Has Internet dating made us too picky?

I don't know if it has made us too picky or not, but I do know I have never had so many men want to e-mail pictures of thier privates, or ask me to show them mine in my entire life. It certainly is an eye opening adventure into the depravity of man I know that. It also has made me realize what I do not want.

Internet dating is the closest thing to dating I've ever had. Not that I've had a lot of that either, mostly I am friends with the ladies I talk to as I get to know them and see it it becomes something more with time.

Yes, I think it has, but that's not necessarily a bad thing just as it's not a good thing either.

I look at internet dating like going to the grocery store. Most of us have at least an idea of what we want before we get into the store, maybe it's a list, maybe it's just in our heads, but we have an idea. Once inside the store you get your basket, walk around the aisles, check out all of the products and pick the one that catches your eye, or your comfortable with, or fits that particular need on that particular day. That's why it's not a bad thing.

Why is it not a good thing either? Well, how many of us really know what we NEED in a relationship, not just what we want. I think all of us want someone who is nice, attractive, stable, reasonably sane and who we're compatable with on an emotional level. But is that what we need, and is that what we really want and in what order? I honestly believe, as wonderful as those things are, a person NEEDS to be challenged by their partner intellectually and emotionally. A partner NEEDS to be able to inspire you, humble you, and have a sense of themselves and it's hard to judge that based on a picture or two, and a hundred written words, so we probably miss out on some of our best matches.

Anyway, that's what I think and that and about $4 will get you a cup of coffee at Starbucks.

One more thing, Pkitty I understand completely the frustration with all of the on-line propositions and I apologize for the idiots that send them out. Those guys (and gals) make it difficult for other people to be taken seriously and it deters decent people from meeting others.

Very well said tloutn.

^agreed

I don't know about too picky, but I think it broadens one's ability to comprehend the scope of what's out there. Meeting people through friends, etc., in real life, you're dealing with a few, at the most, at any given time. These sites give you access to basic (and not even always real) information about thousands of people at once.

The biggest surprise has been the sheer number of people (on this, and every other site I've tried) who are just completely unsuitable for me. Real life has been a totally different experience, probably because, in the past, I generally met people through friends, so there was a sort of a "screening process." I assumed that they would probably not try to hook me up with an axe murderer, for example.

In a venue like this, though, there is no "screening" whatsoever, so the mismatches are just as visible as the matches.

If I'm picky at all (I prefer the term "selective" because it's longer and has a "v" in it), it's because I was leaning in that direction even before I ever tried a dating site. But I tried two relationships last year with people I met on other sites, and those REALLY made me take a step back and reevaluate my wants and don't-wants and deal-breakers. So, technically, I would say those two people increased my pickiosity more than "internet dating," per se.

No- I just think it has given us more option's...

i rather be able to know what a person feels about topics than just trying to make conversation about crap they might not like

I'm just naturally picky...lol, not because of the internet. I have been in relationships, and being treated how I didn't want to be treated helped me narrow down to what I DEMAND of how to be treated. I have my physical 'type' that i tend to go for, but that has nothing to do with the internet, I've liked that type since I was 5... my first "boyfriend" was tall(er than me) and blond with blue eyes. So has been EVERY guy I've dated.