Topic: Chivalrous or chauvinist
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Mon 05/26/14 10:39 PM
I have old fashioned beliefs, where a man's place is to work a job, hell three if necessary, and a woman should run the home. Now I'm not saying women can't do just as good as job as men, they are just smarter and better organised than men, and can run the house much better than men can. Do my beliefs make me chauvinist?

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Mon 05/26/14 10:53 PM

I have old fashioned beliefs, where a man's place is to work a job, hell three if necessary, and a woman should run the home. Now I'm not saying women can't do just as good as job as men, they are just smarter and better organised than men, and can run the house much better than men can. Do my beliefs make me chauvinist?


Well it does make you someone that hasn't been married to a chick that can't cook or clean.....smokin

dreamerana's photo
Mon 05/26/14 10:56 PM
It would depend on the other values attached to the statement.
With what's going on with families breaking up, there are some who are returning to a more traditional ideal of one partner staying in the home.
It might be difficult finding what you seek because your profile states that you are seeking a beautiful smart woman more organized than you.
That may be the type of woman who wants to shine in her career.
Like I always say, though, there is a special someone out there for all of us.

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Mon 05/26/14 11:07 PM

I have old fashioned beliefs, where a man's place is to work a job, hell three if necessary, and a woman should run the home. Now I'm not saying women can't do just as good as job as men, they are just smarter and better organised than men, and can run the house much better than men can. Do my beliefs make me chauvinist?




lets see, in most modern conversations chauvanist means :

an attitude that the members of your own sex are always better than those of the opposite sex


so , it doesnt seem to me that just the belief that women or men may be better at SOME Things fits the definition of believing they are ALWAYS better


I would consider it old fashioned but not chauvanist,,,,

but others may believe that simply believing in gender roles at all is chauvanist,,,

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Mon 05/26/14 11:08 PM

That may be the type of woman who wants to shine in her career.



This could be true. I once dated a stripper. I'm sorry an exotic dancer and she was so dedicated to her craft she had a pole installed in her living room. She just wanted to shine. Good times....smokin

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Mon 05/26/14 11:11 PM
I do not think being practical makes you a chauvinist.

But I also think you should not expect to dictate
someone else's life.

Beachfarmer's photo
Mon 05/26/14 11:30 PM
I think Neil Young had it wrong. I clean and cook well, and am not in need of a maid......wouldn't mind a nutritionist accountant though....with whom I will open every door when my hands are free and stand up when she approaches the table.

That's just me and that's just that.

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Mon 05/26/14 11:33 PM

That may be the type of woman who wants to shine in her career.
Like I always say, though, there is a special someone out there for all of us.

Sadly for me, this paradox is true.

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Tue 05/27/14 12:00 AM


That may be the type of woman who wants to shine in her career.
Like I always say, though, there is a special someone out there for all of us.

Sadly for me, this paradox is true.

Don't give up hope. Believe that miracles happen and dreams can come true.flowerforyou

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Tue 05/27/14 01:15 AM
:smile: In my opinion you need only One job to work. If you need to work 2 or 3 then you are either (living above your means) or in an expensive area you need not be! And you won't have the energy to show her the affection that's required for a Good Relationship! As for the Lady being in the home and not working, Did you ever try it? Its harder than you think especially with children! Especially if you act like one as well! I see on one about her cooking, There is a remedy also for that! Get her to the kitchen and (show her how to) and Help! Good things can happen in a kitchen (with an imagination). This ( Me Man you Woman)deal won't last!! My daughter says the worst kid she has (she is married to)! But again her husband works at night sometimes! (alternating shifts) He is a Prison Guard.
Marriage is a job that if you are not Both willing to work for it then ( Your Fired) sooner or later!! Add a whole lot of spice, With a Hell of a lot of Nice helps!!flowerforyou

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Tue 05/27/14 01:21 AM
This is unfortunately the misunderstanding I run into in my belief, I think running a household is way more difficult than working a 9 to 5 job. I think women are way more intelligent than men, which means they can handle the completely of running a household much better than men.

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Tue 05/27/14 01:36 AM

Chivalrous or chauvinist


1)(a)Having the qualities of chivalry, as courage, courtesy, and loyalty.(b)Considerate and courteous to women; gallant.(c)Gracious and honorable toward an enemy, especially a defeated one, and toward the weak or poor.

2. A male who patronizes, disparages, or otherwise denigrates females in the belief that they are inferior to males and thus deserving of less than equal treatment or benefit.


I have old fashioned beliefs, where a man's place is to work a job, hell three if necessary, and a woman should run the home.

Now I'm not saying women can't do just as good as job as men, they are just smarter and better organised than men, and can run the house much better than men can.

Do my beliefs make me chauvinist?


First of all, it is rare these days to hear a man admit that he prefers the ways of yesteryear when men worked outside the home and women worked at home.

Running a home is laborious work from sunup to sundown 7 days a week depending on the size of the home and family. As well as the yard work, washing vehicles... etc

If the work is not done by paid others or shared by family members it is done probably free of charge by the woman of the house and may go under-appreciated by the occupants that take it for granted thinking there's not much to keeping a house clean and well organized 24/7.

It has been my personal experience that because it has always been the woman's place to tend to the home and men were not groomed to do it themselves that when they are grown and on their own their bachelor pads might resemble a war zone rather than a comfortably neat home.

Of course there are exceptions to every rule and men can be immaculate housekeepers as well as cooks, and I for one very much enjoy a man who is well rounded enough to share in the repetitive and mundane chores necessary to keep a home running smoothly.

According to the definitions you are not a chauvinist simply for desiring to be the sole bread winner while your woman keeps the house organized and awaiting your anticipated arrival with a hot meal and a warm heart. :wink:

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Tue 05/27/14 01:39 AM
Living off other people male or female doesn't make you a man. Quite the opposite in fact.

Try picking up after yourself to learn how to live independently you infant. Be a man. Not the role you invented for yourself and others to compensate for the fact you just can't be bothered growing the f'k up.

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Tue 05/27/14 01:50 AM
Edited by dorfgoesfishing on Tue 05/27/14 01:59 AM

Living off other people male or female doesn't make you a man. Quite the opposite in fact.

Try picking up after yourself to learn how to live independently you infant. Be a man. Not the role you invented for yourself and others to compensate for the fact you just can't be bothered growing the f'k up.

You are correct, running a household is a very thankless and necessary job with no pay. I believe women are much more intelligent and see the importants of this thankless job.

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Tue 05/27/14 07:49 AM
Actually I'm just surprised at your age that is what you would like to have within a woman....

We are all different and have those things we want it does not make us wrong for wanting them or believing in the way we do.

Problem is many of the younger women do not cook nor believe in life that way...

Even at my age I don't believe in a woman running the house while the man works..

Myself I feel that both parties should share in all the housework, yard work and cooking as well as both working.....

But if you look long enough you will find those that believe the same way you do....good luck on your search...

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Tue 05/27/14 08:42 AM

I have old fashioned beliefs, where a man's place is to work a job, hell three if necessary, and a woman should run the home. Now I'm not saying women can't do just as good as job as men, they are just smarter and better organised than men, and can run the house much better than men can. Do my beliefs make me chauvinist?


It looks to me like you just don't want to participate in doing housework. laugh

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Tue 05/27/14 08:53 AM

I have old fashioned beliefs, where a man's place is to work a job, hell three if necessary, and a woman should run the home. Now I'm not saying women can't do just as good as job as men, they are just smarter and better organised than men, and can run the house much better than men can. Do my beliefs make me chauvinist?



now what i feel if the man
states they feel
the woman should be in the home
making there meals barfoot and pregant
thats work still but yet there not providing
there own wage.
but the man is very much highly chauvinlist


my parents were selfemployed for 21yrs
and when my mom wanted to go to work
she gave my dad a choice adopt 4boys or work
he said work