Topic: Whats everyones take on one night stands?
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Mon 06/09/14 03:32 PM
Edited for disparagement of other members.

soufie
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no1phD's photo
Mon 06/09/14 03:43 PM
what's wrong with being a little animalistic.. letting go of yourself.
. I mean I'm not pointing this at you..
I'm just saying what is everyone so scared of.. you let loose you enjoy yourself.. or is it because it might be a sin..??

Dodo_David's photo
Mon 06/09/14 03:47 PM

what's wrong with being a little animalistic.. letting go of yourself.
. I mean I'm not pointing this at you..
I'm just saying what is everyone so scared of.. you let loose you enjoy yourself.. or is it because it might be a sin..??


People here personally opposed to one-night stands have already cited practical reasons for avoiding one-night stands, reasons having nothing to do with religion.

Why would you want a person to participate in a one-night stand if that person doesn't want to?

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Mon 06/09/14 03:48 PM
Edited by dcastelmissy on Mon 06/09/14 03:55 PM


. it has nothing to do with... love.. are wanting a relationship.... it is purely animalistic..


of course...this is precisely the reason those of us who dont have one night stands, dont have them. we arent looking to be animalistic. not telling you to be any different than what you are, just sayin I wont be any different either. Different strokes..



:thumbsup:

Everyone is entitled to choices, and each will need to accept the consequences, good or bad. I don't have to live the way other people choose to live and vice versa.

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Mon 06/09/14 03:50 PM
and here's a point.. for the most part when you're in a one night stand..
you don't really know its a one night stand.. I mean generally you don't say by the way this is the one time we're going to do this.. it just happens..
that has been my experience.. you don't plan it.... so the question might be.. are you easy.. do you tend to let your urges override your brain...
.. and that's we're !not using a condom falls in place... you get carried away.
let your needs override.. your practical self.. the self that says.. but I don't have a condom.. then your needs.say.. forget the condom....
..

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Mon 06/09/14 03:53 PM
Edited by Dodo_David on Mon 06/09/14 03:55 PM

and here's a point.. for the most part when you're in a one night stand..
you don't really know its a one night stand.. I mean generally you don't say by the way this is the one time we're going to do this.. it just happens..
that has been my experience.. you don't plan it.... so the question might be.. are you easy.. do you tend to let your urges override your brain...
.. and that's we're !not using a condom falls in place... you get carried away.
let your needs override.. your practical self.. the self that says.. but I don't have a condom.. then your needs.say.. forget the condom....
..


Ah, but is it really a need? or is it really just giving in to lust?

[I define "lust" as an emotion, and emotions are morally neutral.]

no photo
Mon 06/09/14 03:57 PM



what's wrong with being a little animalistic.. letting go of yourself.
. I mean I'm not pointing this at you..
I'm just saying what is everyone so scared of.. you let loose you enjoy yourself.. or is it because it might be a sin..??


People here personally opposed to one-night stands have already cited practical reasons for avoiding one-night stands, reasons having nothing to do with religion.

Why would you want a person to participate in a one-night stand if that person doesn't want to?
lots more anger and insult is being directed at people who dont care for one night stands than those who do. I guess they dont like the logical reasoning behind it so theyre trina make it about religion. Who knows why theyre so upset about alternate opinions.

its looking really schoolyard.

yep, whatever happened to the mingle i once knew

no1phD's photo
Mon 06/09/14 03:57 PM
because basically that is what a one night stand is.. it is the 4 feeling. of your needs. your desires. your lust.
or perhaps your abandonment issues.
are what other issues you may have.
. that allows you to. 4 go with the customary. getting to know each other better part..
.. generally. these people. including myself. have a compulsive nature.
.. they need for instant gratification.
.. it does not make it wrong..
it is just a different way of doing things.. I know a lot of friends.. of mine.. met their spouses.. by having a one night stand with them...
. go figure that out..

no photo
Mon 06/09/14 03:58 PM
Okay I only have one night stand in my bedroom.....tears
here's my ramble....
when I first joined mingle a one night stand is what I thought I wanted. I was at a dark point and didn't care about my morals and had no respect for myself. ( Not saying anyone who supports one night stands have no morals but speaking personally only. ) one night stands just aren't for me.... I'm very blessed to have met a great guy on here who reminded me of that. He talked to me and honestly kept me occupied mentally and emotionally... Otherwise I would have done some thing I would have regretted.

For me i say no thank you. Its just not me. Where as its fun to fantasize about it... I'd rather share myself that way with someone who respects, cares and loves me. You know have that connection or what ever...lol.

just my ramble...

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Mon 06/09/14 04:01 PM
Edited by kc0003 on Mon 06/09/14 04:03 PM






yep, whatever happened to the mingle i once knew


soufie discourages me from answering these questions, sorry. laugh

no photo
Mon 06/09/14 04:03 PM

Okay I only have one night stand in my bedroom.....tears
here's my ramble....
when I first joined mingle a one night stand is what I thought I wanted. I was at a dark point and didn't care about my morals and had no respect for myself. ( Not saying anyone who supports one night stands have no morals but speaking personally only. ) one night stands just aren't for me.... I'm very blessed to have met a great guy on here who reminded me of that. He talked to me and honestly kept me occupied mentally and emotionally... Otherwise I would have done some thing I would have regretted.

For me i say no thank you. Its just not me. Where as its fun to fantasize about it... I'd rather share myself that way with someone who respects, cares and loves me. You know have that connection or what ever...lol.

just my ramble...

at least yours is a sensible ramble, and honest

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Mon 06/09/14 04:03 PM



lots more anger and insult is being directed at people who dont care for one night stands than those who do. I guess they dont like the logical reasoning behind it so theyre trina make it about religion. Who knows why theyre so upset about alternate opinions.

its looking really schoolyard.

yep, whatever happened to the mingle i once knew
lol

right, its been at least an hour since this has happened


Apparently, Humans want their choice of behavior to be affirmed by others. So, if the affirmation doesn't happen, then some Humans resort to attacking those who don't give affirmation.

At least, that is how it looks from a Melmacian perspective.

no1phD's photo
Mon 06/09/14 04:03 PM
but at the end of the day. if you're for it. are against it.. you do what makes you feel good.. it is like being on a site.. that allows you to freely exchange information.. with other members of that site.. without being prejudged.. are ridiculed.. for having your opinion... that is what makes North America.. such a great place to be... other parts of the world.. we could be locked up for just talking about this...lol... hello everybody..flowerforyou happy :wink:

Dodo_David's photo
Mon 06/09/14 04:09 PM

but at the end of the day. if you're for it. are against it.. you do what makes you feel good.. it is like being on a site.. that allows you to freely exchange information.. with other members of that site.. without being prejudged.. are ridiculed.. for having your opinion... that is what makes North America.. such a great place to be... other parts of the world.. we could be locked up for just talking about this...lol... hello everybody..flowerforyou happy :wink:


This website is international, and some nations can actually block websites that their governments disapprove of. So, if you can participate here, then you have something to be thankful for.

no1phD's photo
Mon 06/09/14 04:11 PM


you don't say by the way this is the one time we're going to do this.. it just happens..
that has been my experience.. you don't plan it.... so the question might be.. are you easy.. do you tend to let your urges override your brain...
.. and that's we're !not using a condom falls in place... you get carried away.
let your needs override.. your practical self.. the self that says.. but I don't have a condom.. then your needs.say.. forget the condom....
..
its interesting that you think everyone functions that way. as someone who doesnt have one night stands, it has been my experience that it never just happens.

I have sex. just not with strangers. Im not interested in sex with a stranger, and honestly for me, that would not be an occasion to 'let go' anyway. I let go when Im with someone I trust.
..no.. I do not believe everyone functions this way.. this is my own personal opinion.. based on my experiences.. and the experiences of the people I know... I do not know you well enough to speak for you...
. but I appreciate what you have to say.. I respect your opinion.. There is obviously two sides to this coin.. you have one night stands.. and enjoy them.. are you don't.. and find those who do.. somehow . lacking of character.... are religious convictions..
. either way.. this is a very interesting topic...lol... a lot of points of view..
.. and it is all in good fun.. right..

no1phD's photo
Mon 06/09/14 04:11 PM



.. generally. these people. including myself. have a compulsive nature.
.. they need for instant gratification.
.. it does not make it wrong..
it is just a different way of doing things.. I know a lot of friends.. of mine.. met their spouses.. by having a one night stand with them...
. go figure that out..
Probably so. Some must be like that. Im just telling you....everyone is not.

It makes sense that you would be friends with people of a similar consistency.

dcastelmissy's photo
Mon 06/09/14 04:12 PM

but at the end of the day. if you're for it. are against it.. you do what makes you feel good.. it is like being on a site.. that allows you to freely exchange information.. with other members of that site.. without being prejudged.. are ridiculed.. for having your opinion... that is what makes North America.. such a great place to be... other parts of the world.. we could be locked up for just talking about this...lol... hello everybody..flowerforyou happy :wink:


Well evidently that's not the case in this thread because it was a full-fledged attack on and ridicule of people who chose to live a certain moral way. We never said they shouldn't live their lives the way they chose, we just stated the reasons why we wouldn't. JMHO

Dodo_David's photo
Mon 06/09/14 04:14 PM



you don't say by the way this is the one time we're going to do this.. it just happens..
that has been my experience.. you don't plan it.... so the question might be.. are you easy.. do you tend to let your urges override your brain...
.. and that's we're !not using a condom falls in place... you get carried away.
let your needs override.. your practical self.. the self that says.. but I don't have a condom.. then your needs.say.. forget the condom....
..
its interesting that you think everyone functions that way. as someone who doesnt have one night stands, it has been my experience that it never just happens.

I have sex. just not with strangers. Im not interested in sex with a stranger, and honestly for me, that would not be an occasion to 'let go' anyway. I let go when Im with someone I trust.
..no.. I do not believe everyone functions this way.. this is my own personal opinion.. based on my experiences.. and the experiences of the people I know... I do not know you well enough to speak for you...
. but I appreciate what you have to say.. I respect your opinion.. There is obviously two sides to this coin.. you have one night stands.. and enjoy them.. are you don't.. and find those who do.. somehow . lacking of character.... are religious convictions..
. either way.. this is a very interesting topic...lol... a lot of points of view..
.. and it is all in good fun.. right..


huh Nobody here that I know of has accused those approving of one-night stands of "lacking of character". Nobody here has cited "religious convictions" for being personally opposed to one-night stands.

no1phD's photo
Mon 06/09/14 04:15 PM
Klc.. try not to be so rude.
you know not of me and you know none of my friends.. keep your opinions.. of me. to yourself..ok

no1phD's photo
Mon 06/09/14 04:16 PM
really Dodo.. perhaps you might want to reread the thread.. this time with your eyes open.klc.. I did not say you.
I am talking in general.. I am talking to the topic.. you seem to be talking to me.. and I'd rather you would stop..ok..