what would u do if ur partners parent dies and asks for a break? plus tell u they cant be with anybody but they have time for there family n they did this through a text. But they still chat with u days later.

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I can understand spending time with family

I would give them the break they requested.

They are still texting you and keeping in touch,that's a plus.

that is a plus that they are responding to me! n they want a massage n im like when n they are like "i dunno soon" i hope they come around n wanna be back with me!

I'm sure they will...sounds like it, just give them space.

I know when I am in deep pain, physical or emotional, I tend to withdraw. Especially from people I deeply care about. It isn't to abandon them, but more to just get my bearings, so they don't suffer from me reacting rather than acting.

Two thoughts come to mind from experience.

First is when I am sometimes in excruciating pain, because of a medical condition I have to withdraw from love ones. When it was really bad I go to the hospital and leave my children, and when he was alive, my spouse, behind. Why? Because it did them more harm to them to stand helplessly by, impotent, listening to my screams and I had all I could cope with without suffering for seeing them suffer also. At least at home they were comfortable and safe and not fighting nurses/doctors to do what they really could not do a lot about. Shy of killing me out right with an overdose. Not exactly the option I was looking for. lol

Second was a developing relationship, that by the way I really cared about, that went down in flames when I came to California to see my Dad for the first time in 46 years. It was kind of a sudden thing; he had just told me he was released from the hospital for cancer surgery. My ticket was open ended when I left because I was not sure if I would even stay the four days I had agreed to.

But this guy was all pissy because his feelings were hurt that I didn't bring him to make it a hotel get away for us as a "couple" and take it to the next level. And he pouted when I tried to call and even tell him the details. Needless to say after a couple of attempts to talk it out I was stressed out enough by my Dad's needs, and I quit calling. When I went back to pack out my house four months later I had cried it out. Had he been cool about it I would probably packed my Dad up and taken him back to Atlanta. Since I was still up for raising kids and like his
likely I would have parked my Dad in my place, eventually married him moved in with him.