, he is the only one, and I knew the others were not right without getting into any kind of relationship with them, just by listening to my intuition. So far so good

To me one should always follow their gut no matter whether it be in dating or every day life..Never ignore when something feels wrong...

Agreed!

Definitely not. If I think a guy is too effed up to be with, I'm normally right about it. I usually see his true colours later if not sooner. My instincts tell me he could be a snake, so best to just leave him do his thing. Especially if he's an angry type.

Giving the benefit of the doubt goes only so far with me. And my instincts have rarely been off key after having the cold blade of a knife pressed firmly against my throat while being told I had asked for it.

No, never

I let my instincts have full control,they have almost..never steered me wrong.


#Think Long....Think Wrong.

I felt this as you said it. All true.

Thanks guys for the responses, I always thought so too.

Can our gut hold us back? Are we sure it is truly our gut saying these things, or is it merely subconscious self -sabotage to keep us alone and in our current "comfort" zone?

Personally, I venture beyond my gut feelings and try to live life a little. I would hate to know I missed out on a few of the things I have experienced had I trusted my gut!

I listen to my gut feeling because when I have ignored it in the past, I got into trouble

Some trouble is fun though , right?

I"m usually 99.99999% wrong whenever I listen to my gut feeling.

I now do not listen to my gut, but I just look/and be aware of his actions. Actions speak louder to me, then any instinct or feeling I get.

My instincts have gotten me into trouble as well, but that's life. I have zero regrets over any actions I have taken because of my instincts.

What's fun for some may not be fun for someone else. Each person has the right to choose for themselves with no questions asked. JMHO

Do you speak for the person whom I quoted?

Why do you never seem to shed light to your own experience, yet still seem to have the answers for everyone?

Interesting....

I have but you have probably never read them. From my experience trouble is never fun because there is always a price tag attached to it.....it wasn't named "trouble" for nothing.

The "T" in Thomas = Trouble

It is my experience, there is also a price tag attached to "integrity "

Both are rewarding I think, trouble being instant reward with long term consequence and integrity being long term reward with life long gain

I think both are necessary.

Through my experience I CHOOSE the life long gain of integrity because at one point I chose the path of least resistance and had to endure the consequences so I learned to listen to my conscience or "instincts" which have a voice of wisdom for the betterment of MY OWN LIFE. Those were my choices and I am thankful every day for those choices I've made. JMHO

Inevitably, both were necessary to produce the wisdom behind the path you chose to take (integrity)?