My ex is a SCAREY classic case of a SOCIOPATH...
The predatory stare, the over inflated ego, lies on top of lies, when there is no need to lie??
charm and chrisma, A HUGE sense of entitlement and the topper... the ability to cry to make others feel bad for him!

I'm still dealing with getting him out of my life because he calls and leaves threatening messages EVERY DAY! then, in the SAME message..
Asks me to take him back!

When I was 1st trying to figure out what was wrong with him...All of the websites and books on the subject would end with " Not everyone with a few of these signs are sociopaths, only a trained therapist can diagnose this"

This is what confused me and I didn't GET OUT sooner!
I'm sorry, those sites and books are wrong....
When you have been touched by a sociopath, you sure as Hell know it!

uh huh...agreed.

Right! I say GET OUT on mere suspicion of being one !

Very scary be careful

Your experience is horrific and you are still not done so it might help to speak to a counselor and work through this experience. Its faster to get help rather than going it alone too. Best to you of course..

Yes.. it is! Thank you

I have heard this and honestly I brushed it off at first.

Now, I'm starting to rethink.. I feel" sort of" like my old self, but Not quite.

I'm done with " dating" but I think it's more because
I see " Sociopath" regardless of what the poor guy says.

I feel for you!...Been there, done that...It is very scary...You might want to check with your phone service provider to see if they can track and ultimately block his calls...Also, it wouldn't hurt to report the harassment to the police....

Thanks Leigh!!
The police know ALL about him, here, in NJ and Texas!

honestly, I get a vibe from them that they don't care unless he physically hurts me!

Gee. When I first saw the title for this thread I thought it was going to be about me. But since I haven't gone out with you I guess it's not.

I agree with Leigh. You should call the police to report his crazy butt. He sure doesn't sound like he has a firm grip on reality. Threatening you through the first part of the call and then asking you to take him back. Maybe he got that kind of thing from his mom growing up.

Like I've mentioned... I am slowly getting back to my cheerful personality but not quite.

And this is gonna sound so jacked up, but if you have ever had a TRUE sociopath in your life, you'll understand.

I feel safer when he's cursing me out and calling me names on the phone, because him calm is alot worse.

Don't take this wrong TeeBee, but I think some counselling would be very good idea. You've been through, and sounds like you are still going through, an EXTREME stress. This can lead to PTSD, the same as being in a war zone. This actually physically changes your brain; it is not something you can just "get over". I am a behavioral neurobiolgist, so I'm not talking out of my a**. Of course, I don’t know you, but from what I read, you seem like a good person, I’m concerned for your mental welfare, not mention your physical wellbeing. Be safe.

Izzy, I hope this isn't like you

His parent's seemed normal, but who knows what life was like when he was a kid! There are 7 of them... he has 5 brothers 1 sister

Thanks NorCal.. not taking it offense at all. I agree, I do need counseling.
3 or 4 months ago, I wouldn't have agreed.. I thought I just missed him!.... but over time, away from him.. Along with the threats and insults.
Oh yeah, I can feel the difference! and that's saying alot because I felt perfectly fine at the time, I broke up with him.

.........A. P..D.......
.. anti social
.. personality
.. disorder..
. did he ever show real concerned for you..
. was he ever generally remorseful . for any of his actions.
.. did he. show any empathy towards. you.
. overly paranoid at all.
.... the list goes on and on... it's quite common... some more so than others... you're away from him now I hope... remember its a condition.. out of your control... not something you should . ever feel that you brought on yourself....phD.

When I mean a classic case, I mean CLASSIC
I can give examples for each sign he showed!
Zero empathy, I was hours late meeting him... he called, I told him there was an accident on the road.. He blankly says" You still coming or what" No, OMG.. were you in it? Are you ok? Nothing
Woman at MCdonalds gave him cold fries.. called her everything in the book.. he was po'd!!!
1st time we broke up... after 3 weeks of dating, He cried and said " I don't want to live if you aren't with me"
ALL of his brothers called me, asking why their brother was threatening suicide!

.. he should seek professional help.
. and boys and girls out there
.. remember this is a public thread.. no advice. should be taken literally. before checking with a real.. off-site professional.. okay that should cover me..

While I do admit to being somewhat emotionally detached to people which is more of a defense system. I do feel empathy for others which is one thing psycho and sociopaths can't do.

As to his parent's. Lots of people maybe evil in private and hide it to outsiders. I would consider looking at his siblings.If any of them seem to have the same characteristics or are screwed up badly or not. Not all of them will be messed up. But if one or both of the parents were abusive then chances are more then one is going to have problems.

Very well said.

Yes.. you are covered.

Seeking professional help is ALWAYS great advice.