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Topic: Why cant women approach men for a change?
TawtStrat Joined Fri 11/16/12 Posts: 3581	Thu 05/01/14 01:57 AM
I'd like to know where I can find these women who approach men first. I think that women are more likely to aproach men just to be friendly, rather than it being a "first move" romantic or sexual thing than men do that with women. Maybe that's just me but I've had it happening loads of times when they apparently just wanted a chat and nothing more and I don't think that men do that so much.

Leigh2154 Joined Sun 10/02/11 Posts: 16479	Thu 05/01/14 02:15 AM
I'd like to know where I can find these women who approach men first. I think that women are more likely to aproach men just to be friendly, rather than it being a "first move" romantic or sexual thing than men do that with women. Maybe that's just me but I've had it happening loads of times when they apparently just wanted a chat and nothing more and I don't think that men do that so much. I think ^this is a very valid point...I am one of those women TS...Men often confuse friendliness and sexual attraction...It's probably because they have no desire to be "just" friends...We have to convince them we are buddy worthy before they will even consider FWNB (friends with no benefits)...

4evababy Joined Tue 02/26/13 Posts: 9258	Thu 05/01/14 03:08 AM
I'd like to know where I can find these women who approach men first. I think that women are more likely to aproach men just to be friendly, rather than it being a "first move" romantic or sexual thing than men do that with women. Maybe that's just me but I've had it happening loads of times when they apparently just wanted a chat and nothing more and I don't think that men do that so much. Haha I've approached a man at a teller machine lol got his number and all but never used it, just wanted to see if I had the power lol

Beavis31 Joined Sat 07/07/07 Posts: 542	Thu 05/01/14 03:16 AM
Turn gay... women luv gay men lol

countrylicious Joined Mon 04/21/14 Posts: 19	Thu 05/01/14 05:06 AM
Pull up your big boy britches & approach them.

midnite40 Joined Thu 05/01/14 Posts: 2	Thu 05/01/14 06:11 AM
I always talk to men first ,because a guy I used to know told me that a lot of men are scared of rejection and I find that when I speak to a man first it takes the pressure off of the man and then the conversation keeps going .

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Thu 05/01/14 06:44 AM
Like I said before, I am terribly shy and all the women i ever met from chat sites got issues.. I am so shy that i cant just approach a woman i see sitting by herself next to whole foods.. sighs.. sorry about the whining again but i cant take it anymore.. i dont know what to do learn to man up....if u don;t you will be in the same place u are in now at this time next year.....and the next..... some women do approach men but there are a lot who do not most likely for cultural reasons so by refusing to do so you really limit your prospects

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Thu 05/01/14 06:49 AM
I'd like to know where I can find these women who approach men first. I think that women are more likely to aproach men just to be friendly, rather than it being a "first move" romantic or sexual thing than men do that with women. Maybe that's just me but I've had it happening loads of times when they apparently just wanted a chat and nothing more and I don't think that men do that so much. I think ^this is a very valid point...I am one of those women TS...Men often confuse friendliness and sexual attraction...It's probably because they have no desire to be "just" friends...We have to convince them we are buddy worthy before they will even consider FWNB (friends with no benefits)... totally agree....many times I have said just because I LOOKED and him and said "hello" does not mean I am wanting to get laid....good grief I know a few men who seem to get that but it is a learning process. As far as what Tawt said I basically agree. The thing he is missing though is that those women may well have been interested romantically but operate on a different level. the women may not have let that on right away and approached to chat to see if he'd "pick up the ball.' We can be difficult to read sometimes lol

TawtStrat Joined Fri 11/16/12 Posts: 3581	Thu 05/01/14 08:45 AM
I'd like to know where I can find these women who approach men first. I think that women are more likely to aproach men just to be friendly, rather than it being a "first move" romantic or sexual thing than men do that with women. Maybe that's just me but I've had it happening loads of times when they apparently just wanted a chat and nothing more and I don't think that men do that so much. I think ^this is a very valid point...I am one of those women TS...Men often confuse friendliness and sexual attraction...It's probably because they have no desire to be "just" friends...We have to convince them we are buddy worthy before they will even consider FWNB (friends with no benefits)... totally agree....many times I have said just because I LOOKED and him and said "hello" does not mean I am wanting to get laid....good grief I know a few men who seem to get that but it is a learning process. As far as what Tawt said I basically agree. The thing he is missing though is that those women may well have been interested romantically but operate on a different level. the women may not have let that on right away and approached to chat to see if he'd "pick up the ball.' We can be difficult to read sometimes lol Yeah, that's true. Was going to say as well that it's probably easier for women to turn guys down when they do actually come on to you but maybe that's just me again.

teebee79 Joined Wed 11/07/12 Posts: 2179	Thu 05/01/14 10:38 AM
I use to... but not anymore! I'm going back to old skool! You want to know me.... You say Hello what's your name! we talk... after a few conversations... you ask me out... THEN we go on a date! YOU PAY.... If he is truly into me... this will keep him interested, and We will both enjoy the courtship!

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48948	Thu 05/01/14 10:42 AM
I use to... but not anymore! I'm going back to old skool! You want to know me.... You say Hello what's your name! we talk... after a few conversations... you ask me out... THEN we go on a date! YOU PAY.... If he is truly into me... this will keep him interested, and We will both enjoy the courtship! Do you pay for the second date?

teebee79 Joined Wed 11/07/12 Posts: 2179	Thu 05/01/14 11:18 AM
I use to... but not anymore! I'm going back to old skool! You want to know me.... You say Hello what's your name! we talk... after a few conversations... you ask me out... THEN we go on a date! YOU PAY.... If he is truly into me... this will keep him interested, and We will both enjoy the courtship! Do you pay for the second date? Noooooope.... all dates are sponsered by the man, unless I am " officially" his girl.... THEN, I pay sometimes!