The idea of soulmate has always kind of stumped me.

Is it that people have ONE and only ONE soulmate? or can people have many soulmates?

is it only romance, or can it be friendship or family relationship?

if a 'soulmate' is promised to someone already,, but they don't seem 'happy', does that justify pursuing them? Would it not be better to leave them alone and enjoy one of the many other 'soulmates' we might encounter in life?


I watched a show, cant remember the name now, where a girl felt totally justified starting a relationship with a married man because she said from the moment their eyes met she knew they were soulmates and (in the movie, at leas) the 'soulmates' seemed to end up happy together after he finally divorced his wife.


I just wonder what others think of the concept of 'soulmates'....

.. yes personally I never understood the terms soulmate..
. it would apply that your souls . where to mate.
I prefer kindred spirit.. two people of the same mind...
.. have the same sense of humor. can almost since what the other person is thinking..
.. feel a connection with the other person. I have met a few women like this.. and often thought.. how would my life be different if met them before my wife..hmm..
. I still think of them today.. the relationship comes so easily. it is like picking up a conversation with an old friend. easy..

The term soul mate is derived from Greek mythology. Need anything more be said?

I don't know. It's something that I've thought about. My ex girlfriend said sometimes that she thought that we must have met for a reason. We're just friends now but it's like she's the only woman in the world that really understands me, apart from maybe my mother. I think of her as being a free spirit and that was both what I liked about her and why she wouldn't settle down with me. The last woman that I got involved with was like that as well. Suppose that I do recognise a kindred spirit in women like that. I try to tell myself that what I had with them was special and on a different sort of level, if you like, from the guy that they maybe settle down with and have a more normal or mundane sort of relationship with.

I think it's when you have a strong connection and can express yourself and hold nothing back without fear of rejection. You give unconditional love. You accept his weakness and give your whole heart. Fights and misunderstandings don't change your feelings. When you spend time with him just simply conversations time stops you feel like you could go on forever and you never get bored. I think we all have one soul mate it's just finding him and making it work

Not really the right forum for this question. It's been addressed before and there seems to be little understanding or interest in it. More something for a spiritual forum.
Most ppl don't even know what a soulmate is.

To answer the questions: no, yes, both, no, yes.

Soulmates work sort of like what PKH describes.
How I feel about it: hope to be so lucky to find my Twin Flame. Twin Ray is unlikely as this hardly ever happens yet. So Twin Flame would be great

I think it is a lot like this.
I have only felt this once in my lifetime.
The deep connection that is felt.
One like you have never felt before.
Where you are not afraid to open up to him.
When you can and do show him who you are, regardless of the outcome.

lovely outlook

if i didn't have you...Tim Minchin... http://youtu.be/Gaid72fqzNE

this video sums it up pretty well. (yes, it's clean)


Yeah, yeah...
If I didn't have you

If I didn't have you to hold me tight
[If I didn't have you]
If I didn't have you to lie with at night
[When I'm feeling blue]
If I didn't have you to share my sighs
[Share my sighs]
And to kiss me and dry my tears when I cry

Well I, really think that I would
Have somebody else

If I didn't have you
Someone else would do

Your love is one in a million
[One in a million]
You couldn't buy it at any price
[Can't buy love]

But of the 9 point 9 9 9 hundred thousand other possible loves
Statistically some of them would be equally nice
[Equally nice]

Or maybe not as nice but say, smarter than you
Or dumber but better at sport or... tracing

I'm just saying I
[I really think that I would]
Probably
[Have somebody else]
If I didn't have you
If I didn't have you someone else would do...yeah
[Someone else would surely do]

And look, I'm not undervaluing what we've got when I say
That given the role chaos inevitably plays in the inherently flawed notion of fate
It's abstruse to deduce that I've found my soulmate at the age of 17
It's just mathematically unlikely that at a university in Perth
I happened to stumble on the one girl on earth specifically designed for me

And if I may conjecture a further objection
Love is nothing to do with destined perfection
The connection is strengthened
The affection simply grows over time

Like a flower
Or a mushroom
Or a guinea pig
Or a vine
Or a sponge
Or bigotry
...or a banana

And love is made more powerful by the ongoing drama of shared experience and synergy
And symbiotic empathy or something...

So I trust it goes without saying
That I would feel really very sad
If tomorrow you were to fall off something high
Or catch something bad

But I'm just saying
I don't think you're special
I mean/I mean... I think you're special
But, you fall within a bell curve

I mean, I'm/I'm just saying I
[Think that I would]
Probably
[Have somebody else]

I mean I reckon it's pretty likely that if for example
My first girlfriend Jackie hadn't dumped me
After I kissed Winston's ex girlfriend Neah at Stephs party back in 1993

Enough variables would probably have been altered by the absence of that event
To have meant the advent of a tangential narrative in which we don't meet

Which is to say there exists a theoretical
Hypothetical parallel life
Where what is is not as it is
And I am not your husband and you are not my wife

And I am a stuntman living in LA
Married to a small bum Portuguese skier
Who when she's not training
Does abstract painting
Practices yoga
And brews her own beer

And really likes making home movies
And suffers neck down alopecia

But with all my heart and all my mind I know one thing is true
I have just one life and just one love and my love that love is you
And if it wasn't for you
Baby...
[I really think that I would]
Probably
[Have somebody else]
Yeah

[If I didn't have you]
If I didn't have you do do do
[Someone else would do]
Someone else would surely do...do...do

For me I've found there are many soulmates and it is always a delight to meet one.

I agree with No1PhD, which makes us kindred spirits, but not in a homosexual kind of way (not that there's anything wrong with that!).

Personally, this expression grates on my nerves. People looking for a soul mate are looking for someone that "accepts them as they are" while fitting a precast mold of conditions. And under THOSE terms they will love them unconditionally??? A guy with some income that won't black your eye isn't enough anymore? Nope.

Soul mates oddly have to meet physical requirements. Might be the reason people can't fined them - they are looking at bodies and not souls (said the fat man).

The "soul mate" concept is the creation of the makers of chick flicks and the authors of chick novels.