If you are in a relationship and your b.f or g.f is online flirting and carrying on with others of the opposite sex and hiding it ..isnt that cheating? I think so. ( defense.. I never met them & have no intentions to meet them, its just for fun.)

I see nothing wrong in a bit of flirting as long as you dont follow it through,sometimes a bit of harmless fun can stimulate a relationship.

But if one is lying and trying to hide it. Isnt that cheating or just straight up sneaky?? Also ...is it any better using sneakiness to catch the b.f. , gf?? Total Trust Issues!!

Thats a different matter darling,to me that would seem they are not very happy and they need that extra bit of fun.As i said if your not following on then to me its harmless.Could be that little spaak of excitement is missing in the relationship.x

Thats true just trying to get opinions. Really just venting over a past experience I'm still a bit befunked with. Thanks Bill for your opinion

Your welcome Darling anytime,hope it helped.Take care.x

it is , being faithful to your partner is a result to a true love , and flirting around means you didn't find what you are looking for ( love ) with this partner

I agree, for me it is a form of cheating.

Those that go online just to have some harmless fun in the forums is one thing those that take it private to do the same might as well be cheating...

If they take it private they are taking that extra step they should not if they are with someone... It no longer becomes innocent and harmless...

in my opinion the honesty should be from both sides if they are searching for long relationship they should be totally clear even they do mistakes

Flirting is fine. Hiding is a different matter. What you do in the open is just between the two of you but if you are sneaking around ... you are a sneak!

EXACTLY

Girl I caught one I was with, taking it to private e-mails..... I sent his *** packing back to Alabama ..... Found out they had been talking about meeting....

I don't play those games life is way to short...I don't mind a little flirting with others in front of me. But you take it private and sneaking around ohh hell nooooo...

Exactly!! Whats even worse we just got back together to try & fix things and I caught him again. Actually by accident this tme I wasn't even trying to catch him. DONE!!

Im glad it happen though, think it was the straw that broke the camels back. Im not even sad about it this time.

I saw a story about this on Jeremy Kyle. Turned out that the guy hadn't actually met any of them and didn't seem to want to because he did love his wife and they were just having some problems and weren't having sex, so a way of dealing with his frustration I suppose and not telling the wife that he was doing it because he didn't see what he was doing as wrong but knew that if she found out it would make their problems worse and she just might drag him onto the Jeremy Kyle show to do a lie detector test.

I don't know. Some women would consider a guy using porn to be about as bad. I think that keeping secrets and not communicating isn't good and neither is doing shifty things because that's very likely to arouse suspicions and relationships don't work without trust.

^^^^^Agree with Kristi . Once you start trying to hide stuff from your partner then it becomes a form of mental cheating. Which we usually know will lead to full on cheating on the relationship.

So true.... communication is the key... If you have to lie to the one your with then the trust & respect is just not there.... Time to move on...

Hmm. this is a really good question OP... now. is watching porn cheating.
. is reading a romance novel cheating.
and a lot of you women read a lot of those..lol.. I think talking online with strangers.. is fine nothing wrong with it.. this is a social site.. and most the conversations are of a non sexual .nature.
. now if he is sex chatting...hmm... now even that can be harmless.
. it is a fantasy we all have them everyday.. when you masturbate you fantasize about your partner or some fictional partner..
. this is the world we live in.. a world of instant communication.
. everything you desire is at your fingertips... I think a better question is. why aren't his desires focused on you..hmm..
. try to ask him if you can join in with him..
. who knows you might meet your own friend..

as a rule, if your partner thinks it is cheating, it is.

if you feel you have to hide it, it is.

people view behavior differently. people's tolerances within a relationship vary quite widely, so the perception of cheating is not the same for everyone.

... well I said sex chatting.
. not skyping or webcamming.. I mean that's okay if that's your thing..
. but I am talking strictly of a written format... letting your mind. paint the visual... if you're out there webcamming in skyping..
. and performing free freak shows.
. then yes you might have a little problem.. but then again the person doing. the web camming in a relationship.. obviously needs. something they are not getting from there partner.. it is not a one way street... and if you think it is you're delusional... often a relationship breaks up.. because one partner is not receiving something from the other partner... it is just easier not to look within yourself.. and see if you perhaps can change... just my opinion..